Do you finally hit a big goal — the weight, the revenue, the degree, the dream house — and instead of celebrating, your brain whispers, “Okay, but now you need…”?

If that just made you sigh, this episode is for you.

Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Lexie Loman, licensed therapist, and today we’re diving into the third gremlin in our Gremlins & Goats series: Never Enough Nancy.

Nancy is the shame gremlin who convinces you that peace, contentment, confidence, and worth are always just one more achievement away. Every time you check the box (lose the 10 pounds, get the certification, find the partner), she quietly raises the bar higher — leaving you stuck in an endless cycle of “never enough.”

In this episode, we explore:

• How Never Enough Nancy shows up in everyday life (deflecting compliments, skipping celebrations, feeling “basic” after big purchases, and more)
• Why chasing the next goal will never fill the internal hole
• The simple, powerful Gremlins & Goats practice: Bleat “Shaaa-ame!” then drop one big truth bomb to starve the gremlin and feed your peace
• My personal story of battling Nancy through college, grad school, certifications, and material milestones — until I finally learned I was enough exactly as I was

You don’t have to stop growing — you just get to stop growing from lack.

Practicing this builds more peace and gratitude than years of chasing ever will. Good enough is feast for your goat.

Ready to quiet Nancy today?
👉 Take the FREE Gremlins & Goats Quiz for a 7-day email sequence to start starving shame: https://lighthouseokc.com
👉 Grab the full $57 Gremlins & Goats Mini-Course (PDF book + audiobook + workbook + videos + bonuses): https://lighthouseokc.com

Next episode: We meet Broken Bobby and learn how to prove every day that nothing is fundamentally wrong with you.

Thanks for thinking out loud with me — here’s to leading a life you love.

#NeverEnoughSyndrome #InnerCritic #PerfectionismRecovery #PeoplePleaser #ShameResilience #GremlinsAndGoats #HighAchievingWomen #SelfWorth #MentalHealthPodcast

Have you ever swallowed your tears at a funeral because crying "too hard" would make you a burden?
Ever smiled and said "I'm fine" when everything inside was screaming?
Or apologized—for crying in therapy—to your own therapist?

If any of that hit home, this episode is for you.

Meet Too Much Tina—the inner shame gremlin that hands you a dimmer switch and whispers, "Turn it down or they'll leave." She convinces us that strong emotions make us weak, needy, or "too much," so we hide our feelings, refuse help, and carry everything alone.

In this powerful episode of Thinking Out Loud, licensed therapist Lexie Loman shares her own journey with Too Much Tina and reveals the simple mindfulness tool (born from a hilarious goat moment in a Colorado pizza shop 🐐) that helps you call out shame in real time.

You'll discover:
• Why suppressing emotions actually makes them last longer
• How to feel big feelings without judging yourself
• The surprising practice that builds more emotional stability than "being strong" ever could
• Permission to cry louder, ask for help, and take up space

It's time to stop dimming your light. You're not too much—you're human. And humans feel.

Take the FREE Gremlins & Goats Quiz to identify your loudest shame gremlin and get a 7-day email sequence to start starving it today: lighthouseokc.com/quiz

Listen now and step into the full, unapologetic human experience you've been craving.

#ShameResilience #PeoplePleaser #EmotionalHealing #TooMuch #TherapyInsights #MentalHealthPodcast #GremlinsAndGoats

Ever lay awake at 3 a.m. convinced that any day now everyone is going to finally figure out you have no idea what you’re doing?
That tomorrow someone will expose you as the fraud you secretly believe you are?

If that voice just whispered “yep, that’s me”… this episode is for you.

I’m Lexie Loman, licensed therapist, and several years ago I was having the exact same imposter-syndrome conversation with client… after client… after client.
Then I realized I was saying the same things to myself every single day — even after the master’s degree, the license, the private practice, and the glowing testimonials.

Enter Imposter Irving: the shame gremlin in the tiny detective hat who screams “Who do you think you are?” on repeat.

In this episode you’ll discover:

• Why the higher you climb, the louder the fraud alarm gets
• The 4 everyday moments that prove Irving is running your life
• My ridiculously effective (and hilarious) mindfulness tool: the GOAT
• How to bleat “Shaaa-ame!” out loud and watch shame melt in seconds
• The truth bombs that actually make the voice go from scream to whisper

Plus I’ll walk you through the exact exercise I use with clients so you can try it right now (yes, even in the car… people might stare, but it works).

If you’re a high-achiever who looks unstoppable on the outside but feels empty and terrified on the inside — you are not alone, and it does NOT have to stay this way.

You are already enough.
Let’s make your goat louder than Irving today.

Free quiz: Which gremlin is loudest for you right now + my 7-day plan to starve him → https://lighthouseokc.com/quiz

Gremlins & Goats full book + workbook + meditations → https://lighthouseokc.com/gremlins-and-goats

Next episode: we meet “Too Much Tina” (she’s coming for your boundaries).

Hit subscribe so you don’t miss it. 🐐

You know that one thing you keep pushing to “later” — the conversation, the email, the decision — because doing it feels heavy?
That’s your toad.

High achievers, perfectionists, and chronic people-pleasers are especially good at avoiding the exact tasks that would free them.
We save the hardest thing for “when we have energy” (spoiler: that time never comes).

In this episode, licensed therapist Lexie Loman shares the simple, science-backed habit that finally broke her own cycle of avoidance — even while running a therapy practice, raising a family, and building a business.

You’ll discover:

• Why avoidance is the #1 hidden productivity killer for high achievers
• The “eat the toad first” method that creates instant momentum before 9 a.m.
• How to pair hard tasks with dopamine so you actually finish them
• The mindset shift from “I’ll rest when everything is perfect” to “Good enough is a feast”

Stop letting toads run your life.
Start building momentum that lasts.

What if the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow isn’t more money, a perfect partner, or a bigger stage… but finally choosing YOU?

In this raw, vulnerable episode, Lexie shares the rock-bottom moment that changed everything: living her childhood dream on international stages while sobbing alone in casino parking lots at 2 a.m.

You’ll hear:

• The real story behind the boxes she checked (degrees, private practice, marriage, sold-out shows) and why none of them stopped the tears
• The Pinterest sigil that became her first daily “yes” to herself
• The original song she wrote while still in the storm (“I see a rainbow through the clouded sky…”) – performed live on the episode
• The one question that ended years of people-pleasing and self-abandonment
• How neuroplasticity + tiny, consistent choices rebuilt her self-worth from the ground up

Close your eyes and ask yourself:
“What would my life look like if I stopped abandoning myself?”

That life isn’t fantasy.
It’s your future — if you start today.

Ready for your first step? Grab the completely free 5-Day Uncover You Challenge (the exact process that started Lexie’s rainbow) → comment UNCOVER on any social post or tap the link in show notes.

Your pot of gold is waiting… and it’s you finally coming home to yourself.

#FindYourGold #StopAbandoningYourself #ThinkingOutLoudPodcast