In this episode, Johnny Lawrence explores the emotional challenges that come with making behaviour changes, especially during the New Year when many people set resolutions. He discusses the common difficulty of staying motivated after the initial excitement wears off.

Johnny emphasises that the main obstacle to change often isn’t a lack of knowledge about what to do, but rather the emotional responses that arise when trying to alter habits. Drawing on his experience as a personal trainer, he highlights the importance of being emotionally aware and tolerant. He argues that many individuals revert to old behaviours not out of weakness, but as a way to cope with uncomfortable feelings.

Takeaways

👉 Change isn't hard because you don't know what to do.

👉 We avoid emotions, not habits.

👉 Emotional capacity is key to sustainable change.

👉 Change creates emotions that disrupt our nervous system.

👉 Self-sabotage is often a form of self-protection.

Website

www.johnnylawrence.co.uk

Johnny’s Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb

The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

The Self M.A.D.E. Course

https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course

The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audit

https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeau

In this deeply personal episode, Johnny Lawrence reflects on his experience with grief following the death of his father. He explores the complexities of emotions that arise from losing an abusive parent, including sadness, relief, anger, and emotional numbness.

Johnny emphasises the importance of being honest about one's feelings and acknowledges that grief can manifest in various ways, often conflicting. He shares insights on healing, forgiveness, and the necessity of creating one's own closure, while also recognising the unique challenges that come with grieving a complicated relationship.

Takeaways

👉 It's important to acknowledge coexisting emotions during grief.

👉 Healing doesn't always require forgiveness.

👉 Closure is something you create for yourself.

👉 You can grieve what never was, not just the person.

👉 Emotional honesty is crucial in processing grief.

👉 Conflicting emotions can coexist without negating each other.

👉 Rituals can help in finding closure and marking loss.

👉 Your grief doesn't have to look like anyone else's.

Website

www.johnnylawrence.co.uk

Johnny’s Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb

The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

The Self M.A.D.E. Course

https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course

The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audit

https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit

In this episode of the Johnny Lawrence Podcast, Johnny Lawrence discusses the everyday struggle with New Year's resolutions and the myth of willpower as a strategy for change. He emphasises that willpower is a finite resource and often fails when we need it most.

Instead, he advocates for a focus on environmental design, identity alignment, and small, repeatable systems to foster sustainable change. The conversation also touches on the emotional aspects of change and the importance of understanding one's identity in the process of personal growth.

Johnny concludes with practical strategies for listeners to implement in their own lives, encouraging them to design their environments to support their desired behaviours.

Takeaways

👉 New Year's resolutions often set us up for failure.

👉 Willpower is not a sustainable strategy for change.

👉 Our environment significantly influences our behaviour.

👉 Identity plays a crucial role in behaviour change.

👉 Small, repeatable actions lead to lasting change.

👉 Emotional sensitivity affects our ability to change.

👉 Designing our environment can make positive behaviours easier.

👉 Success often comes from consistency, not intensity.

👉 Understanding our emotions is key to personal growth.

👉 The self-made course can guide you in aligning with your true self.

Website

www.johnnylawrence.co.uk

Johnny’s Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=en-gb

The Slavey of Addiction Documentary

https://youtu.be/8j3Nq_lcFlY?si=6I0kXppX9prFFoin

The Self M.A.D.E. Course

https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/course

The Self M.A.D.E. Life Audit

https://www.johnnylawrence.co.uk/self-made-lifeaudit