Ever received a message that made your stomach drop… and your brain instantly filled in the blanks with “They’re annoyed” or “I’ve done something wrong”?

In today’s episode I share a real moment from my Instagram DMs that could have easily led to shame, confrontation or avoidance - and how demonstrates the importance of nervous system safety.

This episode covers:
• why we overthink texts and and replay social interactions
• how ambiguity becomes threat for a dysregulated nervous system
• why we assume tone, meaning and intention behind peoples messages
• the difference between confidence and safety
• how e fight/flight/freeze/fawn can show up in communication
• and why repair requires nervous system safety, not just assertiveness or “good communication skills”

If you identify with overthinking, people-pleasing, anxious attachment, rejection sensitivity, masking, fear of confrontation or avoiding conflict - this episode will help you make sense of these patterns, how to stop overthinking and how to respond differently.

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In this episode, I’m breaking down what I actually mean when I say “safe” and “safe enough to be seen” because it’s not about confidence, mindset tricks, or forcing yourself to speak louder.

We hear the word safety everywhere now, especially in conversations about visibility, boundaries, relationships, and nervous system work. But what most people don’t realise is that safety isn’t about staying calm, being in a 'zen' like state all the time or feeling fearless - it’s about whether your nervous system is responding from threat or from grounded choice.

In this episode I talk about:

• Why nervous system safety is the foundation of confidence
• Why you can understand yourself logically and still not feel safe
• The difference between discomfort and danger
• How safety is shaped by context, culture, and systems
• What it actually means to feel “safe enough to be seen”
• The core conditions that help the nervous system settle
• Why some environments and relatioships signal threat, even without “danger”

If you’ve ever wondered:

“Why do I still freeze/fawn/overthink if nothing ‘bad’ is happening?”
or
“Why doesn’t my body feel settled, secure or safe, even though I know I’m fine?”

- this episode will make sense of that.

This is not an episode about “how to be more confident” or “how to push through discomfort.” It’s an invitation to understand your nervous system through a trauma-informed, context-aware, and dignity-preserving lens - so you can stop assuming you’re the problem, and start recognising the environments, histories, and patterns your body has been adapting to.

Listen if you’re curious about: nervous system safety, trauma-informed visibility, belonging, being seen, people-pleasing, the fawn response, anxiety, emotional safety, and why mindset isn’t enough.

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You can understand your anxiety and know where it comes from. And still feel anxious.

If you’ve ever thought “I get it… so why does this still feel so hard?”, this episode is for you.

I explore why insight alone isn’t enough to stop anxiety and why feeling anxious doesn’t always mean you’re stuck in familiar unhelpful patterns or that you’re failing. From a trauma-informed, nervous-system lens, I explain why your body can still react even when your mind knows you’re safe.

We’ll look at the difference between conscious understanding and body-based (implicit) memory, and how your nervous system responds to perceived threat rather than logic.

This episode isn’t about using motivational slogans or ‘just think positive’ advice - It’s about understanding anxiety with the compassion, curiosity, and context needed to work with your nervous system, not against it.

And to remind you that you’re not broken. Your body has been trying to keep you safe.

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