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Love How Deep Marriage

Love How Deep Marriage

Written by: Brian Mayer & Heather Mayer
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 Love How Deep is a podcast designed to equip married couples like you with resources that rely on the transformative power of God's Word to strengthen your relationship. The hosts, Brian & Heather Mayer desire is to connect couples more deeply to each other. They do this by offering episode content that can help couples communicate better, resolve conflict, understand each other more, tackle roles and responsbilities, parent in better ways, control their finances more, and increase emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual parts of their lives. Engaging guests from married couples, pastors, therapists, authors, and other experts in the field offer great advice.2024 Christianity Ministry & Evangelism Relationships Social Sciences Spirituality
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  • 118: The Secret to Avoiding the Roommate Trap In Marriage

    118: The Secret to Avoiding the Roommate Trap In Marriage
    Feb 11 2026
    Avoiding the Roommate Phase: Daily Deposits in Marriage Brian from Love How Deep discusses the dangers of the 'roommate phase' in marriage, where couples become excellent at logistics but lose their emotional connection. He introduces the concept of the Daily Deposit Principle, highlighting the importance of consistent, small acts of kindness and attention to build 'emotional bank accounts.' By focusing on each other's love languages and being vulnerable, couples can strengthen their emotional intimacy. Brian also emphasizes the need to guard one's attention to prevent relationship neglect. The video aims to help couples avoid living parallel lives and reconnect deeply. Pick up our Free Communication Workbook: https://love-how-deep.kit.com/practical-communication-strategies 00:00 Introduction: The Roommate Phase 00:25 Rebuilding Emotional Intimacy 01:09 The Daily Deposit Principle 04:22 Understanding Love Languages 06:28 The Power of Vulnerability 09:05 Guarding Your Attention 10:21 Conclusion and Resources
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    12 mins
  • 117: The Surprising Shift That Can Save Your Marriage Communication

    117: The Surprising Shift That Can Save Your Marriage Communication
    Feb 4 2026
    Bridging the Communication Gap in Relationships Brian from Love How Deep offers advice for couples struggling with communication problems in their relationships. He discusses why communication often breaks down and how to address underlying issues rather than surface disputes. The episode introduces practical strategies like the 'ten-second buffer' and creating a 'vulnerability culture' to foster deeper connections. Brian also shares personal anecdotes and stresses the importance of empathy and understanding. He provides resources and invites viewers to download a free workbook with communication strategies. https://love-how-deep.kit.com/practical-communication-strategies 00:00 Introduction: The Communication Gap 00:46 Understanding Surface Issues 02:25 Personal Story: The House Argument 05:05 The 10-Second Buffer Technique 06:56 Creating a Vulnerability Culture 10:53 Conclusion and Resources
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    13 mins
  • 116: Your Marriage Gift is Waiting

    116: Your Marriage Gift is Waiting
    Jan 21 2026

    Have you ever received a beautifully wrapped gift—complete with the perfect bow and silver paper—and just let it sit there? Of course not! The excitement of a gift comes from opening it to see what's inside.

    In this episode, Heather shares a powerful metaphor: Your marriage is a gift from God. But often, life gets messy. The "cats" of life chew on the bow, the paper gets torn, and sometimes we get so hurt or annoyed that we pack the gift back up and stick it on a high shelf. Heather encourages us to take that box back down, unwrap it with God's help, and rediscover the incredible "gift" He intended for us to have.

    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • The Three-Stranded Cord: Marriage was created by God. When you lean into Him and pour your heart into the Lord, your marriage becomes a cord that is not easily broken.

    • The "Messy" Reality: Every marriage gets "smudged and dirty." Even in marriage ministry, Brian and Heather experience the bumps in the road. You are not alone in the struggle.

    • The Shelf Life: Staying together "for the kids" or "because it's expected" is like leaving your marriage in a box on a shelf. It leaves both spouses feeling alone and broken.

    • Be the Catalyst: You don't have to wait for your spouse to change. You can be the one to show grace, offer mercy, and act as the catalyst for the amazing marriage God intended.

    ✨ Reflection Questions

    1. Is your marriage currently "unwrapped" and active, or is it sitting on a shelf?

    2. What is one thing you can do today to "pour love" on your spouse, regardless of what you see coming back to you?

    3. Are you willing to offer grace and forgiveness even if you haven't been asked for it yet?

    🗓️ Join the Experience!

    Ready to take your marriage "off the shelf"? Join Brian and Heather for a hands-on, kinesthetic workshop:

    The Communication Experience Webinar

    • When: Saturday, Feb 7, 2026 | 10:00 AM – 12:00 PM

    • What: A 2-hour immersive experience to help you find your "breakthrough" and learn tools to connect deeper than ever before.

    • Register: https://www.lovehowdeep.com/communication-experience-webinar

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    A Final Prayer from Heather: "I pray for your marriages. I pray that you find encouragement through the things we share and that you have an amazing life together."
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    6 mins
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