Overcoming Life's Inner Prisons

In this compelling episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Matt Melvin, author of 'Bullied Behind Bars.' Matt shares his harrowing experiences of incarceration, bullying, and isolation, focusing on the mental prison of blame and anger that lingered long after his physical release. The conversation delves into the challenges many men face, such as shame, fear, and past trauma, and discusses the importance of emotional survival, men's groups, and what it truly means to feel free inside.

Matt talks about his journey to self-love and forgiveness and his plans to create a supportive community for men. This episode provides a powerful reminder that freedom is more about inner connection and honesty rather than external conditions.

00:00 Introduction to Forgiveness and Accountability
00:13 Welcome to Real Men Feel
00:34 Meet Matt Melvin: Author and Survivor
02:01 Matt's Journey Through Incarceration
05:31 Life After Prison: Challenges and Growth
13:11 The Importance of Men's Work and Vulnerability
19:23 Matt's Vision for the Future
27:45 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

Connect with Matt
Matt Melvin — https://www.bulliedbehindbars.com/
Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/matthew.melvin.5621
X — https://x.com/barsbullied

Resources
Bullied Behind Bars: A Gay Christian Trump Supporter Goes to Prison by Matt Melvin — https://amzn.to/4r2mSi8

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Embracing Vulnerability and Authenticity

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant is joined by Tyler Foley, a keynote speaker and author of 'The Power to Speak Naked.' They delve into topics such as masculinity, leadership, vulnerability, and the complexities of jealousy and control for men. Tyler shares how his communication skills and diverse influences shape his masculinity and confidence.

The conversation also explores relationship dynamics, including how to be supportive of a successful partner and how traditional notions of 'being alpha' are outdated. They discuss how true leadership involves listening, authenticity, and the power of stripping away the facade to reveal the raw, honest truth.

00:00 Introduction and Opening Thoughts
00:28 Welcome and Guest Introduction
00:43 Exploring Masculinity and Leadership
01:53 Tyler's Personal Journey and Influences
09:12 The Power of Vulnerability
13:29 The Concept of Speaking Naked
15:46 Authenticity and Self-Awareness
16:40 Supporting a Partner's Success
21:24 Challenging the Alpha Male Stereotype
27:13 Effective Leadership and Communication
29:45 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Connect with Tyler
Tyler Foley — https://seantylerfoley.com
Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/SeanTylerFoleyYYC
LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/seantylerfoley
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/seantylerfoley/

Resources
The Power to Speak Naked: How to Speak with Confidence, Communicate Effectively, and Win Your Audience by Tyler Foley — https://amzn.to/3LmZ1ea

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:
Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the
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Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org
YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the often taboo topic of erectile dysfunction, sexual performance anxiety, and the fear of being broken with guest Shay Doran. Shay, a coach who helps men overcome these issues, shares his personal journey and insights on why ED is rarely just about the body but more about mindset. They discuss the societal pressures and beliefs that contribute to performance anxiety, the impact on relationships, and the importance of seeking help.

Shay also explores the harmful cycle of quick fixes and the cultural differences in perceptions of masculinity and sexual performance. The episode emphasizes that these challenges are normal and that men aren't alone in their struggles.

00:00 The Influence of Porn on Sex Education
00:36 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Today's Topic
00:52 Meet Shay Doran: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety
01:43 Shay's Personal Journey with Performance Anxiety
04:24 The Root Causes of Performance Anxiety
06:31 The Performative Mindset and Its Impact
07:17 Distinguishing Between Medical and Mindset Issues
10:06 The Trap of Quick Fixes and Marketing Scams
13:10 The Importance of Seeking Help and Guidance
17:37 The Relational Impact of Erectile Dysfunction
20:31 Addressing the Elephant in the Room
21:11 Non-Judgmental Support and Communication
22:10 Working with Men on Performance Issues
23:19 Unique Challenges for Gay and Bi Men
25:43 Decoupling Masculine Identity from Sexual Performance
28:26 Common Aha Moments in Therapy
30:30 Cultural Differences in Masculinity and Performance Anxiety
32:01 Normalizing Sexual Performance Fluctuations
34:10 Impact of Porn on Sexual Performance
34:56 Connecting with Shay Doran
36:14 Beyond Sexual Performance: Living Authentically
38:28 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Shay
Shay Doran — https://shay-doran.com
YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran

Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:
Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the
Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group
Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant
Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org
YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel

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