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In this heartfelt episode of "Love and Life Sorted," host Dr. Sandy To sits down with fellow mom and high school friend, Julia to dive into the world of making friends as a full-time mom. From the challenges of forming new connections after having a family to the joys and pitfalls of "school mom" friendships, they share real stories and insights on why it's tough to align life stages with old friends and how school becomes the prime spot for new bonds.

Julia opens up about her positive experiences with supportive mom groups, while both discuss common dramas like competitive "Tiger Moms," snobbish cliques based on social status, and the introvert-extrovert dynamics in building relationships. They explore whether these friendships last beyond their children’s graduation, the differences between working moms and stay-at-home moms, and even a memorable moms-only trip to Japan that tested Julia’s friendship bonds.

Whether you're a new parent struggling to make mom friends or dealing with school politics, this episode offers relatable advice, laughs, and tips on fostering genuine connections. Tune in to learn how fate, shared interests, and a bit of effort can turn school pickups into lifelong friendships.

#MomFriends #MakingMomFriends #SchoolMoms #TigerMoms #ParentingDrama #FullTimeMom #MomLife #ParentingTips #SchoolFriendships #MomGroups #WorkingMoms #StayAtHomeMom #ParentingPodcast #LoveAndLifeSorted

🔑Key Topics

• Challenges of making new friends as a mom after marriage and kids
• Differences in life stages and maintaining old friendships
• Positive and negative experiences with school mom groups, including competition and support
• Tiger Moms: Pushy parenting, academic rivalries, and sharing resources like tutors
• Selective friendships based on social, economic, or educational backgrounds
• Sustainability of mom friendships after kids graduate or switch schools
• Working moms vs. stay-at-home moms: Time management, scheduling conflicts, and making efforts to connect
• Building trust: From light chit-chat to deeper personal sharing and moms-only vacations

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Kick off 2026 with powerful manifestation techniques to turn your dreams into reality! In this uplifting episode of Love and Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To shares her personal story of manifesting love, career success, and more over the past decade, inspired by books like "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne and "SynchroDestiny" by Deepak Chopra. Reflecting on the 10-year anniversary of her book "China's Leftover Women," Dr. To reveals how she wrote down her top 10 desires in 2015—and watched them come true, from finding her ideal partner to achieving book success. Learn practical tips on using the Law of Attraction, positive vibrations, gratitude, and visualization to attract abundance, love, and fulfillment into your life. Whether you're seeking better relationships, health, or abundance, this episode will inspire you to manifest your dreams. Hit play and start transforming your reality today!

#Manifestation #LawOfAttraction #NewYear2026 #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #PositiveThinking #GratitudePractice #DeepakChopra #TheSecret #LoveAndLifeSorted #PodcastMotivation #ManifestYourDreams #AbundanceMindset #SpiritualJourney #WomenEmpowerment

🔑 Key Topics:

• Manifestation techniques and the Law of Attraction for New Year goals
• Reflecting on a 10-year manifestation journey: fulfilling top 10 desires over 10 years
• How to write and visualize your top 10 desires for powerful results
• Insights from "The Secret," "The Magic," and "SynchroDestiny" on the law of attraction and quantum physics
• Visualizing desires: Writing them down, feeling them as already achieved, and aligning with the universe
• The role of positivity, gratitude, and love in attracting abundance
• Practical exercises: Daily gratitude practices, avoiding negativity, and aligning desires with universal goals

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Join Dr. Sandy To, author of the groundbreaking book China's Leftover Women: Late Marriage Among Professional Women and Its Consequences (now celebrating its 10th anniversary), as she launches her exciting new podcast Love and Life Sorted!

In this special bonus episode, Dr. To shares her personal journey into podcasting after nearly two decades of research on highly educated, accomplished women facing challenges in finding suitable partners. Discover why more women than ever are enrolling in universities worldwide, leading to a growing number of successful career women struggling with dating, relationships, and modern gender roles.

Dr. To introduces her empowering framework of four types of women (Traditionalist, Maximizer, Satisficer, and Innovator) to help you understand your own partner choices and date smarter. This isn't your typical dating tips podcast—it's an accessible, fun cultural and intellectual exchange for single professional women, working mothers, and anyone navigating love, marriage, family, and career balance in today’s world.

Whether you're dealing with societal pressure as a "leftover woman" (sheng nu), balancing ambition with companionship, or redefining gender roles, this episode will inspire you to find the partner of your dreams.

Subscribe now for real-life insights from a sociologist who's been there—perfect for empowered women ready to sort love and life! Happy New Year—let's make 2026 amazing!

#LoveAndLifeSorted #LeftoverWomen #ShengNu #ChinasLeftoverWomen #ProfessionalWomen #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #ModernDating #GenderRoles #CareerWomen #SuccessfulWomen #WomenEmpowerment #MarriageTips #RelationshipGoals #SingleWomen

🔑Key Topics

• China's Leftover Women (Sheng Nu) phenomenon and societal pressures
• 10th anniversary of the book China's Leftover Women
• Why highly educated and successful women struggle to find partners
• Four types of women in partner choices: Traditionalist, Maximizer, Satisficer, Innovator
• Modern gender roles, dating strategies, and relationship advice for career women
• Balancing career, marriage, family, and personal fulfillment
• Work-life balance for working mothers and professional women
• Empowering women to date according to their true type

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Ever wondered what happens when a high-powered career woman quits her 20-year job in investment banking to become a full-time mom of three—and relocates to Australia?

In this raw and inspiring episode, my high school bestie Kitty shares her drastic life transition: from thriving in auditing and legal/compliance roles with helpers handling everything, to hands-on parenting, learning to cook, and navigating postpartum challenges abroad.

We dive deep into mom guilt, missing career fulfillment, the joy of bonding with her youngest child, maintaining self-identity as a stay-at-home mom, and how mindset and gratitude made all the difference.

If you're a working mom considering quitting, a full-time parent struggling with identity loss, or relocating with kids—this episode is for you! Discover practical tips on adapting to big changes, asking for help, and finding reward in family life.

Hit play and join the conversation—perfect for anyone balancing career, motherhood, and personal growth.

#FullTimeMom #StayAtHomeMom #WorkingMom #MomLife #CareerChange #MomGuilt #ParentingJourney #RelocationWithKids #HongKongToAustralia #MotherhoodTransition #SAHM #WomenInFinance #PostpartumJourney #MindsetMatters #Gratitude #FamilyFirst #LoveAndLifeSorted

🔑 Key Topics:

• Career to full-time mom transition
• Quitting job after 20 years in accounting and investment banking
• Relocating from Hong Kong to Australia with kids
• Life without domestic helpers
• Mom guilt and missing first milestones
• Bonding with children as a stay-at-home mom
• Postpartum recovery and mental health challenges
• Maintaining self-identity and confidence as a SAHM
• Importance of mindset, gratitude, and positivity
• Asking for help and teamwork in parenting

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In this episode of Love and Life, Sorted, Dr. Sandy To dives deep into one of the most debated dating questions: “Should women make the first move?”

Drawing from classic advice in "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider (why letting men pursue women matters) and modern insights from "Date-onomics" and “Make Your Move” by Jon Birger (why empowered women need to be more proactive in today's competitive market), Dr. To shares a balanced "yes AND no" approach.

Learn practical tips: Wait for clear signs of interest from him first, then reciprocate enthusiastically to encourage pursuit—without chasing. Discover why high-achieving women intimidate men, how demographics stack the odds, and the power of "opening the door a crack" for real connection.

Plus, the ultimate real-life example: How Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce turned a missed bracelet moment into an epic love story by blending traditional pursuit with timely reciprocation.

If you're navigating modern dating, wondering why good men aren't approaching, or seeking strategies to find lasting love—this episode is for you. Timeless wisdom meets 2025 reality for better relationships.

#ShouldWomenMakeTheFirstMove #DatingAdviceForWomen #ModernDating #TaylorSwiftTravisKelce #TheRulesDating #Dateonomics #WomenInDating #RelationshipAdvice #LoveAndLifeSorted #DatingTips2025 #FindLastingLove #EmpoweredWomenDating #TaylorSwiftKelce #PursuitInDating #DatingStrategy

🔑 Key Topics:

• Should women make the first move
• Dating advice for women
• The Rules book vs modern dating
• Date-onomics and gender ratios in dating
• Why men get intimidated by successful women
• Signs of genuine male interest
• How to reciprocate without chasing
• Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce relationship story
• Modern marriage market challenges
• Encouraging men to pursue you

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Are you feeling stuck in your job, drained by overwork, or wondering what’s next in mid-career or as you approach retirement?

In this episode of Love & Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To shares her raw experience attending the exclusive pilot “Designing Your Work Life” workshop in Hong Kong – based on the New York Times bestselling book Designing Your Life by Stanford professors Bill Burnett & Dave Evans.

You’ll discover:

• Why the end of the year is the perfect time for a total life & career reset
• The biggest differences between classic self-help/motivational books and real design-thinking tools
• How to solve problems “like a designer”
• Why you must throw away your first idea
• Why artists and creatives feel lonely – and how to combat it
• The power of “no judgment” brainstorming and building bold prototypes
• How to align your Work View & Life View so work energizes instead of drains you

If you’ve ever wanted practical, actionable steps to redesign your career and life, this episode is for you.

#DesigningYourLife #LifeDesign #CareerPivot #MidCareerCrisis #WorkLifeBalance #CareerChange #EndOfYearReset #StanfordMethod #StanfordLifeDesignLab #DesignThinking #LifeReset #FindYourPurpose #FulfillmentAtWork #Self-fulfillment #PersonalDevelopment

In this episode:

Designing Your Life – Bill Burnett & Dave Evans → https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321

Designing Your Work Life → https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Work-Life-Happiness/dp/0525655247

Official site: https://designingyour.life

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Which type of woman are you when it comes to love, career, and marriage? In this episode, Dr. Sandy To breaks down the 4 female archetypes in today’s dating world: Traditionalist, Maximizer, Satisficer, and Innovator – and reveals exactly how each type approaches finding a partner, money, career, and family. Discover why some women happily become housewives only if the husband is the breadwinner (Traditionalist); the proactive “Maximizer” women who are more strategic and proactive in finding high-value men (even older, divorced, or cross-cultural); “Satisficer” women who become the breadwinner and expect total equality (think Hermione Granger & Ron) and “Innovator” women who are looking for companionate relationships more than marriage and are fine raising kids solo (Rachel Green style).

Perfect for single women, married women reassessing their relationship, or anyone confused about modern dating dynamics.

💡Figure out your type (or hybrid) and stop choosing the wrong partners! Take the What's Your Type Quiz at: https://www.sandyto.com/types-quiz and share your results on our Instagram page @drsandyto.podcast.

#4TypesOfWomen #DatingAdvice #ModernDating #MarriageGoals #TraditionalWife #FemaleBreadwinner #HighValueMan #RelationshipAdvice #LoveAndCareer #SingleMomByChoice #HermioneGranger #RachelGreen #AmyMarch #JessicaHuang #DatingStrategy #WomenInTheir30s #KnowYourType #EgalitarianMarriage #Hypergamy #CareerWoman #LoveAndLifeSorted

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In this eye-opening episode of Love and Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To dives deep into the rise of women as primary breadwinners in modern relationships. Explore the challenges of gender role reversal, including resentment, housework imbalances, and emasculation fears. Learn about "deviance neutralization techniques" from classic sociology research, real-life stories of boss wives, and the difference between involuntary and voluntary breadwinners (aka, Satisficers). Discover practical advice for couples to foster egalitarianism, boost appreciation, and maintain harmony when traditional roles flip. Whether you're a high-earning woman, a stay-at-home husband, or navigating dual-income dynamics, this episode offers insights to strengthen your relationship.

#WomenBreadwinners #GenderRoles #RelationshipAdvice #ModernMarriage #WomenEmpowerment #EgalitarianRelationships #StayAtHomeDads #LoveAndLifeSorted #Satisficers #RoleReversal #BossWives #RelationshipChallenges #MarriageTips #Feminism

🔑Key Topics:

• Traditional vs. modern gender roles in relationships and marriages
• Challenges faced by women breadwinners: Exhaustion, paid work-housework double bind, and partner resentment
• Deviance neutralization techniques: Overcompensating through femininity, compliments, evasion, and role (re-)segregation
• Involuntary breadwinners: Dealing with unexpected role reversals due to layoffs or career shifts
• Voluntary breadwinners (Satisficers): Egalitarianism over economics
• Advice for men in lesser-earner roles: Developing personal skills and passions to overcome insecurities
• Real-life examples from interviews and sociology studies (e.g., Atkinson and Boles on “WASPs”: “Wives As Senior Partners")
• Tips for couples: Verbal appreciation, negotiation, and making the most of reversed roles

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