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  • Always Look for a Glimmer of Light | With Denise Cesare, Founder, Author

    Always Look for a Glimmer of Light | With Denise Cesare, Founder, Author
    Jan 15 2026
    Introduction: When the Light Is Almost Invisible Denise Cesare didn't bring a complicated napkin. She didn't bring a framework. Or a system. Or a clever phrase designed to sound insightful. She brought a sentence that could only come from lived experience: "Always look for a glimmer of light." At first glance, it feels gentle. Comforting. Almost obvious. But as this conversation unfolds, you realize this isn't encouragement spoken from the sidelines. It's a survival strategy. Denise's story is not about optimism. It's about navigating real darkness — loss, identity disruption, silence, and uncertainty — and choosing, again and again, to stay present long enough to notice what hasn't gone out. This episode is a meditation on resilience, intuition, self-love, and the quiet courage it takes to keep going when there is no dramatic breakthrough — only the next small glimmer. The Core Idea: Light Doesn't Arrive All at Once Denise's napkin isn't asking us to find the light. It's asking us to look for it. That distinction matters. After a car accident in 2006, Denise gradually lost her voice due to a neurological condition called spasmodic dysphonia. For five years, she lived without a functional speaking voice — as a speech-language pathologist whose work depended on communication. No clear answers. No immediate solutions. No guarantees. What carried her through wasn't a single moment of rescue. It was the discipline of noticing what was still there. A child who understood her without words. A student who loved her voice — even when it changed. A friend clapping when she successfully spoke into a drive-through microphone for the first time in years. The glimmer wasn't dramatic. It was human. And it was enough to take the next step. When the Darkness Lasts Longer Than You Expect One of the most sobering parts of Denise's story is the timeline. Five years. That's how long she lived without a voice before finding the right medical partner and treatment. During that time, she continued working, advocating, adapting, and learning to accept accommodations she never imagined she'd need. What makes this part of the story powerful is not the eventual outcome — it's what she didn't do. She didn't give up. She didn't disappear. And she didn't outsource her knowing. At one point, she was told she should stop working altogether. That moment could have ended everything. Instead, Denise trusted her intuition and walked away. This is where the napkin becomes less poetic and more practical: Looking for the glimmer sometimes means refusing to accept a conclusion that doesn't feel true — even when it comes from an authority. "I Thought Someone Else Saved Me — But It Was Me" One of the most honest moments in the conversation comes when Denise reflects on what she believed kept her going. For years, she told herself it was her son. That he was the reason she stayed. That she endured the darkness for him. And then, later, she realized something deeper: It was self-love. Not in a performative sense. Not in a slogan sense. But in the quiet, daily choice to keep caring for herself — even when the path was unclear. This realization reframes the napkin entirely. The glimmer of light isn't always external. Sometimes, it's the part of you that refuses to abandon yourself. Silence as a Creative Incubator Ironically, the years without a voice became some of Denise's most creative years. Without the ability to speak freely, her inner world expanded. She began imagining new ways of working. New forms of expression. New ways to help people feel seen, included, and whole. Out of that space emerged: Deeper connection with her students A growing commitment to embodiment and self-acceptance And eventually, a book that arrived fully formed during the isolation of COVID One night, she woke with the story in her mind — a story that would become Moments in Motion with Love. She tested it not with focus groups or metrics, but with people who knew her heart. When her son heard it and cried, she knew. The glimmer had turned into a calling. Presence Is the Practice As the conversation deepens, a quiet truth surfaces again and again: We only ever have this moment. Denise doesn't talk about mindfulness as a trend. She talks about it as a necessity — especially for children, for people in pain, and for anyone navigating uncertainty. Her work now integrates movement, emotion, and accessibility, meeting people where they are — seated, standing, or lying down. The common thread is presence. Not fixing. Not forcing. Not rushing ahead. Just staying. That, too, is a form of light. 5 Key Takeaways (...
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    41 mins
  • Edge of the Napkin #20 - Build Your Growth Aura

    Edge of the Napkin #20 - Build Your Growth Aura
    Jan 11 2026
    Introduction: When Effort Isn't the Problem There comes a point in leadership where doing more stops working. You're focused. You're aligned. You're taking action. And yet—momentum feels heavier than it should. Trust takes longer to build. Progress happens, but it doesn't compound. This episode lives in that space. Not to offer another tactic or system, but to explore something quieter and more foundational: why some leaders seem to carry gravity, while others—with equal effort and capability—do not. What if the difference isn't effort at all, but structure? The Core Idea: Presence Is Built, Not Projected We often talk about presence as if it's a personality trait. Charisma. Confidence. Energy. But spend enough time around leaders whose influence endures and you start to notice something else. Their presence doesn't fluctuate with circumstances. They don't perform for the room. The room adjusts to them. That kind of presence isn't stylistic. It's structural. This is what I've come to call a Magnetic Growth Aura—not something you perform or manufacture, but something you build over time. The metaphor that makes this visible is architecture. Enduring buildings aren't designed from the outside in. Architects don't start with aesthetics. They start with foundations, load paths, and integrity—because if the structure is wrong, everything else eventually cracks. Leadership works the same way. Belief Before Evidence: The Invisible Foundation Every structure rests on a foundation you rarely see once the building is complete. For growth that lasts, that foundation is belief before evidence. Not blind optimism. Not wishful thinking. But the willingness to act from conviction before the proof shows up. Every meaningful body of work begins here. Someone moves without applause. Someone commits without guarantees. Someone trusts principles more than outcomes. Without this foundation, action hesitates and energy fragments. With it, decisions feel cleaner and effort carries weight. This is where Focus–Align–Act lives. It's the operating system. But operating systems still need architecture that can carry their power. Four Pillars That Carry the Weight What rises above the foundation isn't a single trait, but a structure built on four pillars. Confidence gives permission to act. Congruence creates credibility. Calm provides leverage without force. Contribution gives the work meaning beyond metrics. Most instability comes from overbuilding one pillar while neglecting the others. Confidence without congruence becomes arrogance. Calm without contribution becomes sterile. Contribution without confidence stays small. But when these four pillars work together, something subtle changes. People trust you faster. Decisions feel cleaner. Energy compounds instead of leaking. You stop forcing momentum. Gravity takes over. A Hall That Held There's a town with a meeting hall that never quite worked. Leaders debated lighting, seating, sound systems. Every fix helped briefly—then failed. A builder arrived and studied the ground. "If we repaint this hall," he said, "it will still collapse. If we rebuild the structure, people will gather." Foundations were expensive. Invisible. Unimpressive. But he rebuilt anyway. Winter came. Storms hit. Every other structure creaked. The hall held. By spring, no one asked questions. They just brought chairs. That's how aura works. 5 Key Takeaways (with Take Action) 1. Presence is structural, not stylistic Take Action: Notice where you're managing perception instead of strengthening foundations. 2. Belief before evidence creates momentum Take Action: Act on one conviction today without waiting for validation. 3. Confidence needs alignment to be trusted Take Action: Check where your words and actions may be slightly out of sync. 4. Calm multiplies impact Take Action: In one conversation today, slow the moment instead of pushing it. 5. Contribution is the point of growth Take Action: Ask: Who benefits if this works—and how? Closing Reflection A magnetic growth aura isn't built in moments. It's built in consistency. Belief before evidence. Alignment without negotiation. Calm under pressure. Contribution beyond scale. This isn't fast work. But it is enduring work. And like the best architecture, long after the noise fades, people will still feel something solid when they stand near what you've built. Chapters and Key Moments 00:00 The Essence of Influence 07:10 Building a Magnetic Growth Aura 10:01 The Four Pillars of Magnetic Growth 14:04 The Integration of Confidence, Congruence, Calm, and Contribution 17:22 The Long-Term Impact of a Magnetic Growth...
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    19 mins
  • Help Me See What You See - With Susan Asiyanbi Founder and CEO Olori Network

    Help Me See What You See - With Susan Asiyanbi Founder and CEO Olori Network
    Jan 8 2026
    Introduction: Seeing Beyond What We See Susan Asiyanbi is one of only two guests in the history of Paper Napkin Wisdom to draw eyes on a napkin. Not symbols. Not words alone. Eyes — complete with lashes — and a simple phrase beneath them: "Help me see what you see." At first glance, it feels poetic. But as this conversation unfolds, you realize it's not poetic at all. It's practical. It's disciplined. And it may be one of the most underutilized leadership skills in modern organizations — and in our personal lives. Susan's work lives at the intersection of leadership, learning, and human systems. And in this conversation, she offers a deceptively simple idea that carries enormous weight: Your perspective is true — and incomplete. That sentence alone could sit on a napkin and change how meetings are run, how families navigate hard seasons, and how leaders unlock innovation, alignment, and trust. What follows is not a theory-heavy conversation. It's a grounded exploration of how curiosity — real curiosity — becomes the gateway to better leadership, stronger relationships, and faster, more sustainable results. govindh-jayaramans-studio_susan… The Core Idea: Perspective Is True and Incomplete One of the most powerful moments in the conversation comes early, when Susan names something many leaders feel but rarely articulate: "I just think it's critical to frame and see the world in a way where you know that your perspective is true — and also incomplete." That framing does two things at once. First, it honors experience. Your view matters. It's informed by what you've lived, seen, and learned. Second, it creates humility. No matter how senior you are, no matter how experienced, you are missing something. And the missing pieces don't live in data dashboards alone. They live in other people. This is where leadership either contracts… or expands. Curiosity Is Not a Soft Skill — It's a Sophisticated One Susan pushes back hard on the idea that curiosity and listening are "soft skills." She reframes them as sophisticated skills — the hardest ones to master. Why? Because our brains are wired to respond, defend, and conclude quickly. The moment someone says, "I see it differently," our nervous system is already preparing a counterargument. Susan offers a disciplined alternative: Ask seven questions. Not to stall. Not to perform curiosity. But to interrupt the brain's rush to certainty. She explains that leaders who claim they "don't have time" for this work are already paying a much higher price — in rework, misalignment, fractured relationships, and emotional repair. Slow down now, or pay for it later — with interest. govindh-jayaramans-studio_susan… When Words Become Shortcuts (and Create Misalignment) One of the most practical insights in the episode is how teams often use the same words — but mean entirely different things. Strategy. Innovation. Culture. Acceleration. Susan shares an example of an executive team all agreeing they had a "strategy problem," only to discover: One leader meant product-market misalignment Another meant execution breakdown Another meant culture and retention Same word. Three different action paths. Zero shared understanding. This is how organizations burn time and energy without realizing it. Curiosity slows the conversation just enough to ask: "When you say that word — what does it mean to you?" That single question can save months of misdirected effort. govindh-jayaramans-studio_susan… The Personal Mirror: When Assumptions Hurt the Most One of the most human moments in the conversation comes when Susan shares a deeply personal story about navigating grief with her siblings after the loss of their father. They all agreed on one thing: "We want to love and support our mom." And yet — chaos followed. Why? Because each sibling held a different definition of what "support" meant: Being physically together Honoring her wishes Planning for long-term care No one asked the seven questions. Everyone assumed alignment. This is the paradox Susan names beautifully: We take the greatest shortcuts with the people we love the most. And those shortcuts cost us understanding. The napkin phrase becomes personal here: Help me see what you see — especially when I think I already know. govindh-jayaramans-studio_susan… The Currency of Challenge Is Connection A subtle but powerful theme emerges as the conversation deepens: Once someone feels understood, challenge becomes possible. Susan calls understanding the currency for challenge and change. When people know you've truly seen their ...
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    44 mins
  • One Punch. One Practice. One Shift. Why Mastery Beats Momentum in Leadership

    One Punch. One Practice. One Shift. Why Mastery Beats Momentum in Leadership
    Jan 4 2026
    We are drowning in leadership wisdom. Quotes. Frameworks. Podcasts. Books. Slides. Ideas stacked on top of ideas — each one sounding right, useful, even necessary. And yet, if we're honest, something feels off. We've never known more about leadership… and rarely have we lived less of it. This isn't a crisis of information. It's a crisis of integration. We confuse motion with progress. Exposure with understanding. Volume with mastery. And nowhere is this more visible than in the leadership clichés we repeat — often without realizing how quickly they begin to replace practice instead of invite it. The Paradox of the Napkin Before we go any further, let's name the paradox. Paper Napkin Wisdom is about ideas small enough to fit on a napkin — and yes, this piece critiques leadership clichés. But here's the distinction that matters: A cliché is an idea that feels complete the moment you hear it. A napkin is a compression of something already lived. Same size. Very different weight. Clichés give us the feeling of wisdom. Napkin wisdom asks for commitment. When Familiar Phrases Stop Teaching Take a line like: "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." Powerful? Absolutely. Misused? Constantly. Instead of reflection, it becomes judgment. Instead of awareness, it becomes exclusion. Or consider: "Everything rises and falls on leadership." It sounds empowering — until leaders take credit for systems they inherited and blame themselves (or others) for constraints they didn't design. Or: "People don't buy what you do, they buy why you do it." Purpose matters — deeply. But purpose without execution erodes trust faster than no purpose at all. These ideas aren't wrong. They're unfinished. And when we treat them as conclusions instead of invitations, they quietly stop shaping behavior. The Weight of Knowing If reading this feels a little heavy — that's intentional. This is what modern leadership feels like. We're told: Discipline beats motivation Manage your energy, not your time What gets measured gets managed Culture eats strategy for breakfast Hire slow, fire fast Clear is kind Fail fast No excuses Start with the end in mind Most of these are true. Some of them are deeply helpful. And still — something breaks. Leadership doesn't fail from lack of insight. It fails from fragmentation. We try to live everything at once. We stack frameworks like furniture in a room we never sit in. Eventually, wisdom turns into noise — not because it isn't true, but because nothing is practiced long enough to become reflex. A Story About the Difference There's a story about a seeker who travels to a hall filled with teachers. Each room offers wisdom: Influence. Vision. Discipline. Culture. Systems. Resilience. The seeker moves quickly. Nods. Takes notes. Moves on. At the end of the day, his notebook is full. As he leaves, an old man asks him a simple question: "Which room did you return to?" The seeker pauses. "I didn't," he says. "There were too many to see." The old man replies, "Then you didn't study leadership. You visited it." At the end of the hall is one small room. One teacher. One lesson — practiced every day. That's the difference between volume and mastery. The Quieter Wisdom We Ignore Some of the most enduring leadership truths don't shout. "I fear not the man who has practiced ten thousand punches once, but the man who has practiced one punch ten thousand times." Mastery doesn't look exciting. It looks repetitive. Boring. Restrained. Until pressure arrives. That's when it works. Or consider: "Beware the man of one book." Not because he knows less — but because the idea knows him. These aren't ideas you collect. They're ideas you return to. The Real Invitation Leadership culture rewards motion. But leadership that lasts requires commitment. You don't need more ideas. You need: fewer ideas practiced longer lived deeper And yes — there's irony here. Paper Napkin Wisdom trades in short ideas. But here's the distinction that matters: A cliché ends the conversation. A napkin starts one.
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    22 mins
  • If It's Not a Hell Yes, It's an Easy No | Guest: Liza Roeser Founder, CEO of Fifty Flowers

    If It's Not a Hell Yes, It's an Easy No | Guest: Liza Roeser Founder, CEO of Fifty Flowers
    Jan 1 2026
    Some ideas don't need to be polished. They don't need to be optimized. They don't need a strategy deck or a five-year plan. They just need to be true. When Liza Roeser wrote her napkin for this conversation, she didn't overthink it. She didn't hedge it. She didn't soften it. She wrote: If it's not a Hell Yes, it's an easy No. At first glance, it sounds obvious. Almost too simple. But as you'll hear in this conversation, simple doesn't mean easy. This napkin came from lived experience — from building, growing, sustaining, and at times questioning a business in the real world. From moments where saying "yes" felt exciting… and others where it quietly drained energy, focus, and alignment. Liza shared openly about the tension leaders face when opportunity is everywhere — when good ideas, good offers, and good paths forward keep showing up. And how, paradoxically, those "good" options can become the very thing that pulls us away from what's right. This episode isn't about being reckless. It's about being honest. Honest with your energy. Honest with your capacity. Honest with what you're truly available for — and what you're no longer willing to carry. The Hidden Cost of "Maybe" One of the themes that kept resurfacing in this conversation was how hard it can be to identify a true Hell Yes — especially for high performers. Leaders are wired to push. Entrepreneurs are trained to see possibility everywhere. Builders are conditioned to believe that effort can make anything work. And yet, Liza spoke candidly about moments when pushing through wasn't noble — it was exhausting. When perseverance crossed the line into misalignment. When shutting something down was harder than starting it, but necessary. There's a subtle trap here: When everything feels like an opportunity, nothing feels like a clear choice. And in that fog, "maybe" becomes the default. Not because it's right — but because it delays discomfort. But as Liza reflected, when decisions come from that place, clarity erodes. Energy leaks. And leadership becomes heavier than it needs to be. Why "Easy No" Is an Act of Leadership What stood out in this episode wasn't bravado or bold declarations. It was restraint. Liza talked about how difficult it can be to say no — not because the answer is unclear, but because the implications are real. Saying no can mean disappointing people. Letting go of revenue. Closing doors that once mattered. And yet, the alternative is far more costly. Dragging a half-hearted yes forward doesn't just slow you down — it reshapes your culture, your calendar, and your confidence. An "easy no" isn't dismissive. It's decisive. It protects what matters most so your Hell Yes has room to breathe. 5 Key Takeaways from This Conversation 1. A Hell Yes is felt before it's justified Liza shared how clarity often shows up as a feeling long before logic catches up. The challenge isn't knowing — it's trusting what you already know. Take Action: Before you analyze the upside, ask: Does this expand me or drain me? 2. Hard choices don't mean wrong choices There were moments Liza described that were deeply difficult — emotionally and practically — yet still clearly right. Take Action: Stop equating difficulty with misalignment. Some of the best decisions are hard because they matter. 3. Good opportunities can be dangerous Not everything that's viable is valuable. Not everything that works is worth it. Take Action: Review your current commitments and identify one "good" thing that may be crowding out something great. 4. Energy is a leadership metric Liza spoke about how decisions made without regard for energy eventually show up everywhere — in culture, quality, and momentum. Take Action: Audit where your energy consistently drops. That's data. 5. An easy no creates space for the right yes Saying no isn't about shrinking — it's about making room. Take Action: Ask yourself: What would become possible if I released what I'm tolerating? A Quiet Question to Sit With As you listen to this episode, you may notice a situation, an offer, or a commitment that's been lingering in your mind. Not wrong. Not broken. Just… heavy. And you may already know the answer. Because when it's truly a Hell Yes, it doesn't require convincing. It simply feels like alignment. More About the Guest Liza Roeser is the founder of FiftyFlowers, a company built with intention, resilience, and a deep understanding of what it takes to grow something meaningful over time. Her insights in this episode come not from theory, but from lived leadership — navigating growth, challenge, and clarity in the real world....
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    47 mins
  • Cut the Anchor: Why Your Most Powerful Resolution for 2026 Might Be a STOP List - Edge of the Napkin Series #18

    Cut the Anchor: Why Your Most Powerful Resolution for 2026 Might Be a STOP List - Edge of the Napkin Series #18
    Dec 28 2025
    This time of year, something familiar happens. We turn the page on the calendar and feel the pull to do something different. We reach for a word like resolution and instinctively pair it with action. More discipline. More consistency. More output. More effort. Most resolutions are framed as additions — new habits, new systems, new rules we promise ourselves we'll finally follow. But what if the most powerful move forward isn't about what you start doing? What if real momentum comes from what you're willing to stop? Growth Isn't Always About More We've been taught that progress is cumulative. That success comes from stacking behaviors, strategies, and systems. But clarity doesn't work that way. Focus doesn't work that way. Energy doesn't work that way. The leaders and entrepreneurs who move with conviction instead of exhaustion aren't doing more. They're carrying less. They've learned that growth is often subtraction — and that the fastest way forward is removing what no longer belongs. Why Most Resolutions Don't Stick Most resolutions fail for a simple reason: They ask you to become someone new without letting go of who you've been. You try to build a new future on top of old beliefs, habits, and emotional patterns — patterns that were never designed to support where you're going next. That creates friction. You don't need more motivation. You need fewer anchors. A Parable: The Boat That Wouldn't Move A seasoned sailor couldn't understand why his boat felt heavy. The wind was strong. The sails were raised. The destination was clear. So he worked harder. Adjusted the sails. Studied the charts. Still, the boat barely moved. An old shipwright finally took a look. He didn't touch the sails. He leaned over the side and pointed. "You're dragging anchors." Plural. Old anchors. Forgotten anchors. Anchors from earlier journeys that once made sense — but no longer did. "But I never dropped anchor," the sailor said. "No," the shipwright replied. "But you never stopped carrying them." Leadership works the same way. You don't need more wind. You need to cut what no longer belongs. The STOP List: A New Kind of Resolution If growth is subtraction, then the most powerful resolution you can make is a STOP list. Not aspirational. Not performative. Practical. Honest. Personal. Here are some anchors leaders and entrepreneurs commonly drag. Stop second-guessing yourself Second-guessing masquerades as responsibility, but it fractures momentum. Certainty doesn't mean being right — it means not abandoning yourself mid-decision. Stop playing small to make others comfortable Dimming your light doesn't protect people. It deprives them. Leadership requires clarity, not contraction. Stop using belief in the wrong direction Belief shapes behavior. Behavior shapes results. If belief is aimed against your future, it becomes your most expensive anchor. Stop giving unsolicited advice Sometimes people don't need fixing. They need safety. Presence often outperforms expertise. Stop playing devil's advocate when encouragement is needed There's a time for rigor — and a time to borrow belief to someone who's still finding theirs. Certainty Is the Lens That Reveals What to Stop Certainty isn't arrogance or rigidity. It's clarity of direction. When you're certain — even loosely — about where you're heading, you gain a powerful filter. You see what doesn't fit. You notice where energy leaks. You recognize what you've been tolerating. Certainty doesn't make life easier. It makes decisions cleaner. A Personal Reflection I thought I was being generous by holding back. Being measured. Being considerate. But I realized I wasn't being my full light. A friend reflected this back to me in a Christmas message: "You're selfless with your love and advice to all of us lucky enough to have you in our lives." It didn't land as praise. It landed as a call to action. If that's true, then holding back isn't humility. It's withholding. So my STOP list became clear: Stop dimming. Stop self-editing. Stop believing that being fully myself is "too much." My commitment isn't to do more. It's to be more by stopping what isn't aligned. 5 Key Takeaways (with Take Action) 1. Growth is often subtraction, not addition Take Action: Write a STOP list before you write a goal list. Identify one habit, belief, or behavior to remove before adding anything new. 2. Certainty reveals where energy is leaking Take Action: Ask yourself: "What am I tolerating that no longer fits where I'm going?" Circle one ...
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    15 mins
  • People Come for the Work. They Stay for the Team. – Wintress Odom, CEO The Writers for Hire

    People Come for the Work. They Stay for the Team. – Wintress Odom, CEO The Writers for Hire
    Dec 25 2025
    Wintress Odom is the Founder and CEO of The Writers For Hire, a company built on clarity, discipline, and consistently high-quality work. From the outside, it's easy to assume the success came from systems, execution, and technical excellence alone. But on her paper napkin, Wintress wrote something deceptively simple: "People come for the work. They stay for the team." That sentence didn't come from a leadership book. It came from lived experience — from building a business, leading people, and learning (sometimes the hard way) what actually keeps a team engaged over time. This conversation is about a shift many leaders make too late… and how everything changes when they finally make it. The Napkin That Changed the Way She Led Early in her journey, Wintress did what many high-performing founders do: She optimized for output. She valued efficiency. She valued competence. She valued getting the work done — and getting it done well. What she didn't value (at least at first) were the things that felt inefficient: Team time Small talk Recognition Emotional check-ins "Soft" leadership moments In her mind, the work was the reward. But that assumption quietly created distance. Not because the work wasn't good — it was. Not because people weren't capable — they were. But because not everyone is motivated by the same things. And leadership breaks down the moment we assume they are. The "Everyone Is Like Me" Trap One of the most important moments in this conversation is Wintress's realization that she was leading from an unspoken belief: If the work matters to me, it should matter the same way to everyone else. That belief is subtle. And incredibly common. It shows up as: Silence instead of appreciation High standards without context Feedback only when something goes wrong A culture where results matter… but people don't always feel seen What surprised Wintress wasn't just that the team felt disconnected — it was that she didn't see it coming. From her perspective, she was being fair. From theirs, she felt distant. That gap is where disengagement begins. Why "Doing the Work" Isn't Enough One of the clearest insights from this episode is this: You can't expect the work alone to carry the relationship. People may join because the work is meaningful. They may start because the role fits. But they stay because of how it feels to belong. Wintress didn't change her standards. She didn't lower expectations. What she changed was how she showed up between the work. She learned to: Say thank you Offer meaningful feedback Acknowledge effort, not just outcomes Create space for people to enjoy working together Those shifts didn't slow the business down. They accelerated it. Culture Is Not a Perk — It's a Multiplier As Wintress describes it, once she stopped leading by silent example and started leading with intentional connection, something unexpected happened: The team didn't just feel better. They performed better. Trust increased. Engagement increased. Ownership increased. And the work — the very thing she had always prioritized — improved because of it. This is the paradox many leaders miss: When people feel respected and included, they give more — not less. Culture isn't the opposite of productivity. It's what sustains it. The Quiet Shift That Changed Everything What makes this wisdom so powerful is that it isn't flashy. There's no grand overhaul. No dramatic turnaround story. Just a leader willing to question a long-held assumption: What motivates me might not motivate everyone else. That awareness created room for: Mutual respect Real engagement A team people actually wanted to be part of And that's what turned a group of capable individuals into a cohesive, loyal team. Five Key Takeaways from Episode 325 1. People don't stay for the work alone. The work may attract them — the team keeps them. 2. Efficiency without connection creates distance. What feels "productive" to a leader can feel cold to a team. 3. Not everyone is motivated like you are. Assuming they are is one of leadership's most expensive mistakes. 4. Appreciation is not inefficiency.
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    51 mins
  • Presence Over Presents: The Ultimate Gift You Can Give Yourself This Holiday

    Presence Over Presents: The Ultimate Gift You Can Give Yourself This Holiday
    Dec 21 2025
    The holidays come wrapped in familiar language. Slow down. Rest. Be present. Unplug. It sounds right. It even sounds desirable. And yet, for many leaders and entrepreneurs, it doesn't always land. If anything, the holidays can quietly amplify a tension that's been humming all year. Because while the world appears to be pausing, something inside you may still be moving. Measuring. Reviewing. Assessing. For years, that's where I lived. When the Holidays Became a Scorecard While others talked about rest, I found myself doing a very quiet audit. Not intentionally at first — just instinctively. I'd look back at the year and notice the ideas I didn't follow. The projects that stalled. The results that didn't show up the way I expected. Revenue targets. KPIs. Momentum. And without ever saying it out loud, my body would reach a conclusion: There's a gap. So naturally, I wanted to fix it. Fill the gap. Drive the solution. Push forward. The problem wasn't ambition. The problem was timing. Because that push showed up at the exact moment the rest of the world was letting go. Clients were offline. Teams were unplugging. Suppliers were closed. And suddenly, my internal urgency had nowhere to go. That misalignment — between my energy and the world's rhythm — left me uneasy. Anxious. Off balance. Overcorrecting in the Wrong Direction Sometimes I tried to solve that discomfort by staying busy anyway. If I couldn't push at work, I'd overperform at home. I'd pour myself into family time with intensity. I'd put pressure on moments to be meaningful. I'd try to manufacture presence. And when things didn't go perfectly — when moods shifted or plans changed — I'd feel that same unease return. Because effort and presence aren't the same thing. Trying to be present carries tension. Actually being present carries permission. For a long time, I didn't know how to give myself that permission. A Quiet Shift This year feels different. And not because the year was perfect. What's changed is where I've been placing my attention. For the first time in a long time — maybe since I was a kid — I feel aligned heading into the holidays. Not checked out. Not forcing calm. Not pretending everything's fine. Aligned. I feel in tune with my family. I feel present. I feel ready for this season — not just the calendar version of it. And what surprised me most is that this shift didn't come from doing more. It came from seeing something that was already there. The Vision That Was Waiting At some point, I started paying attention to a vision I'd carried for years. Not a business plan. Not a list of goals. A life vision. Whenever I pictured my future, my family was always there. Smiling. Content. Peaceful. Not rushed. No frantic energy. No sense of being pulled somewhere else. Just time. Time together. And when I really looked at that vision — like watching a movie — something became obvious. Time wasn't a reward for success. Time was the success. That realization didn't create urgency. It created gratitude. Because the vision didn't feel distant. It felt familiar. Like something I'd been overlooking while chasing outcomes. The Treasure That Was Already Home There's a timeless parable echoed in books like The Alchemist and The Greatest Salesman in the World. A man travels the world searching for treasure — crossing deserts, following signs, enduring hardship — only to discover that the treasure was buried beneath the place he started. The journey wasn't wasted. It was necessary. Because without it, he wouldn't have recognized the treasure even if it had been handed to him. That's what this realization felt like. The striving. The pressure. The misaligned holidays. They weren't mistakes. They were what made alignment visible. Presence > Presents So here's the napkin wisdom at the center of this season: Presence > Presents Not as a rejection of gifts. Not as a rule or a moral statement. But as a reminder. The most meaningful gift you can give yourself — and the people you care about — isn't something you buy. It's something you inhabit. Presence isn't passive. It's practiced. And the gateway to it is vision. The Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself The ultimate gift this holiday isn't rest. It's time to connect with your vision for the future. Not your goals. Not your metrics. Your life. Presence >
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    15 mins