What does it mean to be a "gentle rebel" — and how does creativity fit in? In this episode, I talk with Andy Mort of The Haven community about rebellion as openness rather than aggression, why highly sensitive people often need space and safety to access their creative voice, and how creativity is less about the finished product and more about the ongoing process of becoming yourself. We get into the difference between self-soothing and self-expression, the role of constraints in creative work, why unsolicited criticism rarely helps, and how to take a small, honest first step toward reconnecting with what moves you. If you've ever felt like the "should" of creativity has crowded out the joy of it, this one's for you.

🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

1. National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
2. National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
3. LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
4. National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
5. Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
6. Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)

If you've ever sat down to meditate and felt like you were failing at it, this episode is for you. In this special episode, I read a section from my new book, Stuck Not Broken Book Three, on why most people are meditating wrong — and what to do instead. We'll get into:

• What meditation actually is through a nervous system lens
• Why "clearing your mind" misses the point entirely
• How rejecting the present moment sabotages your practice
• Why quality matters far more than quantity
• What realistic, incremental progress looks like

Meditation isn't about forcing your thoughts to stop or sitting still for 30 minutes. It's about connecting with your internal experience of the present moment — whatever it brings.

📘 Get Stuck Not Broken Book Three (and books one and two): https://stucknotbroken.com/books

🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

1. National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
2. National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
3. LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
4. National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
5. Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
6. Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)

Mentioned in this episode:

Self-Regulation Simplified starts June 1: Join Cohort 5!

An 8-week, small-group cohort. Sequential self-regulation skills. Weekly live co-regulation. Max 10 seats. Doors close June 1. Co-Regulator subscribers already have access — just RSVP in the Unstucking Academy Calendar. Everyone else → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/self-regulation-simplified

Join Self-Regulation Simplified, we start June 1!

An 8-week, small-group cohort. Sequential self-regulation skills. Weekly live co-regulation. Max 10 seats. Doors close June 1. Co-Regulator subscribers already have access — just RSVP in the Unstucking Academy calendar. Everyone else → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/self-regulation-simplified

In this episode, Justin Sunseri sits down with Erick Cloward, host of the Stoic Coffee Break podcast, for a deep dive into the Stoic practice of Amor Fati, or "loving your fate." Learn how to connect ancient Stoic wisdom with modern nervous system science. Erick and Justin discuss how to use principles from Stoicism and Polyvagal Theory to practice self-regulation, manage anxiety, and build emotional strength.

Discover how to stop fighting reality and instead find power in accepting what is. This conversation explores how to embrace your emotions, turn obstacles into opportunities, and live a more virtuous, regulated life.

➡️ Learn more from Erick Cloward:

• Stoic Coffee Break Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StoicCoffee
• "Stoicism 101" Book: https://www.amazon.com/Stoicism-101-Epictetus-Essential-Philosophy/dp/1507223579
• Build an Unbreakable Mind Program: https://stoic.coffee/unbreakable/

🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

1. National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
2. National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
3. LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
4. National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
5. Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
6. Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)

Mentioned in this episode:

Self-Regulation Simplified starts June 1: Join Cohort 5!

An 8-week, small-group cohort. Sequential self-regulation skills. Weekly live co-regulation. Max 10 seats. Doors close June 1. Co-Regulator subscribers already have access — just RSVP in the Unstucking Academy Calendar. Everyone else → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/self-regulation-simplified

Join Self-Regulation Simplified, we start June 1!

An 8-week, small-group cohort. Sequential self-regulation skills. Weekly live co-regulation. Max 10 seats. Doors close June 1. Co-Regulator subscribers already have access — just RSVP in the Unstucking Academy calendar. Everyone else → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/self-regulation-simplified

The Polyvagal Theory has transformed how we understand the nervous system—but somewhere along the way, it became a wellness industry bandwagon. In this episode, I'm breaking down how a legitimate scientific framework got diluted into oversimplified soundbites, and why that matters for your actual healing.

🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

1. National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
2. National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
3. LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
4. National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
5. Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
6. Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)

When your partner is in shutdown, you're not just watching it happen—you're in it too. This episode is for the partners who feel like they're losing their person, who don't understand what's happening, and who wonder if they're making it worse. In this episode, I break down:

• What shutdown actually looks like (and why it's not a choice)
• What you CAN'T control (and why that matters)
• 4 concrete ways to influence the situation without trying to fix them
• The myth of co-regulation and what it actually means
• How to regulate yourself so you can show up differently
• Why healthy boundaries aren't selfish—they're essential
• What your real job is as a partner in shutdown

The invisible pain on both sides is real. You're not failing. You're not weak. And you're not alone.

🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

1. National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
2. National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
3. LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
4. National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
5. Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
6. Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Self-Regulation Simplified, we start June 1!

An 8-week, small-group cohort. Sequential self-regulation skills. Weekly live co-regulation. Max 10 seats. Doors close June 1. Co-Regulator subscribers already have access — just RSVP in the Unstucking Academy calendar. Everyone else → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/self-regulation-simplified

Self-Regulation Simplified starts June 1: Join Cohort 5!

An 8-week, small-group cohort. Sequential self-regulation skills. Weekly live co-regulation. Max 10 seats. Doors close June 1. Co-Regulator subscribers already have access — just RSVP in the Unstucking Academy Calendar. Everyone else → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/self-regulation-simplified

A paper co-authored by 39 scientists called the Polyvagal Theory "untenable" — and now psychology influencers are announcing the Theory is "dead." But is it?

I'm Justin Sunseri, therapist and member of the Polyvagal Institute's Editorial Board. That means I review work for Polyvagal Theory accuracy. So let me actually look at the claims.

In this episode, I break down Paul Grossman's paper "Why the Polyvagal Theory Is Untenable." We need to objectively check whether his criticisms accurately represent what the theory actually says. Because if they don't, the counterarguments are moot.

Links mentioned:

1. Grossman's paper: https://www.clinicalneuropsychiatry.org/download/why-the-polyvagal-theory-is-untenable-an-international-expert-evaluation-of-the-polyvagal-theory-and-commentary-upon-porges-s-w-2025-polyvagal-theory-current-status-clinical-applications-and/
2. Porges' "The Vagal Paradox": https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38108034/
3. Grossman's ResearchGate: https://www.researchgate.net/post/After_30_years_of_polyvagal_hypotheses_is_there_any_direct_evidence_for_the_first_3_premises_that_form_the_foundation_of_the_polyvagal_conjectures
4. Porges' response(s) to Grossman: https://www.clinicalneuropsychiatry.org/download/when-a-critique-becomes-untenable-a-scholarly-response-to-grossman-et-al-s-evaluation-of-polyvagal-theory/
5. Google NotebookLM: https://notebooklm.google.com

🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

1. National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
2. National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
3. LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
4. National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
5. Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
6. Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)

Is your self-help routine actually making things worse?

The self-help industry has one answer for everything: do more. More habits, more discipline, more effort. But for a nervous system that's already overwhelmed — stuck in sympathetic flight/fight, freeze overdrive, or dorsal shutdown — more doing can mean more frustration, more overwhelm, and more defeat.

In this episode, I break down 5 common self-help habits that may be working against you if you don't yet have the nervous system capacity for them.

Capacity Builder Live (live meditation sessions) → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/c/calendar/?topics=182524 Unstucking Academy → https://www.stucknotbroken.com/unstuckingacademy Previous episode on trauma narrative → https://youtu.be/pvJNSJ8q1aM

🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you

😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

✅ Crisis resources:

1. National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
2. National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
3. LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
4. National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
5. Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
6. Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)