This is the final part of the breakup & self-esteem recovery series.

In this episode, we’re talking about the part people don’t prepare you for: the messy middle of healing.

The urge to go back. The loneliness. The triggers you didn’t expect, and the fear of trusting again.

Rebuilding your self-esteem after a relationship that chipped away at it isn’t just about affirmations or “moving on.” It’s about learning how to sit with discomfort, detach in healthy ways, process your emotions, and slowly rebuild trust in yourself.

We’ll talk about:

• Rebuilding self-trust in small, practical ways

• Managing triggers and emotional flashbacks

• When (and how) to think about dating again

• Why healing your self-esteem isn’t linear

If you’re healing from a relationship that made you question your worth, this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded.

If you have a question about self-esteem, body image, confidence, or identity, send it in. Your submission is completely anonymous.

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How do you rebuild your self-esteem after a relationship that slowly broke it?

This episode is a continuation of last week's, where I answer a powerful community question from someone who just came out of a 2-year relationship where constant criticism, comparison, and subtle nitpicking left them doubting themselves.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from who you used to be, second-guessing yourself, or struggling to trust your own judgment after a breakup, this episode is for you.

Listen till the end for practical, step-by-step guidance you can start applying immediately.

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Topics covered:

self-esteem, breakup recovery, healing after emotional abuse, rebuilding confidence, nervous system regulation, attachment psychology, emotional healing, post-breakup growth, mental health, body image, self-worth.

How do you rebuild your self-esteem after a relationship that slowly broke it?

In this episode, I answer a community question from someone who just came out of a two-year relationship and is now struggling with low self-esteem, self-doubt, and feeling disconnected from who they used to be.

We talk about how unhealthy relationships, emotional neglect, constant criticism, and comparison can damage your confidence, even if you had healthy self-esteem before the relationship.

I explain why romantic partners have such a deep psychological impact on our sense of self, and how breakups can leave you questioning your worth, identity, and ability to trust yourself.

This episode walks through the early stages of healing after a toxic or emotionally draining relationship, so if you’re struggling with self-esteem after a breakup, trying to heal from a toxic relationship, or learning how to love yourself again, this conversation is for you.

Trigger Warning:
This episode includes discussions around emotional abuse, manipulation, self-doubt, and relationship trauma.

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Welcome to The Embrace with Ayanpella Podcast. A podcast born from my deep desire to help you see yourself as already whole. Here, we’ll explore self-awareness, growth, self-esteem, and body image in a way that’s real and honest.

Think of me as your tour guide — walking with you through the twists and turns of mental and emotional growth. It really doesn’t have to be boring or heavy.

My hope? That you leave each episode feeling a little lighter, a little stronger, and a lot more confident in who you are. 🧡

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In this episode, I’m answering a question that came straight from the community:

“How do I stop measuring my worth by my progress compared to other people?”

If you’ve ever looked around and felt like everyone else is moving forward, careers, relationships, money, milestones, while you feel stuck or behind, this conversation is for you.

We talk honestly about why comparison feels unavoidable, why pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t actually help, and how to stay rooted in your worth without tying it to speed, timelines, or what other people are doing.

In this episode, I share:

• Why noticing other people’s progress doesn’t mean you’re failing
• The difference between progress and worth
• Practical ways to stop using other people’s timelines as a measuring stick
• How to manage social media and information overload without guilt
• What it really means to stay grounded in who God says you are, even when life feels slow

This isn’t about rushing your journey or forcing positivity.

It’s about learning how to grow without competing, and remembering that your worth was settled long before the milestones arrived.

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This episode is the final stop in our self-worth series, and honestly, it felt right to end it this way.

Over the past few weeks, we’ve talked about why your worth can’t survive if it’s tied to things that change.

In this episode, I share three very real, everyday tools that have helped me stay grounded in my identity.

We talk about:

• Why the books you read matter more than you think when you’re unlearning shaky ideas about yourself

• How finding the right community can either reinforce your worth or quietly erode it

• And the importance of challenging negative thoughts instead of letting them run your life unchecked

I also recommend a few books during the episode, and I’ve listed them below if you’d like to explore them at your own pace.

Thank you for staying with me through this series. I hope it’s met you gently, and helped you anchor your worth somewhere steady.

📚 Books mentioned in this episode:

• Get Out of Your Head by Jennie Allen
• The Search for Significance: Seeing Your True Worth Through God's Eyes by Robert S. McGee
• Her True Worth: Breaking Free From a Culture of Selfies, Side Hustles, and People Pleasing to Embracing Your True Identity in Christ by Brittany Maher & Cassandra Speer
• Building on the Rock: Finding Your Identity in Christ by Peter Maiden

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Most of us aren’t just struggling with low self-worth. We’re struggling with where we’re drawing it from.

Because without realising it, we've let people, outcomes, silence, success, and even failure decide how we feel about ourselves. One good day and we’re up. One bad interaction and everything crashes.

In this episode, I talk about how closeness shapes identity; how whatever you spend time with slowly becomes the voice in your head. And how staying close to God doesn’t just change what you believe, it changes what you internalise.

Press play when you’re ready to stop outsourcing your identity.

How do you hold on to your sense of worth in a world that keeps trying to name you, shape you, and measure you?

This episode is a simple but necessary conversation about where your worth truly comes from, and why it can’t be anchored to things that shift with seasons, trends, or people’s opinions.

I talked about:

• Why tying your worth to achievements, success, or roles will always leave you feeling unstable

• What it really means for your worth to come from a place that doesn’t change

• How to rethink the stories the world has told you about who you are

• A reminder of the identity God gave you before labels, titles, or expectations
  

If you’ve ever felt lost in who you are or unsure of what makes you valuable, this episode brings you back to the steady truth,

Plug in to find out what it is.

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