In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly tackles a difficult but necessary topic: the victim mentality after a breakup.

Kelly explains the difference between being hurt and staying stuck. While pain, betrayal, and grief are completely valid responses to heartbreak, allowing those experiences to become your identity can quietly keep you trapped in the past. This episode explores how a victim mindset can show up after a breakup — and how it can block healing, confidence, and future relationships.

Kelly breaks down the signs that you may be stuck in this mindset, including replaying the same breakup story, feeling powerless about your future, and unconsciously keeping your ex at the center of your life. With honesty and compassion, she challenges listeners to take responsibility for what happens next — not by dismissing their pain, but by refusing to let it define them.

This episode is a powerful reminder that healing requires self-awareness, courage, and choice. Your breakup can be a turning point — but only if you decide to move forward.

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In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly unpacks the growing conversations around declining birth rates, the so-called “male loneliness epidemic,” and the way responsibility for these societal issues is often unfairly placed on women.

Kelly explores how modern relationships have fundamentally changed — particularly as women are no longer financially dependent on men and are increasingly prioritising emotional fulfillment, self-worth, and personal growth. Rather than rushing into relationships or settling after breakups, many women are choosing to heal, reflect, and raise their standards — leading to healthier partnerships in the long run.

This episode challenges the narrative that women are “too picky” or anti-men, and instead reframes the conversation around emotional intelligence, maturity, and mutual effort in modern dating. Kelly also speaks directly to men, encouraging emotional accountability, self-reflection, and therapy as part of the solution — rather than blame.

A thought-provoking episode that ties together breakups, dating culture, and the broader societal shifts shaping relationships today.

• Women are no longer financially dependent on men — and that has changed dating dynamics.

• Many breakups are happening because women are choosing happiness over settling.

• Wanting emotional intelligence and maturity is not “being too picky.”

• Healing after a breakup leads to healthier long-term relationship choices.

• The male loneliness epidemic cannot be solved by blaming women.

• Emotional growth and self-work are essential for modern relationships.

• Therapy and emotional support should be normalised for men.

• Independence does not mean anti-relationship — it means intentional partnership.

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Breaking no contact after a breakup can feel overwhelming, shame-inducing, and emotionally destabilising — but it’s also incredibly common. In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly gently unpacks what it really means when you break no contact, why it happens, and how to regain your footing without spiralling or beating yourself up.

Kelly reframes no contact as a tool for healing, not a test of strength, and explores the emotional triggers that often lead to reaching out — from loneliness and alcohol to nostalgia and nervous system dysregulation. She offers grounded, practical advice on what to do after you’ve sent the message, how to stop the follow-up spiral, and how to re-establish boundaries that protect your peace.

This episode is a compassionate reminder that healing is not linear, slips don’t erase progress, and self-discipline grows through self-understanding — not self-punishment.

Whether you’ve just broken no contact, you’re tempted to, or you’re trying to stay strong, this episode will help you respond with clarity, calm, and self-respect.

✨ Key Takeaways

• Breaking no contact is common — it doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

• No contact is a tool for emotional regulation and healing, not a punishment.

• One message does not require a follow-up message.

• Silence is a response — and it deserves to be respected.

• Alcohol can lower boundaries and increase emotional impulsivity.

• Understanding why you reached out helps prevent repeating the pattern.

• Healing isn’t linear — compassion matters more than perfection.

• Journaling can help process urges and emotional triggers.

• Protecting your peace means recommitting to boundaries.

• It’s okay to seek support if you feel stuck in a cycle.

🔗 Links & Resources

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info@kellyskoaching.com

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@kellyskoaching

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⚠️ Trigger Warning

This episode contains discussions around toxic relationships, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised.

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Erin Taylor, a mindset and nervous system regulation coach, to explore the realities of toxic and abusive relationships.

Together, they unpack why emotional abuse can be so difficult to recognise and leave, how narcissistic traits and love bombing show up in relationships, and why the question “Why don’t they just leave?” oversimplifies a deeply complex situation. Erin shares insights from her work supporting people in domestic abuse situations, highlighting the emotional, financial, and nervous system factors that keep people stuck.

The conversation also focuses on healing after abuse — from rebuilding self-trust and independence to regulating the nervous system through breath work and meditation. Erin introduces her membership Regulate, designed to support emotional healing, safety, and self-discovery.

This episode is a compassionate, informative listen for anyone questioning a relationship, healing from emotional abuse, or wanting to better understand toxic dynamics.

🆘 Support Resources

If this episode brings up anything difficult for you, please consider reaching out for support:

Ireland

• Women’s Aid National Freephone: 1800 341 900

• 24/7 Online Chat: womensaid.ie

• Emergency: 999 or 112

UK

• National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247

• Website: nationaldahelpline.org.uk

International

• Love Is Respect: loveisrespect.org

• Find local helplines worldwide: hotpeachpages.net

  
  

  
  

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A new year can feel like pressure- or it can be permission to reinvent yourself!

In Episode 27 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly reflects on the past year and guides listeners through a grounded, empowering approach to setting intentions for the year ahead. Whether you’re navigating breakup recovery, redefining your identity, or simply craving a reset, this episode is about creating clarity, balance, and momentum — without overwhelm.

Kelly explores practical tools like the Wheel of Life, SMART goals, manifestation with action, and the power of self-love, gratitude, and accountability. This episode encourages listeners to stop waiting for the “perfect version” of themselves and start building a life that feels aligned, intentional, and supportive — one step at a time.

You won't become someone new over night but you'll become more you!

Links & Resources

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Christmas week can be a vulnerable time after a breakup — emotions are heightened, loneliness feels louder, and old memories can creep back in. In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly explores one of the most common (and complicated) questions people ask during a breakup: Should I get back with my ex?

Kelly unpacks the difference between missing someone and missing connection, and why reconciliation should never be a reaction to loneliness, nostalgia, or fear. This episode invites listeners to slow down, reflect honestly, and assess whether getting back together would actually create emotional safety, trust, and long-term fulfillment — or simply repeat old patterns.

Kelly walks through the key questions you need to ask yourself before reopening the door to a past relationship, including why the breakup happened, whether anything has truly changed, and how to identify red flags versus green flags in a potential reconnection. She also encourages listeners to define their ideal partner and to prioritise their own happiness, growth, and future — especially during emotionally charged times of year.

This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself is not the same as giving up on love.

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Heartbreak has a way of shaking your identity, your confidence, and your sense of direction but what if it’s also the beginning of something bigger?

In Episode 25 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Caroline McKenna, author of Breakups to Breakthroughs, to explore how heartbreak can become a powerful catalyst for self-discovery, healing, and personal growth.

Caroline shares her own journey through a painful breakup that forced her to slow down, feel her emotions, and completely re-evaluate who she was outside of a relationship. Together, Kelly and Caroline unpack why breakups can feel as devastating as a bereavement, how identity often becomes entangled with partnership, and why rushing the healing process can do more harm than good.

The conversation dives into attachment styles, how they shape our relationship patterns, and why understanding them can bring clarity and compassion — both for ourselves and our exes. They also explore the theory of the three loves, helping listeners reframe past relationships without romanticising them or seeing them as failures.

This episode is a reminder that being single — especially in your 30s — is not something to “fix,” but something that can be deeply fulfilling. From mindset shifts and emotional processing to trusting the timing of your life, this conversation offers reassurance, perspective, and hope for anyone navigating heartbreak or learning how to thrive on their own.

If you’re going through a breakup, questioning your path, or learning how to trust yourself again, this episode will help you see that healing doesn’t mean going backwards — it often means stepping into something better.

✨ In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why breakups can feel as significant as a death
• The impact of heartbreak on identity and self-worth
• Why feeling your emotions is essential for real healing
• Understanding attachment styles and relationship dynamics
• The theory of the three loves and how it reframes past relationships
• Letting go of the fantasy of old relationships
• How mindset influences healing and growth
• Thriving while single in your 30s
• Trusting the process when life doesn’t go to plan

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  📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching

  📲 Follow Caroline on Instagram & TikTok: @acountydownunder

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In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly Hunt dives into the reality of being single during Christmas—a time when emotions feel louder, memories feel sharper, and comparison hits harder than ever. Whether you’re navigating your first Christmas post-breakup or your fifth, this episode offers the validation, grounding, and practical support you need.

Kelly explores the emotional weight of “this time last year” thoughts, the triggers of festive couple content, and why loneliness tends to spike during the holiday season. She also shares ways to create your own Christmas magic, reconnect with yourself, and soften the sting of missing someone who used to be part of your traditions.

This episode is your warm, honest, no-BS reminder that being single at Christmas is not a failure — it’s a season you can move through with intention, compassion, and even joy.