Why do you keep overthinking decisions when you already know what to do?

In this episode I break down why overthinking isn't a clarity problem, it's a self-trust problem - and what you're actually avoiding.

What you'll learn:

Why you say "I don't know" (and what it really means)

The hidden reason you stay stuck in indecision

How overthinking protects you from uncomfortable truth

The identity shift that changes everything

One simple question to stop overthinking immediately

Key moment from the episode:

"You don't say 'I don't know' because you're confused. You say it because the truth would cost you something."

If you're ready to stop overthinking and actually move forward, this is exactly what we do inside The Breakthrough.

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Darshana Avila left her corporate career and her marriage, and stepped into a life of erotic wholeness.

Now she's a Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop with Gwyneth Paltrow - and she's here to talk about what most of us are too afraid to ask for.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Knowing what you want (in sex and in life) and actually asking for it: Why high-achieving women can run companies but can't speak their desires in bed.
• The identity crisis that led to liberation: How Darshana walked away from everything that wasn't aligned - and what happened next.
• Her experience on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop: Working with a lesbian couple to help them understand what they want, need, and hw to speak it out loud.
• Erotic wholeness as a path to power: How reclaiing pleasure is an act of rebellion (and sovereignty)
• People-pleasing in the bedroom (and eveywhere else): Why saying yes when you mean no kills intimacy, and how to stop.

This conversation is raw, real and permission-giving. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, your desires, or your power, this one's for you.

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I unpack the Queen Code (my brand new methodology), share the mythic framework behind the Sovereign Woman, and invite you inside the symbolic castle that holds it all.

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