In this episode, Sophia and I discuss the epidemic of loneliness, which millions are suffering from around the world.
We open with the surprising detrimental effects that loneliness has on our mental and physical health, like how it rewires our brains and increases inflammation markers.

What's tricky about loneliness, however, is that we often can't just go out and remedy the issue, because it's contingent on our social skills, the nature of our communities and the proximity of loved ones. Complicated right? 

What we didn't speak about is how much more prevalent loneliness is in marginalized racial groups, people with low incomes and those who struggle with mental health issues. With this understanding, as we move through the holiday season, perhaps we can be aware of those people in our community who might be at a greater risk and extend ourselves to them in a way that's safe for all. 

Because we're human, we've both had personal experiences with loneliness, which we share about along with the tools we used to move through it. We can all take action to create a more connected life and we share a few easy things that we can implement starting today.

Sophia finishes with her amazing debut song, Lonely, which she co-wrote with Juno Award Winner Meaghan Smith and ECMA Award Winning Producer, Jason Mingo. Lonely is now streaming on all platforms, so please download the song, have a listen and let us know your thoughts on her intriguing  preference to be lonely instead of surviving in a toxic relationship. Congratulations Sophia and thanks everyone for being a part of the SPARK community! 

This stellar conversation is the fourth and final episode (for now) with our champion guest speaker, Sophia's Dad, and my hubby, Blair Abbass. We begin with updates on our lives since we chose to postpone our pod to give our chat with Cindy Thompson from A Resilience Project Podcast its full moment in the sun. It was a difficult one, but a beautifully honest chat on our journey and how we're doing post trauma. If you haven't listened yet, visit: 
We also had the honor of speaking with Nancy Regan on The Canadian Love Map, about our mother-daughter relationship and how we make it work. To listen, visit:

Sophia starts by letting us in on all the big decisions and growth she's doing in her final year of public school. It's so amazing to hear her perspective on these colossal choices like which uni to attend etc.
I share about my new, and thankfully fully treatable diagnosis, and the symbolism behind learning to skillfully use my voice.

We then move into our conversation with this amazing therapist and educator, Blair Abbass, who opens the topic of repair by emphasizing the hazards of blindly blaming others.

We dive into the whole idea of repair, what it means to each of us and why it's essential if we are to have healthy, lasting relationships. Personal responsibility, self-worth, education and  boundaries are but a few solutions we discuss. 

What about you? What does repair mean to you and what's required in order to return to love with those who matter most in your life? We encourage you to discuss this concept with your people, perhaps using this episode as a conversation starter. 

As always, we want to hear how it goes and know that we appreciate every rating and response you share with us.

Peace to all, Sophia, Jenny and Blair

In this third episode of our four part mini series on relationships with therapist, mindfulness teacher and educator, Blair Abbass, we discuss everything from dysfunctional relationships and red flags to healthy connections and green flags. We each share three red flags that arouse a sense of caution in us, such as addiction, criticism and lack of accountability. Given that Blair is my husband and Sophia's dad, we all found this conversation enlightening as we learned something we didn't know about each other.  

We invite you to have this conversation with your family members too, which might lead to possibilities for healthier connections within your family unit.
What we didn't know about when we recorded this episode was that there's such a thing as beige flags. Can anyone explain? 
As always, we hope this discussion helps to shine a light on unhealthy ways of relating so that we can all make relationship choices that support our wellbeing on every level. 
Here's to healthy, compassionate and emotionally available connections!