Emotional Hypocrisy is Fueling Marital Inequality—and you might be contributing to it without realizing it. If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I the only one trying?” this episode may gently (or not so gently) challenge that assumption.

In many marriages, double standards quietly shape emotional labor, communication patterns, and resentment. We want closeness, attention, and intentional love—but excuse our own defensiveness, contempt, or silent scorekeeping. In this episode of Marriage IQ, Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings unpack how emotional hypocrisy distorts perception, how bias and mind-reading fuel inequality, and how to stop keeping score before resentment hardens into distance. (And to be clear: abuse is never condoned and requires a different response.)

If this hits a nerve, don’t shut it down—lean in. Share this with your spouse, schedule a 20-minute check-in, and choose one behavior you will change this week. That’s how healthy marriages shift. That’s how intelligent spouses lead.

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What if happiness in marriage—and in your family—isn’t about trying harder… but talking smarter?

In this episode of Marriage IQ, Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings sit down with Anil Gupta, aka The Love Doctor, to unpack his viral Happiness Formula and why most people think they’re doing it—while quietly missing the point.

We dive into why loving families still struggle with hard conversations, how avoidance sneaks into marriages and parenting, and what actually makes crucial conversations work with your spouse, kids, and family.

This isn’t therapy-speak. It’s practical, honest, and occasionally uncomfortable—in the best way.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does talking to the people I love most feel so complicated?”—this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen now and raise your Marriage IQ (and maybe your family’s too).

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If you are feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty, discover how the simple word "maybe" can reduce your anxiety and open the door to new possibilities.

In a world filled with unpredictability, it is easy to get stuck in rigid thinking that fuels stress. In this episode of Marriage iQ, Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings are joined by attorney and author Allison Carmen to discuss the surprising power of uncertainty.

Allison shares how embracing ambiguity - rather than fearing it - can offer the flexibility needed to navigate life’s complexities. We delve into practical strategies for coping with the unknown and explore how maintaining an open mindset can be a catalyst for personal growth.

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