Why does Mandarin feel easy when you’re listening…

but impossible the moment a real person speaks?

In this mailbag episode, we answer real listener questions about learning Mandarin in the real world.

Textbooks vs real speech. Tones. Confidence. Speaking to in-laws. And why your brain sometimes just shuts down.

We talk about:

• Why textbooks teach words nobody actually says
• Whether tones really matter (and why)
• Freezing when speaking to native speakers
• Speaking Mandarin with your partner’s parents
• Why some days you feel fluent and others you forget everything
• Mainland Chinese vs Taiwanese Mandarin

If you’ve ever thought, “Is it just me?”

…it isn’t.

00:00 Welcome & what this episode is

03:10 Why textbooks don’t sound like real people

11:45 Speaking Mandarin with your partner’s parents

23:40 “I understand podcasts but not real people”

33:10 Do tones really matter?

41:45 Why some days Mandarin feels impossible

52:30 Mainland Chinese vs Taiwanese Mandarin

59:10 Final thoughts & how to keep improving

01:02:30 How to support Mandarin Monkey

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We’re back. We both got hit with a nasty illness for a few weeks and lost our voices, so this one is low-energy and coughy. We talk about why we disappeared, why this Christmas felt “off”, a New Year’s Eve living-room campout with the kids, and how fast sickness can wipe you out. Then we look back at some 2025 goals, set fresh 2026 goals, and Tom admits he’s convinced Premium Bonds will make him a millionaire every month. We also share why Disney matters to us, plus a quick reminder: if you’ve been listening for ages and thinking about lessons, now’s a good time to start.

0:00 Welcome back and why we disappeared

0:40 Three weeks ill, lost voices, low energy

3:00 Christmas felt quiet this year

6:00 New Year’s Eve with kids and getting sick

10:30 Moving house, 2025 drama, hoping 2026 improves

17:00 Premium Bonds and the monthly million fantasy

20:30 2025 goals review, exercise, habits, tracking

26:00 Journaling, Finch app, wanting better insights

27:30 Disney plans and giving kids real memories

34:00 Hobbies, dates, books, piano, creative projects

40:00 2026 goals, family time, couple time

47:00 Where we might live next, avoiding tourist traps

50:30 Dog debate, Halloumi, dog sitting reality

54:30 Lessons, teachers, Patreon, wrap-up

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It’s our Christmas Special Mailbag.

We answer listener questions about real Chinese greetings, why “Ni Hao Ma” sounds unnatural, fear of flying explained by a pilot, and how to type pinyin with tone marks properly.

We finish with a fun Christmas quiz full of strange traditions and surprising facts from around the world.

If you’re learning Mandarin and want natural Chinese, not textbook Chinese, this episode is for you.

Topics include

• What to say instead of “Ni Hao Ma”

• Casual vs polite Chinese greetings

• Flying anxiety and turbulence explained

• Typing pinyin with tones

• Christmas traditions and trivia

Merry Christmas and thank you for listening to Mandarin Monkey.

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