From meth addiction, HIV diagnosis, and losing everything… to over 7 years sober and rebuilding a life with purpose.

This conversation with Tony Alexander is raw, honest, and necessary.

He opens up about growing up feeling different, chasing confidence through alcohol, navigating identity as a Black gay man in the South, and the reality of addiction at its darkest. This is what people don’t talk about… the grief, the trauma, the loss, and the moments that push you to the edge.

And then the shift.

The moment where everything changes.

Tony shares what it actually took to get sober, stay sober, and rebuild from the ground up. Not perfection. Not willpower. Real work, real accountability, and real community.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, lost, or like you’re too far gone… this episode proves you’re not.

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This week on Sober as F*ck, Jess and Ryan sit down with Catherine Gray, Sunday Times Bestselling Author of The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober, author of Sunshine Warm Sober and her newest release Little Addictions, plus a globally recognized speaker and leading voice in the sober-curious movement.

Catherine Gray has helped reshape how people view alcohol, identity, and mental health. Her work has reached millions worldwide, empowering people to rethink their relationship with drinking and step into a more intentional, high-performing life.

In this episode, Catherine shares her personal journey and the mindset shifts that allowed her to walk away from alcohol and completely rebuild her life. This conversation goes beyond sobriety. It’s about identity, clarity, and raising your standards.

We get into:

• Why you don’t need a rock bottom to make a change
• How alcohol subtly impacts confidence, mental health, and identity
• The shift from using alcohol as a reward to seeing it as a limitation
• How to recognize when alcohol is no longer aligned with your life
• The psychology behind lasting change and self-control
• What actually happens when you remove alcohol and level up your life

Catherine also breaks down the emotional side of letting go, including identity shifts, internal work, and how to build a life that feels clear, grounded, and fully aligned.

If you’ve ever questioned your relationship with alcohol or know there’s more available for your life, this episode gives you a direct and powerful perspective.

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📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unexpectedjoyof
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📚 Books:
• The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober
• Sunshine Warm Sober
• Little Addictions (out now)

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What happens when alcohol stops being something you do and becomes part of your identity

This week on Sober as F*ck, Jess and Ryan sit down with Sober Dave, author, coach, and host of the One for the Road podcast. His story has reached people all over the world and continues to inspire lasting change.

Sober Dave shares his journey from growing up in South London to building a life centered around alcohol, and ultimately choosing a completely different path. His story is honest, powerful, and deeply relatable.

In this episode, we explore

• How early life experiences shaped Sober Dave’s relationship with alcohol

• The shift from social drinking to daily habits

• What it really looks like to live as a high functioning drinker

• The turning point that led Sober Dave to choose a new path

• Why sobriety is about identity, not just behavior

• How to move from feeling stuck to building a life that feels aligned

Sober Dave also breaks down the mindset behind lasting change, including

• Reframing your relationship with alcohol

• Understanding limiting beliefs that keep people stuck

• Why many people question their drinking long before they change it

• The importance of community and connection

• How to build momentum and stay consistent

This conversation goes far beyond alcohol. It is about growth, awareness, and creating a life that feels intentional and meaningful.

ABOUT DAVID:

Author of One for the Road — a direct, honest look at stepping away from alcohol and rebuilding your identity with clarity

Host of the One for the Road Podcast — conversations centered on sobriety, mindset, and personal growth

Trauma-Informed Sobriety Coach — focused on addressing deeper patterns that drive behavior

Founder of the HPR Method — a structured framework designed to help high performers remove alcohol without sacrificing performance

500+ clients supported worldwide — working with individuals ready to elevate their lives

Host of International Retreats — including transformational experiences in Thailand

Leader of the Sober Sessions Community -- ongoing support, accountability, and connection

Sober Dave has been sober for over seven years and continues to inspire a global community through his content, coaching, and conversations.

CONNECT WITH DAVID:

• Instagram: @soberdave

• All Links + Resources: https://linktr.ee/soberdave

• Book: One for the Road

• One for the Road Podcast

• Coaching: Freedom From Alcohol in 90 Days

• 1:1 Sessions: Power Hour with David

• Community: Sober Sessions Group

• Retreats: Thailand + International Experiences

Key Takeaways

• You do not need a dramatic moment to choose a different path

• Awareness is often the first step toward change

• Growth comes from consistency and intention

• Identity plays a major role in long term transformation

• A supportive environment can change everything

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Most people get accountability completely wrong.** It’s not about discipline, motivation, or “trying harder.” It’s about building a system that makes success inevitable.

In this episode of Sober as F*ck, Ryan and Jess break down the exact accountability framework that took a simple two-minute daily plank and turned it into a full year of consistent habits, mental clarity, and real behavioral change. This isn’t theory. It’s a repeatable system that works.

You’ll hear how micro-commitments and daily check-ins with the right accountability partner can radically increase follow-through, eliminate excuses, and rewire your habits without burnout. Ryan shares how this approach, combined with community support, has helped sustain long-term sobriety, including 666+ days alcohol-free, while building structure, discipline, and purpose.

This episode dives deep into:

* The psychology of accountability and why willpower fails

* How to build a system that forces consistency (even when you don’t feel like it)

* The power of accountability partners and real-time check-ins

* Habit stacking, daily rituals, and identity-based change

* Why community is the missing link in sobriety and mental health

* The rise of non-alcoholic alternatives and shifting social norms.

* Creative motivation tools, from sobriety milestone traditions like “marbles” to viral habit challenges

* How to stay consistent during high-risk seasons, social pressure, and lifestyle transitions

Ryan and Jess also unpack the cultural shift happening right now where sobriety, mental health, and self-discipline are no longer fringe topics but becoming mainstream movements. From social media trends to evolving drinking culture, the landscape is changing fast, and those who build systems will win.

This is not about quitting one bad habit. It’s about replacing chaos with structure, isolation with community, and short-term motivation with long-term identity.

If you’re serious about:

* Building habits that actually stick

* Strengthening mental resilience and discipline

* Staying sober or sober-curious in a high-pressure world

* Creating structure without relying on motivation

…this episode gives you the blueprint.

Small actions. Daily accountability. Massive results.

Featuring Kristen Beckett | Mocktails and Marathons

What does addiction actually look like when no one knows you’re struggling?

In this episode of Sober as F*ck, Ryan and Jess sit down with Kristen Beckett, creator of Mocktails and Marathons, to share her powerful story of overcoming decades of alcohol dependence, navigating postpartum mental health challenges, and rebuilding her life through sobriety, fitness, and community.

With nearly three and a half years alcohol-free, Kristen opens up about the reality of hidden addiction: hiding bottles, planning drinking in secret, and the mental exhaustion of trying to maintain control while everything slowly unravels.

Her story reflects what so many experience but rarely talk about — especially within modern “wine mom” culture where alcohol is normalized, encouraged, and often disguised as self-care.

This episode explores:

• The early influences and patterns that led to long-term alcohol dependence

• The normalization of drinking in motherhood and social culture

• Postpartum complications, anxiety, and using alcohol as a coping mechanism

• The mental gymnastics of hiding alcohol and maintaining appearances

• The breaking point: an emergency room visit and admitting alcohol use disorder

• The cycle of quitting, relapsing, and the final decision to fully commit to sobriety

• The role of therapy, coaching, and recovery communities• Rebuilding trust, relationships, and honest communication• How fitness, running, and daily habits support long-term sobriety

• Why sobriety is an ongoing process that requires continuous self-awareness

Kristen also shares how she built her platform Mocktails and Marathons, helping others navigate sobriety through coaching, community, and practical tools for those questioning their relationship with alcohol.

This conversation is for anyone struggling with alcohol, sober curious, navigating motherhood and mental health, or seeking a sustainable path to recovery.

Sobriety is not about perfection.It’s about honesty, consistency, and choosing a different life — one day at a time.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure if your drinking is a problem, this episode will challenge you to take a closer look.

What does it really take to rebuild your life after addiction?

In this episode of Sober as F*ck, Ryan and Jess sit down with Jen Hirst — sober coach, founder of Lighthouse Sobriety, and women’s recovery advocate — to unpack addiction, recovery, mental health, and the power of community-driven sobriety.

Jen shares her personal journey through alcoholism, the reality of hiding addiction, the breaking point that led her to seek help, and how daily habits now anchor her sobriety. She speaks openly about grief, emotional pain, brain chemistry, and how addiction alters decision-making and identity.

This conversation explores:

• Why community is essential for sobriety success
• Creating a safe space for women in recovery
• How addiction rewires the brain
• Why recovery often takes multiple attempts
• Removing triggers and rebuilding your life intentionally
• The importance of honesty and vulnerability
• Emotional processing versus emotional avoidance
• Daily habits that protect mental health in sobriety
• Movement, hydration, gratitude, and structure
• Finding humor and empowerment through personal growth

Jen also discusses how social media can be a powerful tool for sharing sobriety stories and building connection — when used intentionally.

Sobriety is not a single decision. It’s daily commitment.

This episode is for anyone navigating addiction, women’s recovery, alcohol-free living, mental health challenges, or seeking a strong support community.

Recovery changes your brain. Community changes your direction. Honesty changes everything.

Listen now and discover how Lighthouse Sobriety is helping women rebuild their lives with strength and clarity.

Founder: Lighthouse Sobriety
Sober Coaching for Women
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What happens when neuroscience, technology, and community collide in sobriety?

In this episode of Sober as F*ck, Ryan and Jess sit down with Kevin Bellack, also known as The Sober Ginger — Certified Professional Recovery Coach, Head of Coaching at Reframe, and host of the Reframeable Podcast.

Kevin shares his personal sobriety journey and how it led him to help build one of the fastest-growing sobriety support apps, Reframe. Together, they break down how behavioral science, daily accountability, journaling, structured habits, and community meetings create sustainable recovery in a modern world.

This conversation goes beyond “just quit drinking.” It explores:

• The neuroscience behind alcohol addiction and habit change
• How the Reframe app supports alcohol-free living
• Why daily structure builds long-term sobriety success
• Journaling as a high-level tool for emotional regulation
• Community-driven recovery and shared experience
• The illusion of control and why acceptance changes everything
• Breaking through mental barriers and desensitizing discomfort
• Why comparison kills progress in recovery
• Celebrating small wins for mental health momentum

Kevin also shares how COVID reshaped drinking culture, why sobriety is never one-size-fits-all, and how understanding the psychology of addiction empowers long-term personal growth.

If you're sober, sober-curious, exploring alcohol-free living, or interested in science-backed recovery strategies, this episode delivers practical insight and real experience.

Instagram: @thesoberginger
Head of Coaching: @reframe_app
Podcast: @reframeablepodcast
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What does the second year of sobriety really look like?

In this powerful return conversation, Miki Byrne joins Ryan and Jess to unpack the deeper layers of sobriety, personal growth, anxiety, meditation, coaching, and radical authenticity.

Two and a half years alcohol-free, Miki shares how recovery evolves beyond simply quitting drinking. The second year becomes an inside job. It becomes about self-reflection, examining the root causes of alcohol use, rebuilding relationships, regulating anxiety, and learning to trust yourself again.

Miki opens up about:

• The emotional shift from early sobriety to long-term recovery
• How coaching transformed her healing journey and led her to become certified
• The role of guided meditation in nervous system regulation and anxiety management
• Navigating the inner critic and “naming it to tame it”
• Community, connection, and why authenticity is non-negotiable in recovery
• Her engagement and stepping into a new chapter of sober life
• Her upcoming memoir Permission to Be and what self-trust truly means

This episode is for anyone navigating sobriety, sober curiosity, anxiety, personal development, or the identity shift that comes with choosing an alcohol-free lifestyle.

If you’re looking for honest conversation about recovery, meditation, coaching, relationships, mental health, and building a sober community that supports growth, this episode delivers.

Sobriety isn’t about restriction. It’s about expansion.

Listen now and explore what happens when you give yourself permission to be.