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If you’ve been feeling constantly on edge, exhausted, numb, foggy, or unable to switch off after loss, this episode is for you.

In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explains what grief actually does to your nervous system and why so many people struggle long after the immediate shock has passed.

This conversation is for those who are surviving life after loss but wondering why their body hasn’t settled, even when time has moved on. When anxiety, shutdown, exhaustion, or emotional numbness persist, it’s easy to assume something is wrong with you.

It isn’t.

Clare explores:

• How grief affects the nervous system and sense of safety
• Why time alone doesn’t always calm the body after loss
• The difference between being emotionally “over it” and feeling regulated
• Why willpower and positive thinking don’t work at this level
• How understanding your nervous system can reduce shame and self-judgement

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself or forcing calm.
It’s about understanding what your body has been doing to protect you and why that response makes sense.

You are not broken.
Your nervous system isn’t failing.
It has been keeping you safe.

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Guilt after loss can be confusing especially when it appears just as life begins to feel slightly lighter.

In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the often-unspoken guilt that arises after the death of a partner, particularly when moments of relief, joy, or hope begin to return.

This is the guilt that shows up when you laugh and then feel a pang.
When you enjoy something and immediately question yourself.
When wanting more from life feels like a betrayal of the person you lost.

If you’ve ever wondered whether feeling okay means you’re forgetting, moving on too quickly, or loving them less, this episode is for you.

Clare gently unpacks:

• Why guilt after bereavement is so common
• How guilt can be linked to love, loyalty, and attachment
• Why wanting more from life does not mean leaving your loved one behind
• How guilt can become a nervous system response rather than a moral truth

This episode isn’t about forcing positivity or rushing grief.
It’s about understanding guilt with compassion, reducing self-judgement, and allowing grief and growth to coexist.

There is no right or wrong way to experience guilt after loss.
And you are not doing grief wrong.

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What happens when you’ve changed internally… but the world still expects the old version of you?

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores the emotional and psychological tension that arises when you begin to outgrow an identity that once kept you safe, successful, and accepted.

This is the stage of growth that many people don’t anticipate. You’ve done the internal work. You’ve rebuilt self-trust. You no longer want to over-function, over-explain, or shrink yourself to keep the peace.

But relationships, workplaces, and family systems may still relate to you as who you used to be.

And that creates friction.

In this episode, Clare explores:

• Why outgrowing an identity can feel lonely rather than empowering
• The nervous system response to changing relational dynamics
• The tension between authenticity and belonging
• Why guilt often appears when you stop being the “reliable” or “strong” one
• How identity shifts create social consequences
• The difference between outgrowing people and outgrowing patterns
• Why discomfort doesn’t mean you’ve made a mistake

Grounded in positive psychology and nervous system science, this conversation helps you understand why this stage of growth feels so destabilising and why it’s often a sign of integration rather than regression.

If you feel like you no longer fit the version of yourself the world is comfortable with, this episode will help you make sense of what’s happening.

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