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Do you find yourself mentally tallying who did which chores this week? Or maybe you've stayed up until 2 AM arguing about something that seemed so important but now feels trivial in the morning light? These relationship patterns might stem from popular marriage myths that sound reasonable but actually undermine connection.

In this enlightening episode, I'm joined by my husband Dr. Jeff as we dismantle three dangerous marriage myths that create disconnection. We tackle the deceptive "50-50 rule" that turns relationships into mathematical equations rather than partnerships. You'll learn why keeping score leads to resentment and how generosity creates a cycle of mutual care that math can never calculate.

We also explore why "never go to bed angry" might be the worst advice ever given at bridal showers. Sleep deprivation amplifies emotions and impairs judgment, making midnight arguments particularly destructive. Instead, we offer practical language for pressing pause without abandoning the issue altogether.

Finally, we challenge the Instagram-perfect image of conflict-free marriages. Like a fireplace that warms the home but requires tending, conflict can strengthen your relationship when approached with curiosity and compassion. The complete absence of disagreement often signals that someone's voice isn't being heard.

Whether you're newly partnered or celebrating decades together, you'll gain practical tools to replace these myths with healthier relationship patterns. Our weekly challenge gives you three specific actions to implement immediately: trading 50-50 for 100-100, learning when to pause instead of push, and practicing small repairs that build trust.

Ready to transform your relationship? Subscribe, share with someone you love, and join us next time for the final installment in our marriage myths series!

Exciting news! Our podcast is getting a fresh new facelift—including a brand-new logo! ✨ After we wrap up Part 3 of our Marriage Myths series, we’ll be taking a short 2–3 week break to relaunch with a whole new look and feel.

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Ever been told "never go to bed angry" or that "your spouse should just know what you need without asking"? These well-meaning pieces of relationship advice might actually be sabotaging your marriage.

In this eye-opening conversation with licensed marriage and family therapist Tony Overbay, we dive deep into the marriage myths that have been passed down like sacred wisdom but often do more harm than good. With humor and practical insight, we examine why these beliefs persist and how they shape our expectations in ways that can lead to frustration and disappointment.

We start by tackling the mind-reading fantasy—the belief that true love means anticipating your partner's needs without communication. Tony reveals why this childhood adaptation becomes maladaptive in adult relationships and offers a refreshing alternative: embracing the joy of explicitly sharing your needs and desires.

The myth that "marriage solves all problems" gets thoroughly debunked as we explore how marriage actually tends to magnify existing issues rather than erase them. As Trisha puts it, "Marriage doesn't fix the problems, but it gives you a partner to face them with."

Perhaps most powerful is our discussion about boundaries—why they're essential guardrails for healthy relationships rather than obstacles to intimacy. We distinguish between boundaries and walls, explaining how properly communicated boundaries actually create the safety needed for deep connection.

Can people really change? The final myth we tackle challenges the fatalistic view that people are permanently fixed in their ways. Drawing on neuroscience and therapeutic experience, we offer hope for genuine transformation while acknowledging the reality that change must be intrinsically motivated.

Whether you're newly married, considering marriage, or decades into your relationship, this conversation will help you identify the unhelpful relationship myths you've unconsciously adopted and replace them with healthier, more realistic alternatives. Your relationship doesn't need a perfect script—it needs honesty, intention, and a good dose of humor.

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Why does love sometimes feel like both a lifeline and a threat? The answer lies in our attachment styles—powerful patterns formed in childhood that shape our adult relationships in profound ways.

When Scott wrote to us about his marriage to Claire, he described a painfully familiar dynamic: clinging desperately one moment and shutting down completely the next, while his steady partner tried to understand what was happening. His story opens a fascinating window into disorganized attachment (what we call "the cat in a tree") and how it clashes with secure attachment (the "oak tree").

Your nervous system might be sending mixed signals about connection based on early experiences, but there's tremendous hope for change. We unpack practical tools like creating a "safe pause" during conflicts, naming your feelings in real-time, and programming your communication to avoid overwhelming yourself or your partner. These micro-skills create new neural pathways, gradually rewiring your response to emotional intimacy.

Dr. Jeff shares personal insights about communication strategies that have transformed his own relationships, while I introduce my new Attachment Map tool—a visual guide to help you identify your attachment style and take meaningful steps toward security. Whether you're an oak tree, octopus, turtle, or cat in a tree, understanding these patterns is the first step toward healing.

Your emotional suitcase might be packed with fear and confusion, but it can be repacked with safety, connection, and repair. Email trishajamesoncoaching@gmail.com to receive your free copy of the Attachment Map and begin your journey toward more secure connection today.

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