Message Molly

"Are you going to eat all of that?" "Oh, honey, you look so pretty," they say, their eyes scanning you from head to toe. If you've been working hard to heal your relationship with food, the holiday table can feel like walking through a proverbial minefield, and it often starts before you even get in the house.

In this episode, Molly Dyer walks through a holiday gathering from the front door to the leftovers and names the family diet culture holiday soundtrack: the greetings, the diet talk in the kitchen, the whispers about who isn't there yet, the comments about your plate, and the dessert confessions. You'll hear where these comments come from, why they get updated with every new diet trend while the song stays the same, and why your body reacts the way it does. Then you'll learn your first pocket skill, Feet, Filter, and Fresh Air, a simple way to respond instead of react.

This episode is for you if your shoulders creep up just thinking about the holidays. You can't change what other people say, but you can decide how much of it you let in.

Molly is also opening 'Tis the Season: Navigating Holiday Food and Body Comments with Confidence, a four-session coaching workshop that meets live on Zoom on Thursday nights beginning November 12th. The official invitation hasn't gone out yet, so email molly@mollydyer.com to get on the list early.

Press play, and let's protect your peace at the holiday table together.

Message Molly

"I know dieting isn't working, but if I stop, I'm scared I'll never stop eating." If that thought has kept you on one diet after another, you are not the only one. The fear of losing control around food can start to feel like the only thing holding you together.

In this episode, Molly Dyer explores where that fear comes from: your own history with diets, the messages of diet culture, and the pendulum swing into rebound eating that can follow a period of restriction. You'll hear how the fear of uncontrolled eating can actually set up the very eating you are afraid of, and how all-or-nothing thinking keeps the pendulum moving between total control and total chaos. Molly also explores how the weekend "cheat day" teaches you that food is a reward you have to earn, and she speaks honestly to a question she hears often: "But what about my body?"

This episode is for you if you feel tired of dieting but afraid to let it go. You'll leave with a simple, optional practice for looking at the thoughts behind food fear and finding a little more room in the middle.

Take a breath, and let's explore the space between the diet and the rebound.