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What happens after the roles loosen, the old ways of coping fall away, and you realise you can’t go back but you also don’t know what comes next?

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores what it really means to rebuild a sense of self when you feel unanchored, unsure, or disconnected from who you are without turning it into another project to fix or optimise.

This is a grounded, psychologically informed conversation for intelligent, capable people who are used to coping, performing, and holding things together and who now find themselves in an unfamiliar in-between space.

In this episode, Clare explores:

• Why rebuilding yourself doesn’t start with clarity or answers
• What it means to feel “lost” after long periods of responsibility or survival
• How the nervous system responds when old roles fall away
• Why uncertainty is part of identity reorganisation, not a sign of failure
• The difference between rebuilding, reinvention, and self-improvement
• How positive psychology understands self-trust, autonomy, and psychological flexibility

This episode is not about finding a new identity or deciding who to be next. It’s about learning how to listen to yourself again gently, honestly, and without pressure.

If you’re in a place where you know something needs to change but don’t know where to start, this conversation will help you understand why that makes sense and why you’re not behind.

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In this opening episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon shares her personal story of life after the sudden death of her husband not by retelling the traumatic event, but by speaking honestly about what came after.

This episode is about the early shock, the long middle where survival stopped working, and the quiet, difficult process of finding a way forward when the future you planned no longer exists.

Clare speaks openly about:

• The numbness and disorientation of early grief
• Functioning on the outside while falling apart inside
• The pressure to “perform” grief for others
• The moment survival stopped being enough
• Why this experience led to the creation of Happya Ever After

This is not a story of fixing grief or moving on.

It’s a story of living through loss, finding agency again, and choosing a different narrative one that allows grief and hope to exist side by side.

This episode anchors the heart of the series and explains who Happya Ever After is for: those who have survived loss and are quietly wondering if there is another way to live.

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If you’ve ever felt disconnected, irritated, or quietly resistant to mainstream wellness culture, this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores what wellbeing really means once you strip away the noise, pressure, and performance of the wellness industry.

This is a grounded, psychologically informed conversation about why so many intelligent, capable women feel alienated by wellness trends and why that reaction makes sense.

Clare unpacks:

• Why the wellness industry often increases pressure rather than reducing it
• How wellbeing has been turned into another form of self-optimisation
• The difference between wellbeing, performance, and coping
• Why “doing more” isn’t the answer for a tired nervous system
• How positive psychology and nervous system science define wellbeing differently
• What wellbeing looks like after long periods of survival and responsibility

This episode is not about rejecting wellbeing it’s about reclaiming it.

If you’ve tried the routines, read the books, and still feel like something doesn’t fit, you’re not failing. You’re likely ready for a more honest, sustainable conversation about wellbeing that respects your life, your nervous system, and your intelligence.

For further resources around identity, self-worth, and wellbeing beyond survival, visit:
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What happens when the role you’ve always played the strong one, the reliable one, the one who always copes starts to feel too heavy?

In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach, unpacks the quiet identity shift that so many women go through when they begin loosening the roles that once kept them safe.

We explore:

• Why high-functioning isn’t always high-fulfilling
• How roles we play for survival eventually become identities
• What it means to feel flat, numb, or lost even when everything looks “fine”
• Why stepping out of old patterns can feel like risk, not relief
• How to navigate the in-between without rushing to redefine yourself

If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Who am I without the version of me everyone expects?” this is a gentle, grounded conversation to meet you in that space.

🎧 Listen now, and let’s explore this together.

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If you’re the one who’s always coped, always stayed strong, always kept things running this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores the hidden psychological and nervous system cost of always holding it all together. Not the obvious exhaustion, but the quieter toll it takes on identity, emotional range, and long-term wellbeing.

This conversation is grounded in positive psychology and nervous system science, and speaks directly to intelligent, capable people who have spent years being reliable, resilient, and emotionally contained.

In this episode, Clare explores:

• Why functioning well is not the same as being well
• How long-term coping creates nervous system strain
• The difference between containment and regulation
• Why “being strong” can slowly disconnect you from yourself
• How identity, responsibility, and loyalty keep people stuck
• The link between emotional flatness and nervous system fatigue

This is not about burnout clichés or surface-level self-care. It’s about understanding what happens when strength becomes a role rather than a choice and why your system might now be asking for something different.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “I don’t feel stressed, just exhausted”
• “I’m coping, but I don’t feel like myself anymore”
• “I can’t remember the last time I felt fully alive”

This episode will help you understand why and why nothing has gone wrong.
For further resources around identity, self-worth, and how you show up in your life, visit: 👉 https://happyacoach.com/explore/self

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Do you feel like you’re functioning well on the outside, but something inside you is quietly pushing back?

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores why so many intelligent, capable people feel like they’re waiting for permission to choose themselves even after years of success, responsibility, and resilience.

This conversation goes beyond surface-level self-care or motivation. Clare unpacks what’s really happening from a nervous system and positive psychology perspective, explaining why long-term coping, high responsibility, and emotional competence can eventually lead to friction, misalignment, and quiet exhaustion.

You’ll hear about:

· Why “coping” is not the same as thriving

· How the nervous system prioritises predictability over fulfilment

· Why choosing yourself can feel destabilising rather than empowering

· The role of identity, loyalty, and self-respect in personal change

· How self-choice is a pattern shift, not a dramatic decision

This episode is for you if:

· You’ve held it together for a long time

· You’re successful but feel subtly disconnected from yourself

· You’re tired of over-explaining, adjusting, or minimising your needs

· You sense it’s time for change, but don’t know how to begin

This is not about blowing your life up or making bold declarations. It’s about understanding what your body and mind have been signalling and why nothing is “wrong” with you for feeling this way.

🎧 Listen now and explore what it really means to choose yourself, without guilt, drama, or self-betrayal.

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As the year draws to a close, many women find themselves caught between two worlds:
the life they survived… and the life they’re quietly longing to step into.

In this gentle, reflective episode of The Happya Life, trauma‑informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon invites you into a softer end‑of‑year conversation. One that doesn’t ask for resolutions, reinvention, or “new year, new me” energy but simply meets you where you are.

This episode is for you if you’re feeling:

• Emotionally tender, reflective, or numb
• Proud of surviving, but craving more than just coping
• Grieving parts of yourself you lost along the way
• Quietly hopeful, even if you’re not sure what comes next

Inside this episode, Clare explores:

• Why survival is sacred but not your final destination
• What it really means to move beyond survival, gently and intentionally
• How identity, nervous system healing, and self‑worth intertwine
• End‑of‑year reflection questions that don’t overwhelm or pressure
• How hope begins softly, honestly, without forcing change

This is not an episode about becoming someone new.
It’s about remembering who you are.

✨ You are not behind.
✨ You are not failing.
✨ You are becoming.

Support mentioned in this episode:
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It’s Christmas Eve and while the world sparkles with joy, for many women it’s a day filled with emotional overload. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, lonely, numb, or like you're slipping into old family roles you’ve worked hard to outgrow, this episode is for you.

I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist and founder of Happya, and in this powerful holiday edition of The Happya Life, we explore the emotional weight women carry at this time of year. We talk about:

• Why family gatherings often reactivate old survival patterns
• The real reason you feel emotionally drained or invisible during the holidays
• How to navigate grief, loneliness, people-pleasing, and overstimulation
• Tiny regulation tools to anchor your nervous system in the moment
• What it actually means to stay connected to yourself even when the world feels loud

You are not broken. You are not too sensitive. And you are absolutely not alone. This episode offers a moment of calm, clarity, and compassion in the middle of holiday chaos.

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Let this episode be your permission slip to honour yourself this Christmas.

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