How do you know whether fear is telling you “This isn't right for me” or whether you're simply scared because you're moving toward something uncertain, unfamiliar, or important to you?

It gets even trickier because fear and excitement can feel remarkably similar in our bodies. A racing heart, butterflies, nervous energy—those sensations don't necessarily come with instructions attached.

In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when we mistake fear for an answer, the stories we attach to what we're feeling, and why being afraid doesn't automatically mean you shouldn't move forward.

One question to sit with:

What do I want—and what am I afraid will happen if I choose it?

Those aren't the same question.

And sometimes separating them changes everything.

If you know something in your life needs to change but you're having trouble hearing yourself underneath the fear, expectations, and second-guessing, let's talk.

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Until next time, trust yourself. ❤️

Have you ever asked so many people what they think that you eventually couldn't tell what you thought anymore?

There's nothing wrong with asking for advice. Other people can offer information, experience and perspectives we may not have considered.

But there's a difference between using someone else's perspective as information and treating it as authority.

In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when we keep looking outside ourselves for the answer—especially when what we're really looking for might be permission, reassurance or certainty.

Because sometimes we were actually clearer before we asked everyone else.

We'll talk about the difference between gathering useful information and outsourcing your decisions, why other people's advice is always filtered through their experiences and fears, and what self-trust looks like when no one can guarantee how your choice will turn out.

And I'll leave you with a question to ask the next time you're about to say, “What do you think I should do?”

What do I think I should do?

Hear your own answer before you add another voice to the room.

If something in your life is asking to change and you're having trouble hearing your own voice underneath everyone else's, let's have a conversation.

You don't need to know whether you want coaching. Tell me what's happening, where you feel stuck and what keeps pulling at you. We'll see what we notice.

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Maybe you even know exactly what you want.

So why do you keep second-guessing it, talking yourself out of it, or looking for someone else to tell you what to do?

In this episode, I’m talking about that uncomfortable space between knowing something needs to change and trusting yourself enough to move toward it.

We’ll look at why “I don’t know” doesn’t always mean you don’t know, how fear can disguise itself as confusion, and what happens when you ask so many other people what they think that you eventually lose touch with what you think.

Because the more voices you bring into the conversation, the harder it can become to hear your own.

I’ll also give you two questions to sit with:

What do I already know that I keep trying to unknow?

And:

What story do I immediately tell myself about why I can’t trust that?

Because sometimes you don’t need another answer.

You need to trust yourself enough to hear the one that’s already yours.

If you’re listening and thinking, “This is exactly where I am,” let’s talk.

You don’t need to know whether you want coaching. Tell me what’s happening, where you feel stuck, and what keeps pulling at you. We’ll have a conversation and see what we notice.

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