Have you ever received a beautifully wrapped gift—complete with the perfect bow and silver paper—and just let it sit there? Of course not! The excitement of a gift comes from opening it to see what's inside.

In this episode, Heather shares a powerful metaphor: Your marriage is a gift from God. But often, life gets messy. The "cats" of life chew on the bow, the paper gets torn, and sometimes we get so hurt or annoyed that we pack the gift back up and stick it on a high shelf. Heather encourages us to take that box back down, unwrap it with God's help, and rediscover the incredible "gift" He intended for us to have.

• The Three-Stranded Cord: Marriage was created by God. When you lean into Him and pour your heart into the Lord, your marriage becomes a cord that is not easily broken.

• The "Messy" Reality: Every marriage gets "smudged and dirty." Even in marriage ministry, Brian and Heather experience the bumps in the road. You are not alone in the struggle.

• The Shelf Life: Staying together "for the kids" or "because it's expected" is like leaving your marriage in a box on a shelf. It leaves both spouses feeling alone and broken.

• Be the Catalyst: You don't have to wait for your spouse to change. You can be the one to show grace, offer mercy, and act as the catalyst for the amazing marriage God intended.

1. Is your marriage currently "unwrapped" and active, or is it sitting on a shelf?

2. What is one thing you can do today to "pour love" on your spouse, regardless of what you see coming back to you?

3. Are you willing to offer grace and forgiveness even if you haven't been asked for it yet?

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A Final Prayer from Heather: "I pray for your marriages. I pray that you find encouragement through the things we share and that you have an amazing life together."

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In this episode, Brian and Heather from Love How Deep discuss the impact of small issues on marriage rather than the large, dramatic events. They emphasize the importance of 'bearing with each other' and addressing grievances in a loving and forgiving manner. Referencing Colossians chapter 3, verse 13, they explore the concept of enduring difficulties and forgiving as the Lord forgave. The discussion includes practical examples, like communicating grievances directly and handling forgiveness even when the other party is unaware of the hurt they caused.

They also talk about letting go of anger and trusting God to handle justice. The episode wraps up with an encouragement to utilize their online course on forgiveness for couples looking to strengthen their relationship.

00:00 Introduction: The Little Things in Marriage

00:55 Understanding 'Bearing with Each Other'

03:11 Presenting Grievances in Marriage

05:58 The Challenge of Forgiveness

10:58 Conclusion and Resources

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In this Love How Deep episode, hosts Heather and Brian explore the biblical scripture from 2 Corinthians 9:6-7, traditionally associated with financial generosity, and reinterpret its application within the context of marriage.

They emphasize 'sowing seeds' of spiritual fruit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—into marital relationships.

The discussion highlights the reciprocal nature of giving generously to one's spouse and the significance of doing so cheerfully. They also touch on the importance of communication and prayer in nurturing a healthy marriage, offering additional resources like their communication workbook for couples seeking to enhance their relationship.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdotes

00:17 Reinterpreting the Verse for Marriage

00:45 Sowing Seeds in Marriage

02:11 The Fruits of the Spirit

04:24 Challenges and Deeper Issues

05:35 Deciding to Give Cheerfully

11:10 Communication and Final Thoughts

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Letting Go of Past Mistakes in Marriage | Lessons from John 8

In this episode of 'Love How Deep,' hosts Brian and Heather delve into the challenges of bringing up past mistakes in marriage conflicts. They reference the biblical passage from John chapter 8, where Jesus addresses the woman caught in adultery.

Through this story, Brian and Heather draw parallels to marital relationships, emphasizing the importance of avoiding holding past mistakes over one's partner and instead practicing forgiveness and understanding. They discuss three key lessons from the passage: redirecting condemnation both inwardly and towards one's partner, the power of de-escalation during an argument, and establishing a constructive path forward to prevent future conflicts. The episode concludes with recommendations for practical strategies to de-escalate arguments and maintain a healthy relationship.

They also introduce their online course on forgiveness, featuring six modules, 14 videos, and several worksheets designed to help couples deepen their understanding and practice of forgiveness within their marriage. The course is currently available at a discounted price, and they encourage viewers to invest in it for the benefit of their relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic

00:31 The Story of the Woman Caught in Adultery

02:08 Relating the Story to Marriage

03:46 Redirecting Condemnation in Relationships

06:42 The Power of De-escalation

09:56 Creating an Action Plan for Change

11:30 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In this episode, Heather and Brian from Love How Deep address a common struggle many couples face: feeling that their marriage isn't what they hoped it would be. They dive into an unconventional scripture from Philippians 3:12-14, exploring how its teachings can be applied to strengthen marriages.

Heather and Brian analyze the scriptures phrase by phrase, encouraging couples to adopt a growth mindset and continuously strive for improvement. They emphasize the importance of a Christ-centered foundation, understanding that marriage requires effort, resilience, and forgiveness.

Through personal anecdotes and thoughtful insights, they offer practical advice on prioritizing one's spouse, letting go of past mistakes, and pressing forward together. This episode aims to provide viewers with a fresh perspective on their marriage, inspiring them to build stronger, more loving relationships rooted in faith.

00:00 Introduction: Questioning Your Marriage

00:42 Scripture Insight: Philippians 3:12-14

01:29 Phrase by Phrase Breakdown

04:06 The Importance of a Christ-Centered Foundation

06:27 Pressing On and Overcoming Challenges

09:03 Focusing on the Future, Not the Past

13:31 Striving Towards Your Goals

14:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In this episode, Brian and Heather from Love How Deep discuss the importance of taking online courses to improve communication and connection in marriage. They share their personal experiences with online courses and highlight the benefits such as gaining wisdom, understanding, and knowledge about each other.

They emphasize that online courses offer the flexibility to be done on your own time and provide valuable insights into each spouse's background and behavior. The couple delves into their latest online course on forgiveness, explaining that forgiveness is a choice and a process. They outline the steps involved in forgiveness, the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and the various benefits of forgiveness, including physical, mental, relational, and spiritual.

They encourage viewers to take advantage of their discounted forgiveness course available at lovehowdeep.com/forgive and hint at more upcoming courses on topics like communication, personality, and finances.

00:00 Introduction: Struggles in Marriage Communication

00:14 The Convenience of Online Courses

01:34 Benefits of Online Courses: Wisdom and Understanding

04:32 Deepening Connection Through Courses

05:38 Tools for Forgiveness

10:05 Conclusion and Course Promotion