What if the most underrated leadership skill isn't emotional intelligence, executive presence, or strategic thinking — it's a sense of humor?

Paul Osincup spent 15 years researching exactly that. He's a keynote speaker, author of The Humor Habit, and host of the Laugh or Death podcast — and his work with Google, Harvard, and hundreds of other organizations makes a case that humor isn't a soft skill. It's a survival skill.

In this episode, we dig into what it actually means to live and lead in a VUCA world — volatile, uncertain, complex, and ambiguous — and why humor might be the most direct path to resilience, connection, and psychological safety on your team.

What we cover:
Why laughter nosedives at age 23 and doesn't recover until nearly 80 — and what that costs us

Humorous reappraisal: the Stanford-backed technique for reframing setbacks (even grief)

The DOSE chemicals humor releases — and why shared laughter creates real trust

A Berkeley study that shows strangers who laugh together like each other more — immediately

The humor triangle: which types of humor build connection vs. which ones blow it up

Why self-deprecating humor is low-risk — unless you're a surgeon joking about being clumsy

The 4 P's: Permission + Participation = Psychological Safety
The "humor jar" — a dead-simple team ritual to double the ROI of funny moments

One 7-day habit that increased happiness and reduced depressive symptoms for up to six months

Paul also shares the story of losing his mom — and how finding humor in even that moment changed his relationship with resilience. It's the most honest thing in this episode.
The quote that started this conversation: "Don't live your life as an actor in a drama just to reach the end and find out you were the director — and it could have been a comedy."
Connect with Paul:
🌐 thehumorhabit.com
📚 The Humor Habit — available wherever books are sold
🎙️ Laugh or Death Podcast
Connect with Rex & The HumanUp Imperative:
🌐 [RWC Consulting website]
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In Season 2, Episode 3 of The HumanUp Imperative, Rex Wallace is joined by Dr. John Sviokla, co-founder of GAI Insights and Executive Fellow at Harvard Business School, for a grounded, forward-looking conversation on AI and its implications for healthcare leaders. Dr. Sviokla argues that by 2030, every competitive organization will operate as a hybrid of human and machine intelligence, and that healthcare is no exception. He walks through his RISE framework for AI adoption, explains why AI is a capability that must be grown rather than a technology you simply install, and makes the case that senior leaders, not just IT teams, need to be hands-on with these tools. The episode also explores the human stakes of AI deployment: organizational values, decision authority at the edge, and what it means to optimize not just for human audiences but for the AI models increasingly sitting between organizations and their customers.

Gary Culp, SVP of Government Markets at Blue Shield of California, joins Rex Wallace to explore what human-centered leadership looks like in real healthcare environments. Gary shares how he assesses culture before joining an organization, builds trust without leaning on hierarchy, and removes barriers so teams can deliver better experiences. They discuss leading in hybrid and virtual settings, forming true partnerships with vendors, and celebrating wins. The takeaway for healthcare leaders: improving patient and member experience (and the outcomes tied to it) starts with how you lead people.

In this episode of The HumanUp Imperative, host Rex Wallace sits down with Gary Jacobs, longtime healthcare lobbyist, proud dad and grandpa, and author of The Zen Lobbyist, to unpack why presence, compassion, and silence can be as persuasive as any talking point on Capitol Hill.
From Gary’s early days shaping Medicare policy and navigating the intensity of Washington, to the health scares that forced him to confront stress head-on, we explore how a “hyper-executive” life can pull you out of yourself and how mindfulness practices can bring you back. Along the way, Gary makes the case that members of Congress and policy leaders are not just decision-makers. They are humans first. When advocacy becomes relationship-driven instead of transactional, influence changes shape.
We cover:
🧘 Mindfulness in the pressure cooker: why “silence is strategy, compassion is influence, and gratitude is renewal” reframes what effective advocacy looks like in DC.
🩺 Patient first, then mindful patient: panic attacks, anxiety, a blood clot, and a stroke scare that Gary did not recognize in real time, and how those moments rewired his priorities.
🌿 The pivot point: biofeedback, the Chopra Center, and how Gary embraced meditation and yoga as a holistic operating system, not just a wellness hobby.
📦 Box breathing as a real-world tool: the simple four-count method that helps you walk into high-stakes meetings calmer, clearer, and less reactive when life is happening at the same time.
🤝 Human connection beats transactions: why relationships built on authenticity outlast check-writing influence, and how being a trusted translator of “truth on the ground” shapes better policy.
🧭 The vision: a primary-care-led “dream team” model for every American that includes clinicians, behavioral health, navigators, home care, nutrition, and even yoga and meditation support, powered by analytics but anchored in dignity.
⚖️ Value-based care beyond the triple aim: how equity and workforce wellbeing fit into the future, why payment reform alone is not enough, and why slogans do not change incentives.
💥 Leading through loss: Gary’s most helpful failure, losing what he built and rebuilding with intention, courage, and authenticity.
📚 Rapid fire: the one book he returns to repeatedly, the belief that grounds execution, and the reminder that presence is not a tactic. It is a gift.
✨ One way to human up: stop rehearsing life, stop clinging to certainty, and practice being present so you can meet people as humans, not roles.

In the final episode of 2025, Rex looks back on a transformative year of The Human Up Imperative—revisiting each conversation, spotlighting standout moments, and sharing his favorite quotes and takeaways from every guest. He highlights the books and resources that shaped the year’s dialogue and unpacks the themes that surfaced repeatedly across episodes.

At the heart of this year-end reflection is the reminder that human connection is the throughline of every story told and every insight shared. Rex closes out 2025 with gratitude, inspiration, and a renewed commitment to helping leaders “human up” as they head into the year ahead.

In this episode of The HumanUp Imperative, host Rex Wallace sits down with Rick Whitted, 30-year “recovering banker” turned CEO of US Hunger, to explore what it really means to restore dignity in healthcare and community work. From losing everything as a young entrepreneur with a pregnant wife and two small kids, to leading a national nonprofit that treats food as a doorway into people’s stories, Rick unpacks why you can’t human up anyone you haven’t first given voice.

We follow his journey from proud, never-failed banker to a leader who has stared at a pantry box on his own kitchen table—and built an entire model of care around that moment of quiet, complicated shame and relief. Along the way, Rex and Rick make a provocative case: we don’t have a disengaged population, we have an unengaged one—and the difference is everything.

We cover:
🍽 “It’s never about food”: why almost 92% of people US Hunger serves are juggling 2–5 overlapping gaps (not just food), and how food becomes the safest, most flexible social determinant—and the perfect on-ramp to deeper conversations.

🗣 Dignity as voice: how starting with a private, judgment-free conversation (“the bots don’t gossip”) gives people control of their own story, and why you can’t claim dignity, respect, or “human up” if you haven’t listened first.

📊 The hidden hungry: what US Hunger’s real-time data reveals about the “working, insured, food-insecure” class, why benefits or income disruptions push them over the edge, and how the SNAP/WIC shutdown scare surfaced a vulnerable population that doesn’t show up on paper.

🏥 Health plans, supplemental benefits & missed ROI: why the failure isn’t offering food and other benefits—it’s deploying them as transactions with no engagement strategy—and how converting food into an incentive for engagement changes quality and Stars math.

🤝 Community-based orgs as trust brokers: how US Hunger embeds with case management and community teams so members can connect with the plan through a trusted CBO, and why “food is engagement” is more than a tagline when it’s wired into Z codes, SNOMED, and real outcomes.

🏠 “You can’t treat strangers better than your own house”: inside US Hunger’s culture practices—team syncs, quarterly “recharges,” Gallup surveys, and radical manager accountability—and why Rick insists the ethos for member dignity must start with how you treat your employees.

💥 The cardboard box moment: Rick’s most helpful personal failure—losing his business after 9/11, staring at that pantry box from his grandmother and aunts, crying alone in the bathroom—and how that experience shaped his empathy for people who would never ask for help.

💸 The hardest call he ever made: choosing not to furlough two-thirds of his staff in 2020, burning through cash and clawing back over years instead—and how that decision rewired the organization’s trust, fear level, and loyalty.

📚 Books & anchors: Rick’s own book Outgrow Your Space at Work on how we emotionally translate our careers, plus the daily role of faith and devotionals in “saving his humanity from himself.”

✨ One way to human up: stop diagnosing people—and organizations—before you’ve listened. Start inside your own walls, one manager and one conversation at a time, and design every engagement so it quietly tells the person in front of you: you have a voice, and it matters here.

In this deeply human episode of The HumanUp Imperative, host Rex Wallace sits down with Rich Schwartz, filmmaker turned pharma CX strategist, WebMD alum, patient advocate, dog and horse whisperer, to unpack why trust and reciprocity function like clinical variables. From Rich’s roots documenting health in Appalachia to his work redesigning experiences across pharma, devices, and diagnostics, we explore how patients end up swimming in “pea soup” with providers, payers, PBMs, pharmacies, and public programs and what it takes to restore clarity, compassion, and outcomes.
We cover:
🧪 “Experiences of medicine”: why expectations plus realities equal outcomes, and how trust, reciprocity, and compassion (think Compassionomics, The Rabbit Effect, The Wonder Drug) measurably improve adherence and healing.
🧭 Rich’s arc: storyteller in Appalachia, then WebMD, then life sciences CX; the personal health crisis that humbled him and reframed his mission.
🥣 “Pea soup,” explained: how misaligned incentives across patients, providers, payers, PBMs, pharmacies, and public programs create friction, and why the patient P too often loses.
•💊 At the counter: a plain-English tour of WAC, rebates, PBMs, wholesalers, and 340B spreads, plus Rich’s call for transparency that benefits the actual human paying $100 at the pharmacy.
📺 DTC reality check: massive TV ad spend vs. meaningful patient support, what “67% took an action” leaves out, and how to redirect budget into real experience programs.
🧑‍⚕️ From sales rep to “resolution rep”: easing practice burden to fight clinician burnout and protect the one thing doctors value most, the relationship with patients.
🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Teach people to be effective patients: self-advocacy, the right to “fire” a misaligned clinician, and Rich’s favorite acronym: GAS (Gives A Sh*t).
📈 The Helpfulness Index: Rich’s metric for manufacturers and teams, are you actually showing up helpful to patients and providers, within compliance.
🌄 Awe and moral beauty: why witnessing humans help humans changes us; book picks including Dacher Keltner’s Awe, Harari’s Sapiens, and Unreasonable Hospitality.
💼 Leading through loss: layoffs, letting go, and the courage to publish; imposter syndrome, children’s stories, and why dogs and horses keep us honest.
✨ One way to human up: design for fewer negative moments since they outweigh positives, then obsess over small, repeatable acts of helpfulness that clearly signal we give a sh*t.

👉 Unacknowledged Grief: The Losses We Don’t Talk About, and How to Heal

In this deeply human episode of The HumanUp Imperative, host Rex Wallace sits down with Dr. Saba Syed, pharmacist, healthcare leader, mom, and TEDx speaker, to explore a topic most of us never discuss but nearly all of us experience: unacknowledged grief.

From the seismic shift of a child’s autism diagnosis to the quiet ache of job loss or estranged relationships, Dr. Syed shares how grief that isn’t publicly recognized can shape our lives, and how naming it is the first step toward healing.

We cover:

• 🌱 What “disenfranchised” or unacknowledged grief really is and why it’s so often overlooked.
• 🧭 Saba’s personal journey navigating her son’s autism diagnosis, career changes, and the hidden grief they brought.
• 🪶 The ASMR framework: Acknowledge, Seek support, Mourn, and Ritualize, practical steps to process grief that society doesn’t see.
• 🧑‍💼 What leaders should watch for: subtle signs your team may be struggling, and how to create psychologically safe spaces at work.
• ❤️ How authenticity, empathy, and even small rituals can transform how we support ourselves and others through loss.
• ✨ Why you’re never really done grieving, and how that truth can set you free.