If you’ve listened to the podcast for a while, you probably know the story about how Corey and Tracy met at a lesbian pool party and the subsequent past life connections they have uncovered over the years. But, did you know that Corey gets Tracy a Happy Friendaversary card every fourth of July or that Tracy’s favorite memory with Corey was trying to get past a rattlesnake while out hiking? Tune in for an honest chat about how Corey’s and Tracy’s friendship has changed over the years, the spiritual journey that continues to pull them together, and why Corey wants a doily for their ten-year Friendaversay. In the end, though, they decide on a new slogan for the friendship moving forward -Thriving, Not Surviving. Learn more about what that means in this special season finale!

Show Notes:

• The Kardashians-Check out this reality show about the celebrity Kardashian family.
• The Wallenda Effect-Find out more about tightrope walker, Karl Wallenda, and how the fear of failure can lead to failure.

From being a provocateur to backstabbing and unpleasantness to dishonesty, we as humans often put up with a lot from people, some of whom are genuinely our friends. What can you do to prevent yourself from getting caught up in a toxic friendship, and how can you get out of one when your so-called friend has crossed the line? Tune in for some doozies of stories from Corey and Tracy about the toxicity they have each encountered, red flags to look for, and how to transition out of a toxic friendship. And, if you want to know about Tracy’s fears in keeping a journal (or secrets, for that matter) or why Corey won’t ever go “back into a burning building,” you’ll definitely want to check out this episode!

Show Notes:

• Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage-Find out more about Belle Burden’s experience reflecting on a marriage in which her husband walked out with no real explanation.
• Worst Roommate Ever-Watch this TV series about roommates who turned out to be criminals.
• Worst Ex Ever-Tune in to this TV documentary series about exes who have engaged in violence and betrayal.
• The Kardashians-Check out this reality show about the celebrity Kardashian family.

Why do some people vanish once they enter a new relationship? Tune in for a discussion where we talk all about time management, capacity, jealousy, isolation, friends not liking partners and partners not liking friends, retreating during a time of historic unrest, and all sorts of other reasons people nest. Tracy talks about her limitations being around feelings of overwhelm in that you can’t just prioritize something like hanging out with a friend over a barking dog who is calling for your immediate attention. Corey talks about the social obligation she feels to bring other lesbians together as a way of creating solidarity and community. And, as usual, they don’t agree about traveling with others!

Show Notes:

• Girls Just Wanna Weekend-Learn more Brandi Carlile’s weekend in Mexico where she brings together affirming musicians and performers in celebration of community!

Whether you decided to be friends before dating, ended up dating an acquaintance turned partner, or confessed your feelings to your bestie, a whopping 68 percent of people are in a relationship with someone they were friends with first. Tune in for Tracy’s story about heading off romantic vibes from friends by telling them she is a Republican and Corey’s about how salted tortilla chips and a metaphorical piano falling from the sky wooed her in to fall in love with a friend. And, you won’t want to miss some insightful tips about what to consider before confessing your feelings for your buddy!

Show Notes:

• How Often Friends Become Lovers-Check out this article all about transitioning from friendship to romance.
• Coach Dorothy-Tune in to Dorothy Johnson’s podcast about getting past heartbreak.
• Unanswered Prayers-Listen to Garth Brook’s hit song about being thankful that some things don’t come to fruition after all.

Join us for an insightful and invigorating discussion with Alisa Kriegel, author of From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess, A Memoir. We talk all about her experiences and perspectives on fostering a post-marriage friendship with her ex-husband after his coming out. She shares about how relationships are built on three things – friendship, physical affection, and sex. We discuss how the loss of a relationship has the potential to turn our once-forever partners into “Somebody that I used to know,” according to singer, Gotye. We cover a lot of ground about women’s roles in society, co-parenting, conscious uncoupling, and the fine line between history with an ex and a friendship with an ex. Tune in for Alisa’s fascinating story and our amazing conversation all about exes as friends.

Show Notes:

• Alisa Kriegel-Find out more about her book, From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess, A Memoir and Let’s Talk About Sex Really podcast as well as connect with her through social media
• Conscious Uncoupling-Read more about Katherine Woodward Thomas and the power of conscious uncoupling.
• Maestro-Watch this film about conductor and composer, Leonard Bernstein.
• Gisèle Pelicot-Read about this story of a woman’s survival from her husband’s orchestration of sustained sexual assaults over the years.
• Somebody That I Used To Know-Listen to this song from Gotye about the aftermath of a tragic breakup.

How do you feel about road trips with friends? Sharing a bathroom with someone? Being a part of a friend group? Tracy is a big no for all of those, whereas Corey is a big yes. In this episode, you will find out why! Tune in for a lively conversation about preventing and resolving conflict with friends, including friends who ghost, hope as a terrible conflict management strategy, kitchen-sinking, and carefrontation. And, if you ever wondered if Corey and Tracy ever have conflict, be sure to pay attention to their recap of every conflict they’ve ever had – including Tracy usurping Corey’s friend, the podcast dilemma instigated by third party, and the fractured group text thread that resulted in invites going to Corey and not Tracy. But, rest assured, the two of them always talk through everything with each other’s’ best interests in mind and come to a resolve that is win-win.

Show Notes:

• Secret Lives of Mormon Wives-Check out this reality series about Mormon mom influencers.
• Real Housewives-Tune in to this reality show about women in Beverly Hills.
• Love is Blind-Learn more about this dating reality show.
• Mean Girls-Watch this teen drama about a new girl’s interaction with clique of popular girls at her school.
• Mel Robbins-Read about the Let Them theory and how to stop other people’s opinions and behaviors from affecting you.

Do you ever feel like you are the one carrying most of the weight in a friendship – always being the one to ask a friend to hang out or reaching out via phone or text? What about those friendships where others have over-the-top expectations about your role in the friendship, monopolizing your time or leaning on you too much? Tune in for a lively episode where Corey and Tracy talk about reciprocity and balance in friendships and the importance of stepping back or stepping away. And, while Tracy spouts off about being old, her aversion to sarcasm, and not caring anymore about a lot of things, Corey shares her traumatic clown story and about how following through on commitments and reaching out first are must-haves for her in friendship.

Show Notes:

• Rock That Relationship!-Check out Season 11 on Past Life Relationships.
• Mother’s Day-Watch this rom-com about three generations in one family come together for Mother’s Day week.
• Baby Reindeer-Tune in to this limited series about the impact a female stalker has on a struggling comedian’s life.
• Love is Blind-Learn more about this dating reality show.

If you want to learn more about enhancing your vulnerability, sharing your feelings, and building trust with friends, then you won’t want to miss this episode. Find out more about role modeling depth and openness for others to mirror while at the same time, making sure to have healthy boundaries to mitigate friend love-bombing, emotional U-Hauling, and the wounded deer syndrome. Tracy shares about how showing up authentically as herself has created a natural selection process for who wants to be friends with her, whereas Corey talks about asking questions as a form of connection rather than a transaction. Both, though, believe that the art of deepening connections can be learned. So, if you want some inspiration to enhance your ability to connect with others, this episode is for you!

Show Notes:

• Remarkably Bright Creatures-Check out this Netflix movie about an aquarium employee who discovers wonder through connection with an octopus.
• Brené Brown-Make sure to check out the books, blogs, and TED Talk on vulnerability.
• Edith Eger-Learn more about Holocaust survivor and New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Eger, and get a copy of her two books, The Choice and The Gift.
• 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life-Check out this book by Bill Eddy about how to identify and handle high-conflict people.
• Worst Roommate Ever-Watch this TV series about roommates who turned out to be criminals.
• Worst Ex Ever-Tune in to this TV documentary series about exes who have engaged in violence and betrayal.
• Cigna Study-Find out more about a major research study about the loneliness epidemic.