In Episode 9 of Rewrite Your Story, Milton and Victoria continue the 7 Guiding Principles and move deeper into the Heal Pillar, where compassion becomes the foundation for real change.

They explore “fractured strategies” (the protective patterns you built to survive), why your nervous system clings to what’s familiar (even when it’s painful), and how Parts Work/IFS helps you understand behaviors like fawning, freezing, avoidance, and self-protection without labeling yourself as “broken.”

You’ll also hear why desire isn’t enough (growth takes work) and how sustainable progress comes from holding multiple truths at once (dialectical thinking): hard and doable, comfort and challenge, wanting change and fearing it.

If you’ve ever thought, “If I wanted to change, I would,” this episode offers a more compassionate (and realistic) explanation, and a path forward that doesn’t rely on shame.

In this reset episode of Rewrite Your Story, Milton and Victoria step back to clarify the foundation of the Self-Alignment System (SAS): seven guiding principles designed to function as a compass, not a set of rigid rules.

They explore why lasting change starts with reality (people are doing the best they can with what they have right now) and how real growth happens when we look for cause instead of blame. Using relatable metaphors like compasses, prototypes, and “fail points vs. failure,” they explain why skills don’t stick unless they’re practiced across real-life situations, not just in controlled or ideal settings.

If you’re exhausted by shame-based self-help, trying to force yourself into someone else’s mold, or feeling discouraged when progress isn’t perfect, this episode offers a grounding reset and a more compassionate way forward.

In this episode of Rewrite Your Story, Milton and Victoria officially step into the Heal Pillar of the Self-Alignment System (SAS) and talk about what real emotional healing actually looks like in everyday life. They share the difference between anxious, urgency-driven change and wise, self-aligned change, and use the metaphor of kintsugi (repairing broken pottery with gold) to explore how your “cracks” and past experiences can become part of your strength instead of your shame.

From there, they introduce the Heal Pillar’s first core skill: dropping the anchor. Through stories about crystals, grounding objects, skin-to-skin contact, and even paramedics and babies, they walk through practical emotional grounding tools you can use when you’re overwhelmed, like five-senses check-ins, deep breathing, body awareness, and touch. You’ll learn how grounding helps your nervous system settle, clears brain fog, and moves you from reactivity into that “watchtower” state we explored in the Learn Pillar.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in anxiety, panic, or dissociation (or like your past is steering the present), this episode will help you start healing by coming back into your body, honoring your broken pieces, and choosing the next step from a grounded, self-aligned place.