How to set boundaries when it doesn't feel safe yet

Setting boundaries is often framed as empowering — but for many women, it feels anything but safe.
In this episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal and Laken unpack why boundary-setting can feel emotionally charged, confusing, or even threatening, especially when you’ve been conditioned to prioritize harmony, performance, or other people’s needs over your own.
They explore how emotional avoidance can quietly masquerade as boundaries, and why real boundaries require emotional presence, self-regulation, and self-loyalty — not shutdown or distance.
This conversation starts where most boundary work is missed: with yourself. Crystal and Laken walk listeners through how to build internal safety first, involve the nervous system, and collect “reps” of staying with your own emotions before taking boundaries into bigger spaces like the workplace, relationships, and family dynamics.
Rather than focusing on perfect scripts or outcomes, this episode reframes boundaries as a relationship with yourself — one built through honesty, regulation, and staying present through discomfort.
✨ If you’ve ever felt like boundaries “don’t work,” leave you spiraling afterward, or feel unsafe to set — this episode offers a slower, more sustainable way forward.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why boundaries can feel unsafe even when they’re necessary


How emotional avoidance can look like “healthy” boundary-setting

Why self-regulation comes before communication

How to practice boundaries internally before externally

What self-loyalty actually looks like in real life

How to bring boundaries into work, relationships, and family with more clarity

Breathe low. Stay with yourself.
That’s where real boundaries begin. 🤍

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From Problem → Pattern → Opportunity → Action

In this integrative episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal & Laken guide listeners through a deceptively simple but powerful truth: the language you use determines whether your nervous system goes into defense or into trust.

Change doesn’t fail because you’re incapable.
It fails because the words you’re using frame your experience as a threat instead of information.

In this conversation, they break down why calling everything a problem keeps your body in fight mode — and how shifting just one word can change everything. By reframing challenges as patterns, you move from self-criticism into curiosity. From there, patterns become opportunities, and opportunities create space for aligned action.

✨ One breath recap:
Problem = fight.
Pattern = information.
Opportunity = choice.
Action = trust.

Crystal & Laken walk listeners through a practical exercise: choosing one thing they’ve been calling a problem, running it through the full progression, and taking one small action to build self-trust in real time. This episode is less about insight alone and more about integration — bringing awareness into the body, the language, and the next step forward.

Because most women don’t need more discipline.
They need better language.

Tune in if you’re ready to:

• Understand how language impacts your nervous system
  
  
  
• Shift from shame-driven self-talk into curiosity and clarity
  
  
  
• Reframe problems into patterns you can work with
  
  
  
• Create choice instead of pressure
  
  
  
• Take small, sustainable actions that build self-trust
  
  
  
• Move from awareness into embodied follow-through

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What No One Sees Before the Transformation

In this episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal & Laken pull back the curtain on what actually happens before the glow up.

Because while the highlight reel gets the applause, the real work happens in the quiet moments — the uncomfortable conversations, the boundary-setting, the self-reflection, and the decisions no one claps for.

This episode is about the unsexy, vulnerable, and often unseen work that builds momentum over time. Crystal & Laken challenge the idea that awareness alone is enough, reminding listeners that transformation requires action — especially when it feels uncomfortable, messy, or uncertain.

They explore why we default to familiar patterns even when they keep us stuck, why “feeling ready” is often just an emotional delay tactic, and how being seen in your messy middle is part of owning your growth.

✨ The glow up isn’t the work — it’s the byproduct of choosing yourself when it’s inconvenient.

Tune in if you’re ready to:

• Understand what really happens behind the glow up
  
  
  
• Move from awareness into aligned action
  
  
  
• Break free from default comfort patterns
  
  
  
• Normalize the messy middle of growth
  
  
  
• Question what you truly want vs. what you think you should want
  
  
  
• Set boundaries that support your evolution
  
  
  
• Take ownership of your truth — even when it’s uncomfortable
  
  

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