What does it really feel like when you meet someone and there are no fireworks—just clarity?

Last week, we unpacked how pop culture has trained us to chase intensity, mistake anxiety for attraction, and overlook the calm connections that actually have staying power. This week, we're getting personal.

In this episode, I sit down with my husband, Stephen, for an unscripted conversation about his own dating journey—what he experienced with butterflies in relationships before his first marriage, how he navigated dating after his divorce, and what it was actually like when he met me.

This isn't a polished interview. It's just a real conversation between two people who chose grounded connection over chaos—and it might just shift the way you think about what "the One" is supposed to feel like.

If you've ever wondered whether you're "settling" because someone doesn't give you butterflies, or if you've dismissed great people because the spark wasn't there, this episode will give you a lot to think about.

Because sometimes, the love of your life doesn't announce itself with fireworks. Sometimes it just feels like coming home.

🎧 Listen now—and start recognizing what real attraction feels like when your nervous system isn't bracing.

Reflect: Think about a time you felt calm and clear with someone. Did you dismiss it as "no chemistry," or did you lean in? What might change if you started valuing clarity over chaos?

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What if the feelings we’ve been taught to chase are the very thing keeping us stuck?

Movies, TV shows, and even dating culture itself have trained us to equate instant chemistry, butterflies, and emotional intensity with “real” connection. The music swells, the eye contact hits, and suddenly it feels like fate.

That drama makes for great TV — but not necessarily for healthy, grounded relationships in real life.

In this episode of STRIPPED: Drop Your Patterns, we unpack how pop culture has shaped our expectations of love, why calm clarity often gets overlooked or misunderstood, and how nervous system activation can masquerade as attraction. We explore the difference between chemistry and compatibility, why intensity can feel addictive, and what it actually feels like when a connection is aligned rather than dysregulated.

Most importantly, we ask the question no one really prepares us for:
How do we build relationships that feel safe, mutual, and real — when we’ve been conditioned to expect chaos, longing, and pursuit?

If you’ve ever wondered why the relationships that feel “electric” tend to burn out — and why the steady ones can feel unfamiliar or even boring at first — this episode will shift the way you understand attraction, desire, and connection.

🎧 Listen now — and start noticing what your body has been taught to mistake for love.

Reflect: When you think about the people you’ve felt the strongest chemistry with, was your body calm and clear — or restless, jittery, and on edge? What could it feel like in your body to experience attraction without anxiety?

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There’s an exhaustion that comes from modern dating — not from clear rejection, but from being almost chosen.

From building connection and momentum, only to hear some version of:
“You’d make a great partner… just not for me.”

In this episode of STRIPPED: Drop Your Patterns, we explore why this experience repeats for so many people — and why adjusting your behavior, communication style, or “energy” rarely fixes it.

This conversation goes beneath dating advice and into the patterns your nervous system brings into connection — the beliefs, expectations, and self-protective strategies that quietly shape attraction and attachment. I even share my lived experience creating and eventually breaking my own patterns.

If you’ve ever felt like dating keeps leading you to the same emotional ending, this episode will help you understand why — and what actually creates a different outcome.

At the end of the episode, I also share details about something I’ve been hinting at over the past few weeks and am opening TOMORROW for a very small group of listeners.

Doors close Friday.

If you’ve ever thought, “This always happens to me,” this episode is for you.

Reflect: What part of you is bracing for disappointment before it actually happens?

Reach Out:

Have a pattern or dating question? DM me on LinkedIN or send me an email at hello@theconnectioncoachonline.com

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Let’s dig into the blocks that are keeping you from the love of your life and create a strategy to dissolve them – schedule a complimentary Kickoff Call!

Download my FREE Speed Dating Survival Guide for Men – for when you’ve only got a few minutes to make a connection and you wanna make them count!

Grab your FREE 5 Minute, Pre-Date Pre Game worksheet and step into your next date calm, confident, and magnetic!