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Do you feel like you’re functioning well on the outside, but something inside you is quietly pushing back?

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores why so many intelligent, capable people feel like they’re waiting for permission to choose themselves even after years of success, responsibility, and resilience.

This conversation goes beyond surface-level self-care or motivation. Clare unpacks what’s really happening from a nervous system and positive psychology perspective, explaining why long-term coping, high responsibility, and emotional competence can eventually lead to friction, misalignment, and quiet exhaustion.

You’ll hear about:

· Why “coping” is not the same as thriving

· How the nervous system prioritises predictability over fulfilment

· Why choosing yourself can feel destabilising rather than empowering

· The role of identity, loyalty, and self-respect in personal change

· How self-choice is a pattern shift, not a dramatic decision

This episode is for you if:

· You’ve held it together for a long time

· You’re successful but feel subtly disconnected from yourself

· You’re tired of over-explaining, adjusting, or minimising your needs

· You sense it’s time for change, but don’t know how to begin

This is not about blowing your life up or making bold declarations. It’s about understanding what your body and mind have been signalling and why nothing is “wrong” with you for feeling this way.

🎧 Listen now and explore what it really means to choose yourself, without guilt, drama, or self-betrayal.

For related resources around identity, self-worth, and how you show up in your life, visit:

👉 https://happyacoach.com/explore/self

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➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio

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As the year draws to a close, many women find themselves caught between two worlds:
the life they survived… and the life they’re quietly longing to step into.

In this gentle, reflective episode of The Happya Life, trauma‑informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon invites you into a softer end‑of‑year conversation. One that doesn’t ask for resolutions, reinvention, or “new year, new me” energy but simply meets you where you are.

This episode is for you if you’re feeling:

• Emotionally tender, reflective, or numb
• Proud of surviving, but craving more than just coping
• Grieving parts of yourself you lost along the way
• Quietly hopeful, even if you’re not sure what comes next

Inside this episode, Clare explores:

• Why survival is sacred but not your final destination
• What it really means to move beyond survival, gently and intentionally
• How identity, nervous system healing, and self‑worth intertwine
• End‑of‑year reflection questions that don’t overwhelm or pressure
• How hope begins softly, honestly, without forcing change

This is not an episode about becoming someone new.
It’s about remembering who you are.

✨ You are not behind.
✨ You are not failing.
✨ You are becoming.

Support mentioned in this episode:
🌱 Free guide: Where Did YOU Go? A Self‑Reconnection Map
💬 Complimentary, pressure‑free chat with Clare

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

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It’s Christmas Eve and while the world sparkles with joy, for many women it’s a day filled with emotional overload. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, lonely, numb, or like you're slipping into old family roles you’ve worked hard to outgrow, this episode is for you.

I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist and founder of Happya, and in this powerful holiday edition of The Happya Life, we explore the emotional weight women carry at this time of year. We talk about:

• Why family gatherings often reactivate old survival patterns
• The real reason you feel emotionally drained or invisible during the holidays
• How to navigate grief, loneliness, people-pleasing, and overstimulation
• Tiny regulation tools to anchor your nervous system in the moment
• What it actually means to stay connected to yourself even when the world feels loud

You are not broken. You are not too sensitive. And you are absolutely not alone. This episode offers a moment of calm, clarity, and compassion in the middle of holiday chaos.

🎁 Need extra support?
Download the free Emotional Overload guide: happyacoach.com/emotions

Book a free, no-pressure support chat: happyacoach.com/chat

Let this episode be your permission slip to honour yourself this Christmas.

🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support

➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore

➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach

➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat

➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter

➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com

💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com

🎵 Music by LemonMusicStudio