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Together

Together

Written by: Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren
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 A conscious relationship podcast for couples and individuals exploring intimacy, somatic healing, sacred love, and conscious parenting. Hosted by Somatic Therapist & Mystic, Courtney Wren and Relationship Coach, Mike Elliott, Together blends real-life vulnerability with expert tools for growth, connection, and devotion. Deepen trust, navigate parenting, and experience the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren Relationships Social Sciences
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  • Loving vs Fixing: The Fine Line That Breaks Relationships

    Loving vs Fixing: The Fine Line That Breaks Relationships
    Jan 22 2026

    Do you find yourself constantly trying to help, coach, or fix your partner — and still feeling disconnected, resentful, or exhausted?In this powerful episode of the Together Podcast, Mike & Courtney explore the subtle but destructive line between loving someone and trying to fix them. While fixing often looks like care, support, or problem-solving, it frequently masks anxiety, control, and an avoidance of our own inner work — and it quietly erodes intimacy, polarity, and trust.

    Drawing from deeply personal stories from their past relationships and their current marriage, Mike & Courtney unpack the fixer–fixee dynamic, why it’s so common among helpers, coaches, and healers, and how it creates codependence rather than connection. They introduce practical frameworks like the sticky note theory, the Go First principle, and their sacred no-coaching rule — tools that help couples move out of resentment and back into true partnership.


    ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why fixing feels helpful but damages intimacy

    • The hidden anxiety underneath the fixer role

    • How fixing kills polarity and desire

    • The difference between reflection, vulnerability, and fixing

    • How to reclaim your own seat in relationship

    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

    01:07 The Fixer Dynamic in Relationships

    03:06 Personal Stories of Fixing

    07:10 Realizations and Shifts

    12:44 The Sticky Note Theory

    14:02 Mike's Experience with Fixing

    18:25 The Impact of Fixing on Relationships

    26:13 Personal Growth and Responsibility

    29:09 Discovering Self in Relationships

    30:30 Embodying Your Desires

    32:50 The Sacred We: A Partnership Approach

    33:57 The Mirror of Relationships

    35:53 Navigating Fixer Tendencies

    38:48 Setting Boundaries and Seeking Support

    41:54 The Power of Vulnerability

    44:19 Rules for Healthy Relationships

    46:30 Trusting the Process

    51:15 Final Thoughts and Call to Action


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    💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples

    Work with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching

    Work with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth

    📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast

    🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist

    💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist

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    Email:

    ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠

    ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠

    Website:

    ⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠

    www.sacredrelaring.com

    www.courtneywren.com

    Instagram:

    @MikeElliott.Relating

    @courtneywren.sacredrelating

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    53 mins
  • Parenting the Nervous System: The Regulation Myth That May Surprise You

    Parenting the Nervous System: The Regulation Myth That May Surprise You
    Jan 19 2026
    If you’ve been trying to “calm” your child in the name of nervous system regulation, this episode may completely change how you parent.In today’s parenting culture, regulation is often mistaken for calmness — but true nervous system regulation has nothing to do with suppressing energy, emotions, or vitality. In this powerful solo episode, Courtney Wren unpacks the biggest myth in nervous-system–aware parenting and explains what real regulation actually looks like in children and parents.Drawing from her background in somatic therapy, trauma healing, and lived experience as a mother, Courtney explains how children naturally move through cycles of high energy, rest, emotion, and activation — and why labeling active children as “dysregulated” often reflects the parent’s nervous system, not the child’s. She introduces two core nervous system types (often misunderstood in parenting), explains how generational trauma shaped our ideas of “good behavior,” and offers practical tools for tracking regulation accurately.✨ In this episode:Why regulation does not equal calm Parenting the Nervous System Th…The difference between vitality and dysregulation Parenting the Nervous System Th…The two primary nervous system types in children Parenting the Nervous System Th…How parents project their own overwhelm onto kids Parenting the Nervous System Th…Why this generation of children has more life force Parenting the Nervous System Th…Practical bedtime tools that actually work Parenting the Nervous System Th…Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:59 Understanding the Nervous System01:30 Parenting with a Regulated Nervous System06:39 The Myth of Regulation Equals Calm08:59 Stages of Nervous System Healing10:43 Defining True Regulation15:49 Recognizing Dysregulation in Children20:22 Types of Nervous Systems: Hummingbirds and Whales24:53 Parenting Different Nervous System Types28:41 Recognizing Whale Children's Needs29:52 Engaging Whale Children31:46 Understanding Hummingbird Children35:30 Parenting Strategies for Different Children39:11 The Impact of Ancestral Trauma48:27 Bedtime Tips for Whale and Hummingbird Children🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout🌱 Living The Sacred We Online Offer for Couples → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTShttps://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    55 mins
  • Our Story of Polarity: A Day in the Life Look at Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies

    Our Story of Polarity: A Day in the Life Look at Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies
    Jan 8 2026

    If you want more passion, polarity, and “juiciness” in your relationship, this episode is a real behind-the-scenes look at how masculine and feminine energies actually work in daily life.

    Many couples lose sexual charge not because something is “wrong,” but because their connection becomes neutralized over time. When the masculine and feminine poles aren’t consciously tended, relationships can start to feel stale, flat, or disconnected even when you’re doing all the “right” things.

    In this episode of the Together Podcast, Mike & Courtney unpack masculine essence and feminine essence (Shiva and Shakti), how to discover your authentic balance on the spectrum, and how to consciously choose polarity so intimacy stays alive.

    They share a personal story from their holiday season, how sickness and “mission mode” shifted their dynamic, and the exact moment they restored connection by flipping the polarity with presence, emotional truth, and nervous-system safety.


    ✨ In this episode:

    • What masculine & feminine energy really means (beyond gender)

    • How to find your authentic balance (not your coping strategy)

    • Why things get “stale” and how to bring the charge back

    • Shiva/Shakti, banks/river, bowl/water: simple metaphors that click

    • The #1 thing that kills polarity (and how to avoid it)

    📍 Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to The Together Podcast

    00:51 Understanding Polarity: Masculine and Feminine Energies

    03:13 Personal Stories: Navigating Polarity in Daily Life

    07:31 Reconnecting Through Vulnerability

    22:43 Defining Masculine and Feminine Essence

    30:37 Creative Chaos in the Kitchen

    31:23 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Rhythms

    32:39 Exploring Gender and Essence

    36:07 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies

    40:05 Conscious Polarity in Relationships

    48:51 Practical Applications of Polarity

    54:52 The Number One Killer of Polarity

    57:11 Free Offer and Final Thoughts


    🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout


    🌱 Living The Sacred We Online Offer for couples → https://www.sacredrelating.com/⁠

    💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples

    Work with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching

    Work with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth

    📺 Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast

    🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist

    💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist


    Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏

    ⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠


    Email:

    ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠

    ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠


    Website:

    ⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠

    www.sacredrelaring.com

    www.courtneywren.com


    Instagram:

    @MikeElliott.Relating

    @courtneywren.sacredrelating


    MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS

    https://mindfulmeds.io/


    THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠

    Promo Code: Together15
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    1 hr and 1 min
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