Episodes

  • The Joy of Sexual Celibacy

    The Joy of Sexual Celibacy
    Jul 8 2024

    Vantage and Hashim have spoken a lot about the pitfalls of out-of-control purity culture in the church.


    Now we talk about what we love about the sexual purity the Bible calls to, and the impact it had on our lives.
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    27 mins
  • Ep 003: Top 10 Sex Commandments (from side hugs to the Billy Graham Rule)

    Ep 003: Top 10 Sex Commandments (from side hugs to the Billy Graham Rule)
    Nov 30 2022

    Vantage and Hashim count down the top purity culture rules you can find in Christian churches. They discuss bans on R-Rated music, being alone with a woman who's not your wife, dating outside your denomination, and more.

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    35 mins
  • Ep 002: Sexual Purity without the Weird Rules

    Ep 002: Sexual Purity without the Weird Rules
    Nov 21 2022
    How can we live out the sexual purity Jesus calls us to without forcing purity culture rules on each other? Hashim and Vantage explore what they call "Grace Culture" and the scriptures that form the foundation for how God wants us to grow in love and holiness through grace. This includes Colossians 2:20-23, Titus 2:11-14, Romans 2:1-4.
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    13 mins
  • Ep 001: The 3 Pillars of Purity Culture

    Ep 001: The 3 Pillars of Purity Culture
    Nov 13 2022
    Which 3 scriptures do Christians stretch and mishandle to promote purity culture? In this episode Vantage and Hashim discuss what the Bible says about sexual purity how that has been twisted into the justification for purity culture. We discuss the difference between using sexual purity to foster love and freedom, and using it to control others. Timestamps 1:53 Pillar 1: "Not Even a Hint" from Ephesians 5 4:00 Pillar 2: "Gouge out Your Eye" from Matthew 5 15:05 Pillar 3: "Absolute Purity" from 1Timothy 5
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    20 mins
  • Episode 000: Purity Culture and Black Respectability

    Episode 000: Purity Culture and Black Respectability
    Nov 6 2022

    In this background episode of "It Gets Messy", Vantage and Hashim discuss their journey to faith, how it enabled their ascent into the Black Middle Class, and how that informed their embrace and rejection of church purity culture.


    Read more at messyforjesus.com
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    15 mins