The experience offered you pain. That pain was meant to be felt and released. It wasn't meant to be hung onto. It wasn't meant to be identified with. It wasn't meant to be lived from. It was meant to come and go. The pain is meant to be a temporary, finite experience.

It didn't come and go because your mind got a hold of it and did all kinds of stuff with it. That means you're still in pain and you blame it on things that happened 30 years ago. That pain is now self-created.

When the mind doesn't know what to do with a particularly traumatic experience, it offers us mental health issues. It offered me depression and suicidal tendencies. That is also self-created. The mind created that as a way to protect me. The only way out of that was to learn to manage myself within my own experience, deconstruct the pain, and then heal myself from the inside. And that's the topic of today's episode!

Let's talk about self-created pain. Let's talk about how pain causes our minds to protect us via mental health issues. Let's talk about what we can do with that.

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Love to all.

Della

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You always have a choice, whether the choice is directly offered or not. Those hidden choices are your point of control in any situation that you find yourself in.

Where is your point of control? Learning to spot those hidden points of control offers you the ability to feel like you have a bit more control over your experience.

Listen in today to learn more about these hidden choices and why they aren't boundaries!

It's a really eye-opening episode that I hope you'll tune in for.

Come check out my new blog, Mastering the Illusion, please visit ko-fi.com/masteringtheillusion.

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Della

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Are you a cycle breaker?

Do you see yourself in that way?

If you do, this episode is for you!

Cycle breaking isn't easy. You have to be willing to deal with the unknown, manage the fear, and change the patterns and cycles that are present in your life. But it is possible.

In this episode, I'm talking about how cycle breaking works, what you can do to start breaking the cycles, and why it matters.

Have a listen and let me know what you think!

If you enjoy the episode, please subscribe and share because it really does help my little podcast and I appreciate it more than you know.

Thanks for listening and I'll talk to you next.

Love to all.

Della

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Your point of control is within you, particularly when you don't have control over your experience.

Learning that is what allows you to see that you are not a victim of your experience, you are simply on the receiving end of somebody else's pain.

These are tough concepts. If you're interested in how to shift your perception of yourself as a victim, this episode is for you.

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Love to all.

Della

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Duality is the idea of opposites. We live in a world built on opposites and we spend a lot of time trying to get rid of the things we don't like. But is that possible? Isn't duality the reason why we're able to pick out what we like and what we don't like?

Join me as we talk about duality. Open your minds for this one! It's going to mess with your sense of right and wrong. It's going to mess with your idea of how the world is and how it should be.

This is a doozy!

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Love to all.

Della

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Not being confident in myself made dealing with the mundane things in my world really, really complicated. I was afraid of what would happen if I did manage the mundane things like laundry or dishes. I was afraid that I would turn into Cinderella or that the expectations would be so high that I would never be able to reach them.

What I've learned about the mundane experience and how to navigate it will fascinate you. Yes, even in the mundane world you can learn to manage yourself within the experience.

If you struggle with the people you live with leaving laundry on the floor or not wiping the crumbs off the counter, have a listen. This podcast will offer you some insight around how to manage yourself within those experiences.

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Love to all.

Della

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What happens when you don't get what you want? Do you blame the world around you? Do you let it tank your confidence? Do you give up?

What if not getting what you wanted meant you simply had some inner work to do?

On today's episode I'm talking about doing the inner work and what that looks like. I'm talking about the idea that maybe not getting what you want isn't a bad thing. Maybe you're being prepared to actually have the thing and hold onto it.

Tune in and let's talk about it!

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Love to all.

Della

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Choices!

We all get to make them every day, whether we want to or not. But what's the story you're telling about the choice? Can you see all the options available to you? Do you make yourself a victim of your own choices? Do you think you're stuck with a certain choice with no way out? Do you feel trapped in the choice you're making?

All these things affect how we feel and what we think about the choices we're making. They make us tell ourselves a story that often causes more pain than the choice itself does. Learning how to manage our thinking around the choices we make is an important part of the healing process.

Today, let's talk about how we get ourselves stuck in the choice. I'll be talking about the choices, the thinking behind them, the pain they create, and what to do to deal with all this within yourself so that you can keep your power within you.

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Love to al..

Della

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