At the start of every new year, there’s pressure to lock back in — rebuild routines, double down on habits, and become a more consistent version of yourself. But what happens when the version of you that feels best… doesn’t want to be structured the way she used to be?

In this Dear Evergreen episode, I explore the tension between flow and structure, especially after a season of deep flexibility and self-listening. I share my own quiet identity shift — from being someone who thrived on rigid routines to someone who started to resent them — and what it’s been like to loosen the reins without losing myself.

We talk about:

• When routines support your wellbeing vs. when they start to feel restrictive
• Why consistency isn’t always the same as sustainability
• The fear of “falling off” or burning out when you stop pushing yourself
• Honoring natural rhythms, cycles, and changing needs
• Letting equilibrium emerge instead of forcing it

This episode is for anyone who doesn’t need more discipline, but more permission — to change, to fluctuate, and to trust that different seasons call for different medicine.

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

“I’ve been in therapy for months and nothing’s fixed… am I doing this wrong, or is my therapist slacking?”

This question comes up all the time — online, in my personal life, and in my therapy office — and honestly, it makes me a little nervous to answer. Not because it’s wrong to ask, but because it touches on something tender, complicated, and often misunderstood about how therapy actually works.

In this episode, I’m leaning into the therapist side of me to talk openly about expectations, progress, and the therapeutic relationship itself — and why healing isn’t a service you purchase so much as a relationship you participate in.

We talk about:

• Why therapy is often framed as “I’m paying you, so fix me”
• How our results-oriented culture shapes unrealistic expectations of healing
• Why the relationship — not techniques or advice — is the biggest predictor of change
• Therapy as a surrogate attachment relationship (and what that stirs up)
• How idealizing or dehumanizing your therapist can stall progress
• What mutual respect looks like in a relationship with a power imbalance
• Why seeing your therapist as a real person can actually deepen safety and growth
• What this doesn’t mean (you’re not doing therapy wrong, and this isn’t therapist blame)

Even if you’ve never been in therapy, this episode applies to any relationship where growth happens slowly, imperfectly, and through connection.

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

If you feel that quiet pressure to “get your life together” now that the holidays are over — but can’t quite define what that even means — this one’s for you.

We talk about why the New Year so often turns into a fear-based self-improvement project, why motivating yourself through criticism and urgency rarely works, and how “having it all together” is often just another name for high-functioning disconnection.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why you’re not broken and don’t need a total reinvention
• The difference between growth and anxiety-driven self-fixing
• Why willpower, shame, and fear aren’t sustainable motivators
• Integration vs. hyper-functioning
• Choosing themes over rigid goals
• Building self-trust slowly instead of forcing dramatic change
• How self-compassion can actually move you forward

This is a softer, steadier approach to the New Year — one that prioritizes sustainability, self-trust, and the long game over urgency and burnout.

RESOURCES:

Ep. 32 Self compassion will change your life (https://open.spotify.com/episode/5YIxYwjldPkp0gMBSuDVr9?si=e72ab15ac8a24dc3)

Minidose 19: How do I start fresh? (https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hAabXIcuNa3BsGfrigqf8?si=9ac30c03c96144b3)

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

On this episode of The Evergreen Rx, we’re diving deep into Chiron — the “wounded healer” of your birth chart — and how this single placement can radically shift your healing journey, your relationships, and the way you show up for yourself.

If you’ve never heard of Chiron before, don’t worry. Remy breaks it down from the very beginning. This is one you don’t want to skip because Chiron is big — it reveals the repeating emotional patterns you can’t seem to outgrow, the places you chronically feel “not enough,” and the wounds that quietly shape your identity, attachment style, and relational habits.

We explore:

• What Chiron actually is and what astrologers mean by a “Chiron wound”
• How to understand your Chiron sign, house, and the themes that follow you through life
• How these wounds show up and block you in your healing journey
• How Chiron influences attachment wounds, romantic patterns, and the types of people or experiences you’re drawn to
• What it looks like to turn your deepest pain into wisdom, purpose, and compassion
• Whether Chiron is something we “heal” in this lifetime — or something we learn to walk with differently

FIND REMY

PODCAST: https://pod.link/1592792993

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thepatraumaparty/?hl=en

TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatraumaparty

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

Ever pull away right when things start to feel too close? When your partner gets vulnerable, talks about the future, or expresses love, does your body go straight into shutdown-mode — like closeness is something you need to escape from?

You’re not alone. For people who lean avoidant, intimacy can feel threatening even when it’s everything you say you want. In this episode, we talk about:

• Why affection or emotional closeness can trigger fight-or-flight
• Deactivating strategies (like changing the subject) and why they bring temporary relief
• How avoidance forms as protection against shame, engulfment, or rejection
• The loneliness and exhaustion that can come with hyper-independence
• How to tell the difference between healthy space and running away from intimacy
• What staying “1% more” looks like in real time
• Building inner safety so vulnerability feels survivable, not suffocating
• Learning to tolerate being seen, wanted, and cared for

Closeness doesn’t have to feel like a trap — and you don’t have to choose between connection and your autonomy. This week, we explore how avoidant attachment shows up, how to gently expand your capacity for intimacy, and why you’re not actually “better off alone.”

EPISODES MENTIONED:

Ep. with Remy Ramirez coming soon…

Ep. 63 Understanding your attachment style & fear of intimacy

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

When you lean anxious in attachment, even tiny shifts in someone’s tone, timing, or energy can feel like an alarm bell. One “I’m just tired” text can send you spiraling into worst-case scenarios, rereading conversations for clues, and bracing for rejection that isn’t actually happening. It’s exhausting — and it can feel impossible to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why anxious attachment interprets neutral cues as rejection
• How hyperactivation leads to spiraling, overanalysis, and searching for reassurance
• The difference between external regulation and true emotional self-support
• Why even honest reassurance from a partner often doesn’t “stick”
• How to respond when your system floods — even if something is actually wrong
• Rebuilding internal stability so your sense of safety isn’t dependent on someone else’s mood
• Naming your needs directly instead of protesting, clinging, or guessing
• How self-worth, history, and past relational wounds shape your reactions today

You don’t need to abandon your needs to stop spiraling — you just need to learn how to hold them yourself. And from that place, closeness becomes something you can trust, not chase.

EPISODES MENTIONED:

Ep. with Remy Ramirez coming soon…

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

Ever catch yourself getting annoyed at the people you love — not because they’re doing anything bad, but because you’ve quietly been carrying the weight of the friendship? When you’re always the one checking in, holding space, or remembering the details, irritation can slowly harden into resentment.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why resentment builds when we don’t address small hurts in real-time
• How unspoken needs lead to emotional scorekeeping
• The anxiety of speaking up when past friendships didn’t respond well
• Why avoidance always creates more distance than an honest conversation
• How to bring things up early, before the irritation turns into a narrative
• The surprising intimacy that can come from naming a hurt without blaming
• What to do when someone can’t meet you where you are

Friendship doesn’t require perfection, but closeness can’t survive silence. Naming your needs isn’t dramatic — it’s how relationships grow.

FIND ME:

INSTAGRAM: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

TIKTOK: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.

Ever get something you really wanted — a new job, recognition, closure — only to feel a confusing mix of pride, sadness, or even guilt right after? You’re not broken or ungrateful — you’re just human. As we grow, our capacity to hold conflicting emotions expands, and that can make even “good” things feel complicated.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The psychology behind mixed emotions (and why your brain does this)
• The “upper limit problem” — how we unconsciously sabotage our own joy
• How guilt, anxiety, and shame can mask excitement or pride
• Cultural pressure to feel one way — and what happens when you don’t
• The power of naming multiple emotions at once
• Why moments of joy often stir grief for our past selves

Being human is rarely clean-cut. Sometimes joy brings grief, pride brings sadness, and love brings fear — but that doesn’t make any of it wrong. It just means you’re feeling the full spectrum of being alive.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Wondermind What am I feeling? Article: https://www.wondermind.com/article/what-am-i-fe

eling/

Kacey Musgraves Happy & Sad: https://open.spotify.com/track/04MoJkJzCoU9ukeewv5Vzu?si=d9a4291742944841

FIND ME:

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YOUTUBE: ⁠@theevergreenrx⁠

WEBSITE:⁠ theevergreenrx.com⁠

For submitting questions or business inquiries, please email me at ⁠theevergreenrx@gmail.com

Disclaimer: Everything posted here is for educational or entertainment purposes only and is not a replacement for individualized medical or mental health treatment. Please reach out to a professional therapist or doctor if you are in need of assistance. Listener questions may be specific to one individuals life or an amalgamation of common experiences and dilemmas.