This is the final part of the breakup & self-esteem recovery series.

In this episode, we’re talking about the part people don’t prepare you for: the messy middle of healing.

The urge to go back. The loneliness. The triggers you didn’t expect, and the fear of trusting again.

Rebuilding your self-esteem after a relationship that chipped away at it isn’t just about affirmations or “moving on.” It’s about learning how to sit with discomfort, detach in healthy ways, process your emotions, and slowly rebuild trust in yourself.

We’ll talk about:

• Rebuilding self-trust in small, practical ways

• Managing triggers and emotional flashbacks

• When (and how) to think about dating again

• Why healing your self-esteem isn’t linear

If you’re healing from a relationship that made you question your worth, this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded.

If you have a question about self-esteem, body image, confidence, or identity, send it in. Your submission is completely anonymous.

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How do you rebuild your self-esteem after a relationship that slowly broke it?

This episode is a continuation of last week's, where I answer a powerful community question from someone who just came out of a 2-year relationship where constant criticism, comparison, and subtle nitpicking left them doubting themselves.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from who you used to be, second-guessing yourself, or struggling to trust your own judgment after a breakup, this episode is for you.

Listen till the end for practical, step-by-step guidance you can start applying immediately.

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Topics covered:

self-esteem, breakup recovery, healing after emotional abuse, rebuilding confidence, nervous system regulation, attachment psychology, emotional healing, post-breakup growth, mental health, body image, self-worth.

How do you rebuild your self-esteem after a relationship that slowly broke it?

In this episode, I answer a community question from someone who just came out of a two-year relationship and is now struggling with low self-esteem, self-doubt, and feeling disconnected from who they used to be.

We talk about how unhealthy relationships, emotional neglect, constant criticism, and comparison can damage your confidence, even if you had healthy self-esteem before the relationship.

I explain why romantic partners have such a deep psychological impact on our sense of self, and how breakups can leave you questioning your worth, identity, and ability to trust yourself.

This episode walks through the early stages of healing after a toxic or emotionally draining relationship, so if you’re struggling with self-esteem after a breakup, trying to heal from a toxic relationship, or learning how to love yourself again, this conversation is for you.

Trigger Warning:
This episode includes discussions around emotional abuse, manipulation, self-doubt, and relationship trauma.

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Until next time 🤍