Dating coaches are using your vulnerabilities to make you subconsciously absorb harmful dating advice. We've all been left hurt at some point while dating, but if dating advice is supposed to make dating easier, why are people lonelier and struggling more than ever in the current dating market?

In today's episode I discuss how trying to minimize your dating pain can start with genuine advice but slowly lead you toward a harmful and transactional way of viewing relationships, how this can create a dangerous cycle with the manosphere, and what we can do instead.

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⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS

00:00 why dating advice turns toxic

01:07 how pain shapes dating beliefs

03:28 when good advice turns harmful

05:27 “you are the prize”

06:14 the ego band-aid

08:53 turning off your emotions

10:17 when dating becomes transactional

11:14 from transaction to resentment

12:28 the manosphere disclaimer

13:30 how the manosphere pulls you in

14:27 the “sigma male” ego band-aid

15:39 emotional numbness to transaction

17:00 how both sides fuel each other

18:44 handling rejection without losing yourself

19:35 you are not the prize

20:41 how to deal with dating pain

21:42 comment your perspective

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Is social media helping you gain more knowledge, or just making you reliant on someone else's thoughts? In this episode, we explore why consuming intelligent, nuanced content on platforms like Substack doesn’t necessarily make us independent thinkers, and how easily we can absorb someone else’s worldview without realizing it. We’ll unpack the psychology behind influence, the difference between gaining knowledge and forming your own perspective, and four ways to become a more critical, independent thinker online💚⸻⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS00:00 is substack helping us grow or making us reliant01:22 the illusion of being an intellectual03:13 why knowing more doesn’t make you a stronger thinker04:05 how social media subconsciously changes what you believe05:45 illusory truth effect: why repetition makes ideas feel true07:09 how to learn from others without outsourcing your thinking08:52 4 ways to become a more independent thinker11:42 when you stop thinking for yourself13:22 intelligence is not a performance⸻📌 FOLLOW MELinktree → linktr.ee/touchinggrasspodInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thetouchinggrasspod?utm_source=qrTikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@thetouchinggrasspod?_r=1&_t=ZT-99NvTuP60WkSubstack → https://open.substack.com/pub/thetouchinggrasspod#criticalthinking #intellectualism #digitalculture #medialiteracy

What if you spent your whole life chasing success, only to realize you never actually wanted the life you built?

It’s easy to confuse money, luxury, social media aesthetics, and status with fulfillment. But what if the version of success you’re chasing was never actually yours?

In this episode, we’re talking about social media, lifestyle expectations, self-improvement, self-discovery, and the pressure to build a life that looks successful instead of one that actually feels good.

How do you figure out what you really want? And what happens if you achieve everything you thought you wanted, only to realize it doesn’t make you happy?

Let’s rethink what success, fulfillment, and a good life can actually look like.

⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS00:00 do i actually want the life I'm chasing?01:56 why does everyone want the same life?03:54 are we chasing success or status?05:39 what actually makes life fulfilling?07:32 redefine the way you see success09:06 what if you get everything you wanted?10:44 success on your own terms