Your spouse keeps saying, "I'm sorry." But then they hurt you the same way again. Trust is ruined, over and over. At some point this has to stop. But how?

It's incredibly painful when this cycle keeps happening, not because either of you wants to live this way, but because, shame, blame and unhealed wounds keep showing up in your reactions, your words, your relationship patterns. One of you feels stuck in the cycle of hurting. The other feels exhausted from being hurt and reacts out of that hurt. And both of you feel misunderstood, discouraged, and unsure how to make it stop.

In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we step into this frustrating dynamic with compassion for both sides, not to assign blame, but to uncover what’s really happening beneath the repeated pain and how couples can move through it in a way that brings healing instead of distance.

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When commitment starts to feel like misery, something deeper is usually going on.

In this episode, we talk about a kind of marriage commitment many Christians carry: staying faithful, showing up physically, doing the “right” things, while their heart slowly checks out.

You’re still married, still going through the motions, but the connection, joy, and emotional closeness feel distant or gone. We unpack the difference between simply staying committed and truly investing your heart and growth into the relationship, and why real covenant connection requires more than endurance, it requires intention, healing, and willingness to grow together.

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When a wife's respect for her husband disappears, both people are hurting.

In this episode, we’re naming 6 Reasons behind her loss of respect. This is not a blame-filled conversation. It’s an honest, compassionate look at why wives lose respect.

We unpack common patterns that break connection, attraction, and safety in marriage and why these patterns are signals of pain, not proof that love is gone. If you’ve felt lonely, resentful, or emotionally disconnected this episode will give language to what you’re experiencing and offer hope for what can still be healed.

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