Episode Summary:

In this episode of Rewired for Love, host JaCarie Owens explores why love can feel overwhelming, activating, and anxiety-inducing, especially for people with anxious attachment and relational trauma. JaCarie breaks down how attachment wounds form, how trauma lives in the body, and why our nervous system often reacts before our logic can catch up.

Using real-life examples, cultural context, and compassionate nervous system education, this episode helps listeners understand that anxious attachment is not a flaw but a survival response shaped by inconsistency, loss, and chronic stress.

Listeners are guided through practical tools for grounding, self-compassion, and beginning the process of rewiring attachment patterns toward safety and security.

Key Takeaways:

• Anxious attachment develops when love is felt to be inconsistent or unpredictable.

• Trauma lives in the body, which is why anxiety shows up before logic.

• Love can feel unsafe when the nervous system associates closeness with survival.

• Cultural and generational trauma can intensify attachment anxiety.

• Overthinking, reassurance seeking, and fear of abandonment are protective strategies.

• Healing anxious attachment starts with safety, not self-judgment.

• Secure attachment is built through repeated experiences of calm and consistency.

  
  

Reflection and Practices from the Episode:

• Naming anxiety as a nervous system response rather than a personal failure.

• Grounding the body through breath, touch, and safety cues.

• Practicing receiving care without earning or performing for it.

• Offering compassion to the younger parts of yourself that learned to stay alert.

• Communicating needs in relationships without shame.

  
  

Connect With Us:

• Write to Us: rewiredforlovepodcast@gmail.com

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/RewiredForLovePodcast

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RewiredForLovePodcast

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and recap of the Rewired for Love foundation

02:00 Why love feels like anxiety and how anxious attachment forms

06:00 How trauma and the nervous system shape relationship patterns

10:00 Anxious attachment in daily life and relationships

13:00 Grounding tools and nervous system regulation

16:00 Inner child and parts work for attachment healing

18:30 Reframing connection and practicing secure attachment

21:00 Weekly reflection, affirmations, and closing

Music Credits: Music by FASSounds from Pixabay

Episode Summary:

In this introductory episode of Rewired for Love, your host JaCarie Owens, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, EMDR-trained coach and consultant, welcomes you into a safe and compassionate space to explore relational trauma, attachment wounds, and the nervous system responses that shape how we love and connect.

JaCarie explains why so many adults repeat unhealthy relationship patterns, shut down, over-function, or chase unavailable love, and reminds listeners that they are not broken. Instead, many of us are simply carrying old wiring that we were never taught how to heal. This podcast will guide you toward secure, grounded, emotionally safe relationships through education, reflection, and loving accountability.

Key Takeaways:

• You are not broken. Many behaviors come from survival wiring developed earlier in life.

• Childhood coping strategies can become barriers in adult relationships.

• Healing involves learning secure love and regulating the nervous system.

• Culture and generational beliefs shape how we see love, vulnerability, and strength.

• Honest self-reflection paired with compassion supports real growth.

• This podcast is a safe and supportive place for authentic healing work.

  
  

Connect With Us:

• Write to Us: rewiredforlovepodcast@gmail.com

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/RewiredForLovePodcast

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RewiredForLovePodcast

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rewiredforlovepodcast

  
  

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome to Rewired for Love + who this podcast is for

01:10 Meet your host, JaCarie Owens

02:30 Why old emotional wiring shapes our relationships

03:45 What you can expect from this space moving forward

Music Credits: Music by FASSounds from Pixabay