Episode 6: When the Expert Feels Lost Too (Honest Talk About Parenting and Phones)
"I need to be honest with you about something. I have 14 years of digital marketing experience. I teach digital literacy workshops across New York City. I know how algorithms work, the psychological tricks, the data collection practices. And I am still overwhelmed and scared as a parent."
This is the most honest episode of the season. No expert tips from someone who has it all figured out. Just real talk from a mom who feels lost sometimes—even with all the insider knowledge.
Schnelle shares what keeps her up at night: Kids seeing inappropriate content. Mental health impacts from social media. Online predators. Watching her kids struggle to put devices down. Data privacy violations. Misinformation, deepfakes, scams. The impossible balance of protection vs. independence.
And here's the confession that makes this episode powerful: She paid good money for a monitoring app. Her oldest kid deleted it.
That moment became a turning point—a choice between doubling down on surveillance or building trust.
What doesn't work (from her own experience):
- Waiting until kids are older (not realistic for many families)
- Monitoring everything (made her anxious, her kid resentful, didn't actually work)
- Just saying no to everything (isolates kids from peers and learning)
- Ignoring it (doesn't feel right either)
Five things she's actually doing instead:
1. Having ongoing conversations (not one big talk) – Small, constant check-ins making tech talk normal, not scary.
2. Teaching them to recognize manipulation – Using her marketing expertise to name the tactics so kids can spot them.
3. Creating phone-free spaces (not phone-free lives) – Dinner table, bedrooms at night, family activities. Same rules for parents.
4. Knowing she can't (and shouldn't) see everything – Accepting kids will make mistakes. Her job is making sure they know they can come to her when things go wrong.
5. Focusing on building judgment, not just setting rules – Asking questions when kids want new apps: "What is it? Why do you want it? What would you do if someone made you uncomfortable?"
The truth about "enough": Schnelle admits she's probably not doing enough by some standard. Her kids have more screen time than recommended. They've probably seen content she wishes they hadn't. She's been too controlling sometimes and too hands-off others.
But she's trying. She's learning. She's doing her best with incomplete information in a constantly changing situation.
This episode gives you permission: You don't have to have it all figured out.
Perfect for: Any parent who's ever felt overwhelmed trying to "do technology right" with their kids. Any educator struggling with the same questions. Anyone who needs to hear that even the expert doesn't have perfect answers.
This won't give you a foolproof system. It will give you solidarity, practical strategies one real parent is trying, and permission to not have it all together.
Because if the person who teaches this for a living is still figuring it out—you're doing just fine.
Want support navigating these conversations?
Schnelle offers digital literacy workshops for parents, educators, and families—covering algorithms, AI ethics, and practical strategies for managing technology at home.
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