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Set The Standard

Set The Standard

Written by: Corey Boutwell
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  • How To Actually Clear Emotional Tension - Mediation #290
    Dec 24 2025

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    Most guys try to “think” their way out of stress, anxiety, shame, or that tight weird feeling in the body and it keeps looping because the body never got to finish the emotion.


    This Emotional Processing Meditation is a guided nervous system release to help you move trapped energy through (without overthinking it): lock onto the transition points of your breath, name the emotion, locate it in the body, identify its “texture,” then let it move the way it wants to move (yawning, coughing, shaking, tensing, tears, sound).


    You’ll finish by bringing safety back online with gratitude + a quick reflection so the lesson lands and the charge doesn’t run your life.


    00:00:00 Emotional Processing Meditation (setup)

    00:00:33 Drop into the body (sensations + relax)

    00:00:59 Breath transition points (in/out awareness)

    00:02:07 What “emotional processing” actually is

    00:04:21 Identify and label the emotion

    00:06:13 Where it lives in your body (locate it)

    00:07:06 Texture / object / direction (how it wants to move)

    00:08:39 Let the body do the “weird” release (yawn/cough/shake)

    00:10:45 Two-part dialogue (what do you need from me?)

    00:12:04 Expand it to extremes (move, sound, surrender)

    00:13:20 Self-guided release window (keep going)

    00:17:00 Tapping both areas (deeper integration)

    00:17:56 Capture the thoughts after (quick journal prompt)

    00:18:50 Gratitude + safety cues (thank the body)

    00:19:17 Closing (reach out / comment / forum)

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    21 mins
  • I Ran A Mens Retreat With No More Mr Nice Guy... here is what happened
    Dec 7 2025

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    Stop believing the lie that men’s work is just guys crying in a circle. This video breaks down what really happens inside The Next Level retreat and how a strong container turns judgement and isolation into brotherhood and grounded strength.

    You’ll see how key exercises and emotional releases let men face anger, grief and shame without numbing or exploding, and how that makes them safer, more powerful leaders at home and in the world.


    If you’ve ever wondered what a real men’s retreat is like, this is your look behind the curtain.

    00:00:00 Post-retreat banter, jokes & setup
    00:01:16 First impressions of The Next Level weekend
    00:02:26 From judgement & comparison to brotherhood
    00:03:42 Corey on being judged as a facilitator
    00:05:18 Owning projections, defenses & the “real you”
    00:08:52 SPACE JUMP: healing conversations with dad/others
    00:10:36 Vicarious healing: when one man works, all men heal
    00:12:12 Designing the emotional rollercoaster of the retreat
    00:12:53 Heist simulation: exposing patterns under pressure
    00:14:31 Holding space during the deepest releases
    00:16:13 BRAG CIRCLE: claiming king energy
    00:18:05 Integrating shadow, power & safety
    00:24:08 Tools for regulation, breath & clear decisions
    00:27:35 Final takeaways from each facilitator
    00:31:11 Closing reflections, hugs & wrap up


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    35 mins
  • Men's BIGGEST Dating Mistake That Kills Relationships: Chris Bates #288
    Jul 28 2025

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    The fear of rejection, being too nice, and never making a move…

    If you’ve ever overthought your way into loneliness, struggled with ghosting, or felt stuck in “nice guy syndrome”, this episode is for you.

    Corey sits down with dating coach and author Chris Bates to break down modern dating for men: why masculine leadership matters, how to create intimacy without being manipulative, and why being radically yourself is the real dating superpower.

    Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or just done pretending to be who she wants, this conversation will shift the way you date forever.

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    📍 Timestamps:
    00:00 – Why men fail at modern dating
    01:30 – Fear, analysis paralysis & vulnerability
    03:00 – Creating non-negotiables vs outcome obsession
    06:00 – Childhood wounds shaping attraction
    08:20 – Hookup vs partnership mindset
    10:45 – Dating horror story: when loneliness picks your dates
    14:00 – Nervous system mismatch: why she felt off
    16:00 – Signs you’re not confident or assertive
    18:00 – Masculine leadership & Dom-ish polarity
    20:00 – When leading creates tension (and when it doesn’t)
    22:00 – Gamifying dating without being toxic
    24:30 – Why adult play is the spice of life
    27:00 – Dating as emotional gym reps
    30:00 – Sh*t tests, authenticity & masculine frames
    34:30 – Avoiding the friend zone through intimacy
    37:00 – Emotional honesty vs emotional manipulation
    42:00 – Corey’s story: attention, ego, and loss
    45:00 – Chris’s story: depression, self-worth, and healing
    47:30 – Post-divorce dating & leading with truth
    52:00 – Radical transparency as a masculine edge
    54:00 – No date is wasted — every one is a rep
    56:00 – Feminine presence is healing, not validation
    59:00 – The nice guy reframe: from pleasing to honest service
    1:03:00 – Leadership, purpose & emotional safety in dating

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    1 hr and 11 mins
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