Episodes

  • Matchmaker Secrets: 5 Red Flags & 5 Green Flags for Real Love

    Matchmaker Secrets: 5 Red Flags & 5 Green Flags for Real Love
    Sep 26 2025
    🚩 Are you looking so hard for red flags that you're missing the green ones? 💚
    Learn 5 must-know red flags (like love bombing 🚨) and 5 green flags (like curiosity & respecting boundaries ✅).

    If you’ve ever wondered “Am I missing the warning signs?” or “What should I actually look for in a partner?” Whitney Kobrin and Anastacia Walden are both former Matchmakers and current Love Coaches with Three Day Rule Matchmaking. This episode will give you clarity and confidence to date more effectively, and have more fun in the process!

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    💖 Listen to learn 💖
    - Protecting yourself is important, but don't miss out on connection.
    - Red flags are potential problems to watch for in relationships.
    - Curiosity can help combat judgment in dating.
    - It's crucial to communicate effectively in relationships.
    - Vulnerability facilitates deeper connections with partners.
    - Avoid discussing exes on first dates to keep the focus on the present.
    - Healthy relationships require mutual respect for boundaries.
    - Matchmaking can provide valuable support in finding a partner.
    - Humor can help diffuse uncomfortable situations during dates.
    - Having a life outside of the relationship is essential for both partners.

    💖 Sound Bites 💖
    "Protecting yourself is important."
    "Red flags are potential problems."
    "Curiosity is the antidote to judgment."

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    37 mins
  • The World's Fastest Compatibility Quiz

    The World's Fastest Compatibility Quiz
    Jun 13 2025
    The Circus Question is the fastest compatibility quiz in the world! Dating Coach Andreas shares personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of understanding power dynamics and the flaws of online dating. The conversation also explores the future of meaningful connections in the dating landscape. They explore how algorithms influence user experiences and the importance of understanding compatibility beyond superficial matches. They discuss the importance of shared values, effective communication, and the need for authenticity in relationships. The conversation also highlights the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies, the role of dating coaches, and the innovative 'Circus Question' methodology designed to assess compatibility. Ultimately, the discussion emphasizes the importance of personal growth and recognizing red flags in potential partners.Visit https://the-circus-question.passion.io to try the assessment for yourself. Visit https://whitneykobrin.com for help with dating and relationships. To make your own app with Passion.io, go to https://passion.io?deal=whitney98 💖 Claim your complimentary strategy session: www.WhitneyKobrin.com/Discovery-Call 💖 Subscribe to the channel: https://www.youtube.com/@WhitneyLoveCoach 💖 Get immediate help and free resources at www.LoveCoachInMyPocket.passion.io or download the "Love Coach in My Pocket" app on Apple or Android. Andreas is a Match Creator and Dating Coach transforming the dating landscape with his compatibility tool, The Circus Question™ and Circology™️ Framework. His insights stem from personal and professional challenges that reshaped his understanding of love. With a diverse background in architecture, radio, DJ-ing and project management, he helps individuals discover compatible partners. His approach empowers many, especially women over 30, to navigate dating with confidence. Join Andreas on a unique journey to love, blending creativity and compatibility.Contact Andreas or learn more at my.linkpod.site/Andreas_DatingCoach What's your biggest challenge with self-love, self-talk, or in your love life?What dating & relationship topics would you like us to cover on this podcast/channel?Leave a comment below. 💖 Listen to learn 💖 - The Circus Question helps filter potential partners effectively.- Understanding relationship dynamics is crucial for compatibility.- Power dynamics play a significant role in relationships.- Online dating often lacks depth and meaningful connection.- Attractiveness is not the best indicator of compatibility.- The opener in conversations can significantly impact responses.- Dating apps need to prioritize genuine connections over profit.- Self-education in dating is essential for personal growth.- The importance of vulnerability in dating cannot be overstated.Innovative dating apps are emerging to foster real connections. Hinge's algorithm manipulates user experience to encourage payment.Online dating is merely a tool for meeting potential partners.Compatibility is nuanced and not binary.Shared values are crucial for relationship success.Authenticity is key; don't compromise your true self.Recognizing red flags early can save time and heartache.The Circus Question helps identify relationship dynamics.Conflict resolution is essential for healthy relationships.Masculine and feminine energies play a significant role in attraction.Personal growth is vital for attracting the right partner.💖 Chapters 💖 00:00 - Introduction to Modern Dating Challenges02:13 - The Circus Question: A Unique Compatibility Tool05:37 - Understanding Relationship Dynamics12:14 - Navigating Power Dynamics in Relationships16:41 - The Flaws of Online Dating24:37 - Innovations in Dating Apps27:56 - The Future of Dating and Connection29:32 - The Psychology of Online Dating Algorithms30:11 - Understanding Compatibility Beyond the App31:41 - The Importance of Shared Values in Relationships32:49 - Navigating Compatibility, Communication, and Compromise35:16 - Identifying Relationship Dynamics and Compatibility37:34 - The Role of Authenticity in Dating39:28 - Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships41:26 - The Circus Question Methodology43:51 - Conflict Resolution and Relationship Dynamics45:51 - The Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energies50:21 - The Future of Dating Apps and Personal Growth💖 Sound Bites 💖 "The dating apps need to do more.""My model is to make connections.""Hinge has this algorithm...""Online dating is not dating.""We need to get off the app...""It's not one size fits all.""It's all about shared values.""You've got to stop doing that.""You need what you're missing.""Look at it as an upgrade."Keywordsdating, compatibility, relationships, modern dating, dating apps, emotional connection, power dynamics, circus question, dating coach, online dating, online dating, compatibility, relationship dynamics, dating algorithms, shared values, communication, compromise, authenticity, red flags, masculine...
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    55 mins
  • How to Have Better Relationships w/ The 5 Personality Patterns by Steven Kessler

    How to Have Better Relationships w/ The 5 Personality Patterns by Steven Kessler
    May 9 2025
    The #1 BEST thing you can do to have happy relationships is to understand each other's PERSONALITY PATTERNS, and do your own inner work to stay present through conflict.
    💖Visit https://whitneykobrin.com to inquire about personal coaching from Whitney Kobrin.

    Steven Kessler has been a psychotherapist for almost 30 years and teaches internationally. He is the bestselling author of The 5 Personality Patterns, a map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and communicating with them effectively. His second book, How to Have Better Relationships, teaches how to understand other people's patterns and the dynamics we create.
    💖Steven Kessler can be reached at Steven@The5PersonalityPatterns.com for speaking and training inquiries.

    💖 Listen to learn 💖
    • The centering breath is essential for emotional regulation.
    • Personality patterns are survival strategies developed in childhood.
    • Every pattern has its downsides and its strengths.
    • Relationships are influenced by the interplay of different personality patterns.
    • Communication challenges often arise from differing personality strategies.
    • Self-awareness is key to breaking free from automatic reactions.
    • Sexual chemistry can sometimes mask deeper communication issues.
    • Understanding personality patterns can help couples navigate conflicts.
    • Attraction is not the only factor in relationship compatibility.
    • Healing past traumas can facilitate better dating experiences.

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    💖 Chapters 💖
    • 00:00 Introduction to Centering and Breath
    • 01:54 Exploring the Five Personality Patterns
    • 04:59 Understanding Safety Strategies in Personality Patterns
    • 08:55 The Role of Energy in Personality Development
    • 11:58 Three Centers of Intelligence in Relationships
    • 16:06 Dynamics of Merging and Rigid Patterns in Relationships
    • 20:01 Communication Challenges Between Personality Patterns
    • 28:12 Understanding Communication Styles in Couples
    • 29:34 Short-term vs Long-term Solutions for Couples
    • 32:48 Dating Dynamics and Initial Disagreements
    • 35:04 The Importance of Compatibility Beyond Attraction
    • 37:11 Recognizing Patterns from Family Dynamics
    • 40:14 Growth Mindset in Relationships
    • 41:53 Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships
    • 46:30 Healing and Personal Growth in Dating
    💖 Keywords 💖
    Communication, Self-awareness, Emotional Regulation, Personal Growth, Relationships, Dating, Relationship goals, Growth mindset, Masculine energy, Feminine energy, Compatibility, Trauma bonding, Attraction, Attachment, Avoidance, Anxious, Healing, Emotional intelligence, Safety strategies, Survival strategies, Survival mechanism, Survival mode, Thriving, Surviving to thriving, Energy work, Somatic coaching, save marriage, Grounded, Spiritual, Spirituality, Better relationships, 5 personality patterns, merging pattern, leaving pattern, enduring pattern, aggressive pattern, rigid pattern, Self Love, Fight less, Stop fighting
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    50 mins
  • Navigating Money Conflicts in Relationships with Angie Carlson

    Navigating Money Conflicts in Relationships with Angie Carlson
    Jan 16 2025
    Whitney Kobrin https://whitneykobrin.com is a Dating and Relationship Expert helping singles navigate modern dating and find lasting love.

    Angie Carlson

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    💖 Key Takeaways

    - Understanding your partner's financial background is crucial.
    - Communication about money can improve understanding and reduce fighting.
    - Vulnerability fosters intimacy in relationships.
    - Financial fears often stem from past experiences.
    - Discussing finances before engagement is important.
    - Estate planning is critical but often overlooked.
    - Transforming financial discussions can empower and strengthen your relationship.





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    💖 Summary In this conversation, Love Coach Whitney Kobrin and Financial Coach Angie Carlson explore the intricate dynamics of love and money, and how we can transform conflicts into intimacy. They discuss the impact of vulnerability and mindset on financial success as a couple, the necessity of having realistic financial goals, and celebrating small wins. They also touch on the importance of preparing for future financial challenges and the significance of estate planning, all while emphasizing the need for open and honest discussions about money in relationships.

    💖 Chapters

    00:00 - Understanding Relationship Dynamics
    03:07 - The Importance of Financial Communication
    05:47 - Transforming Conflict into Intimacy
    08:56 - The Role of Vulnerability in Relationships
    11:43 - Overcoming Financial Fears
    14:34 - Setting Realistic Financial Goals
    17:47 - The Impact of Mindset on Financial Success
    20:36 - Navigating Financial Conversations in Relationships
    23:27 - The Journey Beyond Debt
    26:17 - Preparing for Future Financial Challenges
    29:31 - The Importance of Estate Planning
    32:16 - Building a Healthy Relationship with Money
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    36 mins
  • Mystical Intimacy with Linda Nardelli

    Mystical Intimacy with Linda Nardelli
    Dec 21 2024
    This enlightening conversation will help you understand the profound themes of self-love, intimacy, and the journey toward healing. Whitney Kobrin https://whitneykobrin.com is a Dating and Relationship Expert helping singles navigate modern dating and find lasting love.

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    Linda L. Nardelli, RTC, MTC, CHT is the author of the book Mystical Intimacy, an intimate exploration of channeled messages and personal stories. As a highly-attuned spiritual counselor, mentor, and healer, Linda offers a unique blend of somatic (mind-body) therapy, spiritual mentoring, and intuitive channeling. Learn more about one-on-one sessions at https://www.lindanardelli.com.

    💖 Takeaways 💖
    -Healing is about falling in love with yourself.
    - Avoiding intimacy is even harder than facing it.
    - Intimacy starts with your relationship with yourself.
    - We can all have what we want, but first need to clearly know what we want.
    - Nothing needs to be fixed; we need to understand.
    - Desire is a relationship with being tender and meeting our needs.
    - Communication is key in relationships; it helps us understand each other better.
    - The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and essential for growth.
    - We need to value ourselves to know what we want in relationships.




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    Summary In this enlightening conversation, Whitney Kobrin and Linda explore the profound themes of self-love, intimacy, and the journey toward healing. They discuss the importance of understanding oneself, embracing vulnerability, and the major mistakes being made in modern dating! The conversation delves into the challenges of modern dating, the significance of desire, and the impact of trauma on personal connections.

    💖 Chapters 💖

    00:00 - Falling in Love with Yourself
    01:13 - Introduction to Spiritual Counseling
    03:03 - The Journey of Self-Discovery
    04:33 - Intimacy and Longing
    08:03 - The Power of Intuition
    11:33 - Understanding Intimacy
    16:11 - Healing Through Self-Love
    19:50 - Embracing Desire!
    23:12 - The Importance of Relationships
    27:52 - Don't leave! Staying in Relationships
    34:19 - Compassion in Relationships
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    38 mins
  • CJ's Story - I didn't know what I didn't know about dating

    CJ's Story - I didn't know what I didn't know about dating
    Dec 13 2024
    Visit https://whitneykobrin.com for more information on the "Ready for Love" and "Dating Done Right" coaching programs to help you overcome damaging dating patterns, date confidently, and find the love you desire.

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    💖 Takeaways 💖
    - Dating should be approached as a dance, not a game.
    - Love intentions help clarify what we seek in relationships.
    - Embracing change is a part of personal evolution.
    - Appreciating partners for who they are fosters deeper connections.
    - Self-awareness is crucial for personal growth.
    - Understanding self-compassion can transform relationships.
    - Masculine and feminine energies play a significant role in attraction.
    - Past relationships teach valuable lessons about ourselves.
    - Setting boundaries is essential for healthy relationships.
    - Trust is built through actions and follow-through.

    What's your biggest challenge with self-love, self-talk, or in your love life?

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    Leave a comment below.

    💖 Summary 💖
    In this episode of the Love Coach In My Pocket podcast, Whitney Kobrin and her client discuss CJ's transformative journey through personal growth, self-compassion, and understanding relationships. Carrie shares her healing journey towards healthy dating. First she had to overcome her eating disorder, then learn the importance of self-love, awareness, presence, and the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies. They explore how past relationships shaped Carrie's understanding of love and trust, and how she is now approaching dating with a new positive, confident, and grateful perspective. She has a clearn intention for the type of relationship she wants to create. The conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth, setting boundaries, and appreciating the differences and polarity between partners.
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    38 mins
  • Dating With Intention!

    Dating With Intention!
    Dec 4 2024
    Are you looking for love, or creating love? Having a clear love intention and dating strategy, you stack the odds in your favor to find your ideal person and create a loving relationship. Visit https://whitneykobrin.com to join a dating accountability program, and learn more about working with a love coach to build a healthy and fulfilling love life.

    💖 Key Takeaways:
    • Dating with intention can transform your love life.
    • It's essential to define how you want to feel in a relationship.
    • You create love through intention, not just by finding it.
    • Effective communication is key to a healthy relationship.
    • First dates should be casual to reduce pressure.
    • Your love intention should be a creative and imaginative statement.
    • Be open-minded when dating; your ideal partner may not fit your expectations.
    • Summarize your love intention into one or two sentences for clarity.
    • Align your emotions and feelings with your intentions for better outcomes.
    • Empower yourself by taking control of your dating journey.
    💖 Summary: In this episode, Whitney Kobrin discusses the concept of dating with intention, emphasizing the importance of setting clear relationship goals and intentions. She shares her personal journey and insights on how to successfully navigate modern dating, focusing on how to create a fulfilling relationship rather than just finding a partner. The conversation covers effective communication, the significance of first dates, and the empowerment that comes from having a clear love intention.

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    💖 Leave a comment! What's your biggest challenge with self-love, self-talk, or in your love life? What dating & relationship topics would you like us to cover on this podcast/channel?

    💖 Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Intentional Dating
    03:12 The Importance of Setting Intentions
    05:56 Defining Relationship Goals
    09:11 Effective Communication in Relationships
    11:56 Navigating First Dates with Intention
    15:12 Creating Your Love Intention
    18:04 Empowerment Through Intentions
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    22 mins
  • Discernment in Dating: From Judgement to Joy

    Discernment in Dating: From Judgement to Joy
    Nov 27 2024
    Do you know the difference between discernment and judgment in dating? Are you being curious or judgmental? And do you know how to set clear intentions and boundaries in relationships?

    Listen and learn the significance of vulnerability and authenticity in dating.
    Visit https://whitneykobrin.com for HELP with dating and relationships.

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    Get immediate help and free resources at www.LoveCoachInMyPocket.passion.io or download the "Love Coach in My Pocket" app on Apple or Android.

    Listen and learn key takeaways:

    -Discernment is about making conscious decisions in dating.
    -Curiosity can replace judgment and lead to better understanding.
    -Being present-minded helps in making level-headed decisions.
    -Setting clear intentions for relationships is crucial.
    -Attraction can grow as you learn more about a person's character.
    -Mindfulness practices can enhance your dating experience.
    -Boundaries teach others how to treat you in relationships.
    -Flexibility is important in navigating dating expectations.
    -Avoid letting negativity from the dating pool distract you.
    -Authenticity and vulnerability are key to meaningful connections.

    What's YOUR biggest dating challenge?
    What dating & relationship topics would you like us to cover on this podcast/channel? Leave a comment below.

    Chapters
    00:00 - Understanding Discernment vs. Judgment in Dating
    05:28 - The Importance of Being Present-Minded
    11:22 - Setting Boundaries and Intentions in Relationships
    17:02 - Embracing Vulnerability and Authenticity in Dating
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    20 mins