At the start of every new year, there’s pressure to lock back in — rebuild routines, double down on habits, and become a more consistent version of yourself. But what happens when the version of you that feels best… doesn’t want to be structured the way she used to be?

In this Dear Evergreen episode, I explore the tension between flow and structure, especially after a season of deep flexibility and self-listening. I share my own quiet identity shift — from being someone who thrived on rigid routines to someone who started to resent them — and what it’s been like to loosen the reins without losing myself.

We talk about:

• When routines support your wellbeing vs. when they start to feel restrictive
• Why consistency isn’t always the same as sustainability
• The fear of “falling off” or burning out when you stop pushing yourself
• Honoring natural rhythms, cycles, and changing needs
• Letting equilibrium emerge instead of forcing it

This episode is for anyone who doesn’t need more discipline, but more permission — to change, to fluctuate, and to trust that different seasons call for different medicine.

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

“I’ve been in therapy for months and nothing’s fixed… am I doing this wrong, or is my therapist slacking?”

This question comes up all the time — online, in my personal life, and in my therapy office — and honestly, it makes me a little nervous to answer. Not because it’s wrong to ask, but because it touches on something tender, complicated, and often misunderstood about how therapy actually works.

In this episode, I’m leaning into the therapist side of me to talk openly about expectations, progress, and the therapeutic relationship itself — and why healing isn’t a service you purchase so much as a relationship you participate in.

We talk about:

• Why therapy is often framed as “I’m paying you, so fix me”
• How our results-oriented culture shapes unrealistic expectations of healing
• Why the relationship — not techniques or advice — is the biggest predictor of change
• Therapy as a surrogate attachment relationship (and what that stirs up)
• How idealizing or dehumanizing your therapist can stall progress
• What mutual respect looks like in a relationship with a power imbalance
• Why seeing your therapist as a real person can actually deepen safety and growth
• What this doesn’t mean (you’re not doing therapy wrong, and this isn’t therapist blame)

Even if you’ve never been in therapy, this episode applies to any relationship where growth happens slowly, imperfectly, and through connection.

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

If you feel that quiet pressure to “get your life together” now that the holidays are over — but can’t quite define what that even means — this one’s for you.

We talk about why the New Year so often turns into a fear-based self-improvement project, why motivating yourself through criticism and urgency rarely works, and how “having it all together” is often just another name for high-functioning disconnection.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why you’re not broken and don’t need a total reinvention
• The difference between growth and anxiety-driven self-fixing
• Why willpower, shame, and fear aren’t sustainable motivators
• Integration vs. hyper-functioning
• Choosing themes over rigid goals
• Building self-trust slowly instead of forcing dramatic change
• How self-compassion can actually move you forward

This is a softer, steadier approach to the New Year — one that prioritizes sustainability, self-trust, and the long game over urgency and burnout.

RESOURCES:

Ep. 32 Self compassion will change your life (https://open.spotify.com/episode/5YIxYwjldPkp0gMBSuDVr9?si=e72ab15ac8a24dc3)

Minidose 19: How do I start fresh? (https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hAabXIcuNa3BsGfrigqf8?si=9ac30c03c96144b3)

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.