If you've ever understood exactly why you do what you do in relationships and done it anyway this episode explains why. And what to actually do about it.
ABOUT THIS EPISODE:
Welcome to The Pearl Table the podcast for high-achieving Muslim women who are succeeding at almost everything and quietly struggling in the one area that matters most.
In this first episode, host Nafisatu Akilu relational trauma specialist, psychology graduate, and trusted voice behind one of the most followed platforms for Muslim women's healing introduces herself, the podcast, and the three specific women this show was built for.
You will hear Nafisa's own story: how she was single until 31, understood her relational patterns perfectly, and still kept repeating them. How she moved from teaching into trauma-informed coaching. And why, even now — married and with everything she knows — maintaining a healthy dynamic as an ambitious woman is still continuous, daily work.
You will also receive the one insight that explains why understanding your patterns has never been enough to change them. And what the real gap is between knowing and actually choosing differently.
This episode is for you if you have ever felt like the most capable woman in every room except the relationship you most want to be in.
0:00 — Opening — The question that tells you whether this podcast is for you 1:30 — Nafisa's story — From teacher to relational trauma specialist 5:00— The three women — Which one are you 5:10 — Woman One — She can't attract her match 6:40 — Woman Two — She keeps repeating the pattern 8:10 — Woman Three — She's in the marriage and something is missing 9:30 — What The Pearl Table is — The four things every episode gives you 13:00 — The insight — Why your nervous system is running an outdated programme 15:30 — Free resource — The Relational Blueprint Workbook 17:00 — The close — What's coming next week
Free Download: The Relational Blueprint Workbook: Identify your core relational pattern and where it came from in 20 minutes:
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24 mins