Have your needs actually decreased in motherhood—or have they just changed? Or perhaps it's how you've changed?

In this episode, we discuss how our needs and desires have shifted over time with each additional kid, touching on:

• What's the difference between a "need" and a "desire"?
• The tension between caring for ourselves and pouring out for others
• How our expectations of rest, productivity, and fulfillment have evolved
• How even what we need from our husbands have changed
• How the changes triggered an identity loss, self doubt, loneliness

This is a conversation about identity, growth, loss, and the surprising ways our hearts change in different seasons. Perhaps with a little identity crisis sprinkled in here and there.

We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:

Instagram: @theoldummaclub

Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com

Music credits:
"Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

We've all wondered: Which transition is actually the hardest—going from 0 to 1, 1 to 2, or 2 to 3? News Flash: Each stage comes with its special spice!

In this episode, we compare notes from our own experiences and get honest about what each stage really feels like. From the identity shock of becoming a mom for the first time, to the emotional and logistical chaos of adding more kids, we break down the unique challenges of each transition.

• Why 0→1 can feel like a complete shock to the system
• How 1→2 shifts your expectations (and your priorities)
• Why 2→3 might be the most chaotic… but also the most confident

If you're pregnant right now, or considering adding another child, or looking for fellow mothers to relate to, this episode is for you.

We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:

Instagram: @theoldummaclub

Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com

Music credits:
"Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Season 2 begins with an extremely vulnerable conversation on what God is working on in us right now-- primarily, mom rage. This isn’t a polished “we’ve figured it all out” conversation. It’s a raw, vulnerable and honest one about sanctification in real time—messy, humbling, and ultimately hopeful.

In this episode, we talk about identifying our triggers, learning how to regulate our emotions, dealing with the shame and guilt when we fail-- and what it looks like to wrestle through all this mess with God.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing in motherhood, or thought you're the only one dealing with mom rage, and wondered if God is enough, this episode is for you.

We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:

Instagram: @theoldummaclub

Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com

Music credits:
"Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

We are BACK, Ummas!

Season 1 was all about establishing our foundations and core pillars, introducing the world to what The Old Umma Club is all about. Season 2 is where we dive into the thick of it all.

Listen to the prelude to hear our life updates and what this upcoming season holds!

We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:

Instagram: @theoldummaclub

Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com

Music credits:
"Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Our last episode of season 1 ends with a much-needed discussion on building community in this busy, lonely modern age.

Joyce and Sophia talk about why community is a pillar of The Old Umma Club, what community is, how they met and built community, and what the challenges are in building community at this season of life.

We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:

Instagram: @theoldummaclub

Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com

Music credits:
"Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Part 2 on Marriage, because apparently we have a lot to say on this subject, and it's an important one.

Joyce and Sophia talk about the subtle cultural clashes in their marriage and how that influences marriage conflicts, and how they're learning to manage those conflicts better. This is a rather transparent episode.

We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:

Instagram: @theoldummaclub

Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com

Music credits:
"Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Joyce and Sophia talk about marriage...and husbands. They discuss what they expected in marriage, and what the reality was...especially with babies and kids in the picture. Oy.

We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:

Instagram: @theoldummaclub

Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com

Music credits:
"Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Joyce and Sophia recall their faith background being raised in the Christian church. One was raised in a Korean-American community center-like church, the other as a missionary/pastor's kid in Chinese-speaking churches. They discuss what they appreciated about their faith background, and what they would do differently in raising little believers.

We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:

Instagram: @theoldummaclub

Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com

Music credits:
"Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License
http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/