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Is your bedroom dead—or just stuck in a routine?
Join Missy, Jordan and Tania as they chat with Moushumi Ghose, a Los Angeles sex therapist, who breaks down why desire fades in long-term relationships and shares practical, judgment-free ways to reconnect, communicate better, and bring the spark back.
This conversation is honest, relatable, and way more common than people admit.
Watch till the end for advice that actually works in real relationships.
Thanks for listening!
Timestamps - Episode Highlights
00:00 – Welcome to the show: Slutty word of the day – Rainbow Kiss
03:39 – Becoming a sex therapist
06:58 – What do most couples come to you for?? Disparity and dry spells!
08:58 - First question – Who’s complaining? Whose problem is this?
09:31 – Discover solutions you want to work on! Increase intimacy? Open it up?
10:36 – So many different practitioner types – Sex psychotherapist vs Surrogate Partner
11:20 – Los Angeles is the hub for Surrogate Partner Therapy – only legal in 3 states!
13:41 – In Israel – women see Surrogate Partner right out of college to prepare for marriage
14:08 – We live in a culture where women don’t really pay for sex – a lot of men will pay a sex worker – sex workers are doing the front-line therapy work!
14:27 – At brothels in Nevada, most popular service is the girlfriend experience – GFE!
14:56 – Reclaiming the word SLUT! A woman fully in her sexual power!
15:49 – How do you overcome awkwardness of sex with someone new – LEAN IN!
18:25 – How do you keep things fresh in the bedroom in a longer-term relationship?
20:18 – TIP: Talk to each other about people you find attractive
23:43 – TIP: Get on the same page about what you want your future to be like
25:44 – TIP: Develop a vocabulary – ice breaker and lube conversation up
27:00 – Real couple in a dry spell – taking process slow, vocabulary, sentence completion, sex therapy journal, etc.
28:07 – TIP: Dirty talk! In between sessions – permission to be awkward, say dirty things to each other – the more you do it the easier it becomes
30:50 – Push through shame and stigma. Put a towel down and go to town on the pussy!
32:45 - What would you tell your younger self about relationships? You’ll have a lot of them!
Resources and mentions:
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www.pleasurepsych.com
www.moushumighose.com
Instagram @moshumighosemft
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Hosted by: Missy Greenberg, Jordan Carlson & Tania Ross
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Edited by: Charles E. Becker
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