In Episode 15 of The Reset, Shaun explores something most high performers struggle with:

Feeling like a failure…
even when you’re making progress.

This episode reframes momentum. Because if you only allow yourself to feel like you’re winning when you hit the big goal — you’ll spend most of your life feeling like you’re losing.

Shaun introduces two powerful shifts:

1. Learn to generate the feeling of winning before the destination.
2. Experiment with the “ingratitude practice” to access deeper gratitude.

Because real momentum isn’t external.
It’s embodied.

• Loving to win vs hating to lose
• Generating momentum internally
• Shame and guilt around not hitting goals
• Identity beyond comparison
• Experiencing sensations instead of intellectualising them
• The duality of gratitude and ingratitude
• Choice and willingness as power
• Moving from lack to abundance

“The power of realisation, when it’s truly felt, means you can move on to the next stage of your life.”

You can’t force gratitude.

You can’t think your way into feeling grateful.

Your body has to experience the contrast.

Sometimes you need to feel:

• Ungrateful
• Angry
• Disappointed
• Frustrated

Before gratitude becomes real.

If you feel like you’re failing, ask:

• What have I actually done this week?
• Where have I shown up?
• What have I learned?

Momentum builds when you allow yourself to feel like you’re winning.

Even if the destination isn’t reached yet.

Playing the game fully — win or lose — is where growth happens.

Instead of forcing gratitude:

1️⃣ Write down something you feel ungrateful for.
2️⃣ Notice what sensations arise in your body.
3️⃣ Fully experience the feeling without judgement.
4️⃣ Then ask: Is there another perspective available?

You are not trying to bypass the feeling.

You are integrating it.

Contrast creates clarity.

You are a one-in-a-trillion expression of life.

That alone is worth acknowledging.

But if you don’t feel it — that’s okay.

Feel what’s real first.

Then allow gratitude to grow from truth, not obligation.

If you know someone who feels like they’re constantly falling short, send this to them.

In Episode 14 of The Reset, Shaun explores a difficult but universal moment:

What do you do when the excitement fades?

When the endorphins don’t hit the same.
When the habits feel heavy.
When the streak becomes a burden.

This episode dives into the tension between discipline and alignment — and how to know when to push… and when to pivot.

Because not all consistency is healthy.
And not all breaks are weakness.

• Motivation vs identity
• When habits become ego-driven
• The trap of streak culture
• Gym identity vs evolving identity
• Yoga as practice vs yoga as life
• Bottom-up (body-led) vs top-down (ego-led) decisions
• Guilt when balancing self-growth and family
• Rest as intelligence, not laziness

“If it feels too hard, it’s okay to take a break.”

But ask why.

Is it:

• Avoidance?
• Insecurity?
• Ego?
• Or genuine fatigue?

There’s a difference between resistance and depletion.

Learning that difference is maturity.

Shaun shares openly about:

• Stepping away from traditional weight training
• Finding new expression in calisthenics and combat sports
• Forcing 2–3 hour yoga streaks out of pride
• Breaking that streak after illness
• The guilt of sneaking away from family to maintain discipline

The lesson?

When practice becomes punishment,
it’s no longer aligned.

If your motivation has dropped, ask:

• Am I forcing this to maintain identity?
• Is this discipline — or ego?
• Is my body asking for movement or rest?
• Am I chasing endorphins that no longer come?

Sometimes growth means evolving your expression.

Not quitting.

Not doubling down blindly.

But adapting consciously.

You are allowed to evolve.

You are allowed to rest.

You are allowed to change the form without abandoning the path.

Because the real path isn’t the workout.
It isn’t the streak.
It isn’t the routine.

It’s alignment.

And alignment sometimes means pivoting.

If you know someone stuck between discipline and burnout, send this to them.

In Episode 13 of The Reset, Shaun shares live reflections from his first working holiday — recording from Singapore during Chinese New Year.

The question:

Do you switch off completely on holiday…
Or do you keep structure when you have goals?

This episode explores the balance between flexibility and non-negotiables — and how knowing your priorities changes everything.

Because freedom without structure becomes chaos.
And structure without flexibility becomes rigidity.

• Working holidays vs total shutdown
• Why space from your normal environment creates clarity
• Priorities as non-negotiables
• Flexibility in workouts, food, and routine
• Avoiding guilt when plans shift
• Transferring intention when circumstances change
• Over-consumption during holidays (food, alcohol, media, time)
• Alignment over perfection

“When you know what’s important to you, you make it non-negotiable.”

For Shaun, on this holiday that meant:

• Recording the daily podcast
• Connecting with people
• Showing up for family

Other routines adjusted.

The priority stayed.

When you change environments, you gain perspective.

A holiday can:

• Reveal what you’re avoiding
• Show you what truly matters
• Create distance from habits
• Highlight what drains or fuels you

But only if you’re conscious.

If you’re on holiday (or out of routine), ask:

1️⃣ What are my true priorities right now?
2️⃣ Where can I be flexible without self-sabotaging?
3️⃣ If I can’t follow one structure, where can I redirect that energy?
4️⃣ Am I carrying guilt for adjusting — or am I adapting intentionally?

Flexibility is powerful.
Over-consumption isn’t.

Structure keeps you anchored.
Flexibility keeps you human.

You don’t need to be rigid.

You don’t need to abandon your goals.

You need clarity.

Know your priorities.
Adjust when necessary.
Drop the guilt.

Then enjoy the experience fully.

If you know someone who struggles to balance goals and life, send this to them.