It’s Mental Health Awareness Month — and while we’ve covered emotional and mental wellbeing a lot on the podcast, we’ve never explored complex mental health disorders and how to navigate them.

Our culture talks endlessly about therapy, but I don’t see enough conversations about how to help those struggling with severe mental illness. Because it doesn’t always look like venting to your therapist and unpacking childhood trauma. For many people, the issue isn’t a lack of self-awareness or needing to dive deeper into their feelings. It’s a lack of tools to manage what’s happening in real time.

So, whether you’re struggling with a mental health condition, or this is impacting someone you care about, we’re deepening our understanding of personality disorders like Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, and the tools that can help people who are really struggling. With the help of Dr. Suzanne Wallach, we explore how approaches like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) can shift the focus from why you feel this way to what you do when you feel this way so you have concrete skills, like emotional regulation and distress tolerance — even when you’re triggered.

Dr. Wallach is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California with a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology and Doctorate in Psychology. She’s a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy expert who works with personality disorders like Borderline, substance abuse and addiction, eating disorders, and complex trauma. She’s been on podcasts like Call Her Daddy, and is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to treating complex conditions with compassion and skills-based techniques.

Tune in to learn:

• The truth about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the trauma that leads to it
• Signs you might be dating a narcissist
• Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder
• How to be in relationship with people who have personality disorders
• The difference between Type 1 and Type 2 Bipolar Disorder
• When medication is needed, and the different modalities that can help
• How Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers real-world tools for people with mental disorders
• Why sequencing and developing distress tolerance in therapy matters more than most people realize
• When to do psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy VS behavioural techniques
• The difference between between DBT, CBT, and MCT

If you’ve ever felt like talk therapy made you more self-aware but didn’t actually change your destructive patterns or improve a mental disorder, this episode might help with a new approach. Wherever you are in your mental health journey, know that you are not alone, and there’s life-changing help available.

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In honour of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're revisiting some powerful insights from IN-Q on the connection between creativity, expression, and mental wellness.

Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. If you’ve been struggling with anxiety, burnout, loneliness, or emotional overwhelm, this conversation explores how creative expression, vulnerability, and storytelling can become powerful tools for healing and resilience.

We talk about the deeper causes behind the current mental health crisis, and a new, realistic perspective on happiness and fulfillment.

IN-Q is an Emmy-nominated poet, multi-platinum songwriter, world renowned keynote speaker, best-selling author of Inquire Within and The Never Ending Now Poetry journal. IN-Q has written songs with artists like Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus and Mike Posner, and he was named to Oprah's SuperSoul 100 list of the world's most influential thought leaders. He hosts writing workshops around the world, and works with brands like Nike, Spotify, Google and Lululemon to help their teams tell their stories and find their authentic voice.

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If you’ve been feeling constantly exhausted, burned out, or mentally drained, even after you’ve caught up on sleep…this episode is for you. Because sometimes we’re tired in ways sleep alone can’t fix.

Today’s truth-bomb: sleep and rest are not the same thing. And most chronically drained people are missing the kind of rest that would actually restore them.

In today’s quickie, we’re breaking down the 4 types of fatigue that could be draining your energy — and why most people are trying to fix the wrong problem. This will help you identify why you’re so tired all the time, and what actually works to feel better.

Backed by research, fatigue is a multidimensional experience, and until you address the specific type of exhaustion you’re experiencing, no amount of sleep, coffee, or productivity hacks will fix it.

Tune in to hear about:

• The 4 main types of fatigue: physical, cognitive (mental overload), emotional, and existential
• Why doomscrolling, screen time, and constant stimulation are worsening your exhaustion
• Active vs passive mental fatigue (and why both leave you drained)
• How people-pleasing and unreciprocated emotional labor lead to deep exhaustion
• Why you need to close those “open mental tabs” with monotasking
• How to reduce digital overload and give your brain real rest
• Why monotasking and closing mental loops can instantly improve focus and energy
• The power of awe, purpose, and gratitude in reversing existential burnout

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Do you ever feel like you’re behind in life? Like everyone else is hitting milestones while you’re stuck waiting for your life to finally begin?

Whether it’s your career, relationships, finances, or major life milestones, this episode dives into the psychology of feeling behind, comparison, and the pressure of the invisible timeline we all think we’re supposed to follow.

From your late 20s into your 30s and beyond, it can feel like a race: finding a partner, advancing your career, buying a home, starting a family. And if you’re not there yet, It’s easy to spiral. But there’s no correct cadence to life. We become so obsessed with hitting that next milestone we completely miss the beauty of the stage we’re in right now.

If you’ve ever thought: “I should be further along by now” or “It’s too late to start over”… this episode is for you.

Tune in to hear:

• Why you feel behind in life (and the psychology behind it)
• How comparison and social media distort your timeline
• The cost of chasing milestones and “the arrival fallacy”
• Practical ways to stop comparing yourself to others
• How to bring what you’re craving (love, kids, success) into your life right now

Remember, your life isn’t on hold.., It’s happening right now.

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Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.

In honor of Earth Day and Earth Month, we’re revisiting one of our most practical and empowering conversations on sustainable living, reducing waste, and lowering your carbon footprint—without falling into the trap of perfectionism.

We break down how to reduce plastic use, what actually matters when it comes to recycling, and simple swaps that can significantly reduce your waste and carbon footprint over time.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed trying to live more sustainably, cut out plastic, or make eco-friendly choices in a world built on convenience and overconsumption, this is your realistic, no-guilt guide to sustainability. Because sustainability isn’t about being perfect—it’s about making better choices consistently.

Julia is a TV personality, entrepreneur, fashion designer, former international model, and founder of the incredible Preloved, North America’s leading sustainable fashion brand that has diverted over a million sweaters from landfills. She’s CityLine’s eco expert and regularly appears on Global News and in Canada’s biggest media outlets. Her mission is to show people how simple changes, over time, can have a huge impact, and she’s showing the world how we can take an eco-friendly approach to home design, health, food, fashion and lifestyle.

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Modern dating feels like a shitshow, and if you’re struggling to find love, burnt out by dating apps, or wondering why dating feels harder than ever… this episode is for you.

In part 2 of our conversation with relationship expert Amy Chan, we’re diving into how to date smarter, overcome toxic dating patterns, and build healthy relationships that actually last. Amy breaks down why the modern dating landscape feels so dysfunctional (half of US singles went on ZERO dates last year), the difference in modern gender dynamics, biggest mistakes singles are making, and how to stop self-sabotaging your love life.

We also explore the truth about chemistry vs compatibility, why instant sparks aren’t always a green flag, and how to recognize when your “type” may actually be keeping you stuck.

Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for almost two decades. She’s the author of UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts (which comes out this April 28th!) and her popular first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times. She’s the founder Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat, and she’s on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re being too picky and expecting perfection, or struggling to know if someone is “the one,” this conversation is a science-backed no-bullshit guide to navigating dating with confidence and emotional intelligence.

We cover:

• Why dating feels broken right now
• How dating apps and social media have changed relationships
• The biggest self-sabotaging dating patterns people fall into
• Amy’s Dating Funnel framework for getting unstuck
• Have we become “ick”-obsessed assholes?
• How much chemistry matters early on
• What you might not realize about your “type”
• The debate of going slow VS fast in dating
• The real green flags and red flags that predict lasting love
• What actually creates healthy, sustainable relationships

This is part TWO of a two-part series with Amy Chan! If you’re going through a breakup and missed part one, be sure to go back and listen here.

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Welcome to our new weekly series, ICYMI, where we start off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.

Today, we’re throwing it back to one of our most valuable 2022 finance interviews with Nicole Victoria to help guide us through recession fears, market volatility, and economic uncertainty.

If you’ve been wondering whether you should buy the dip, sell your stocks, or pause investing when the market crashes, this episode is packed with advice on how to recession-proof your money and make smarter long-term financial decisions.

Nicole breaks down why so many people lose money in recessions and the biggest investing mistakes to avoid when panic sets in. Whether you’re a beginner investor trying to understand recession investing strategies like dollar cost averaging, or feeling anxious about these uncertain times... this ICYMI is a great starting point.

Nicole is a CEO, money coach and financial literacy advocate Nicole Victoria AKA No Budget Babe, who specializes in helping millennial and gen-z women effortlessly manage their money and build bank accounts that never stop growing.

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Breaking up is hard to do… we’ve watched hundreds of movies and listened to thousands of songs about the universal experience of heartbreak — yet no one ever really teaches us how to navigate breakups, let go of love, and move on in a healthy way.

So today, we called in the breakup pro: I’m joined by relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan, to cover the psychology of breakups, why we stay in the wrong relationships, and how to actually heal after heartbreak without losing yourself in the process. Amy offers a scientific approach to healing the heart, revealing what actually happens in your brain during a breakup, and why heartbreak and situationships can take on an addictive quality.

Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for almost two decades. She’s the author of UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts (which comes out this April 28th!) and her popular first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times. She’s the founder Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat, and she’s on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute.

Whether you’re in the “should I stay or should I go” phase, currently going through a fresh breakup, or ready to move on from an ex, this conversation will give you the clarity, actionable tools, and perspective you need to come out stronger on the other side.

Tune in to hear more about:

• How to know when it’s time to break up (even when nothing is “wrong”)
• The 4 key pillars of a healthy relationship to assess compatibility
• Why we stay in unfulfilling or dead-end relationships
• The psychology of heartbreak and emotional withdrawal
• Is it easier to initiate the breakup or be broken up with?
• The biggest breakup mistakes
• Why you need to stop creeping your ex on social media
• Why breakups and situationships can feel addictive and how to stop toxic patterns
• Why we romanticize our exes (the rose-coloured glasses effect)
• Can you stay friends with an ex?
• The rules around post-breakup contact
• How to set boundaries that support healing and closure

This is part one of a two-part series with Amy Chan! If you’re ready to start dating again, don’t miss next week’s episode on how to date smarter and build healthier, lasting relationships.

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