In this episode of Traumatically Speaking, we talk about one of the most invalidating responses you can hear after sharing that you are no contact with your parents. “But they did their best.”

We unpack why that phrase minimizes real harm, shuts down honest conversation, and places the responsibility for healing back onto the child instead of where it belongs.

Through our own stories, we validate listeners who are tired of being told to forgive, understand, or minimize their experiences for the comfort of others.

We also offer very non professional advice from two traumatized twin sisters with microphones on how to remind yourself that someone’s “best” can still be harmful, and that it is okay to be angry about it.

This episode is for anyone learning that acknowledging what happened is not cruelty. It is clarity.

Want a chance to have your story shared on the pod? Email us: traumaticallyspeaking@gmail.com

Remember: Write it in a story format, bullet points don't flow, and send it in a .pdf if ya nasty.

ok love you bye,

Lex & Sloan

** We support and encourage therapy. If you are looking for a licensed therapist visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of suicide, murder, domestic violence, death of a parent, mental illness, and incest.

In this episode of Traumatically Speaking, we crack open the inbox and immediately regret nothing.

We read listener submitted trauma dumps featuring a wildly unhinged ex husband, a dad who is absolutely convinced the world is plotting against him, and a friend of a friend confession that made us pause the recording.

We process these stories the only way we know how, with empathy, dark humor, and the shared understanding that sometimes laughing is the least unhinged response available.

Listener discretion is strongly advised.

Buckle up Chaos Cousins it's gonna get wild.

Want a chance to share your story on the pod? Email us: traumaticallyspeaking@gmail.com

Remember: Write it in a story format, bullet points don't flow, and put it in a .pdf if ya nasty.

ok love you bye,

Lex & Sloan

** We support and encourage therapy. If you are looking for a licensed therapist visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.

In Happy Birthday, Mom, we share two listener stories about mama trauma, one that confirms moms cannot marry their sons and another about a daughter whose earliest bully lived at home. Then we tell our own stories. Sloan discusses blame, manipulation, and real consequences, while Lex explains her decision to go no contact on her own accord. This episode is not a tribute. It is honesty with a sense of humor.

Names have been changed or omitted for privacy.

Want a chance to have your story shared on the pod? Send it to traumaticallyspeaking@gmail.com

Don’t forget to write it in a story format and put it in a .pdf if ya nasty.

Also, wish “Donna” Happy Birthday in the comments! She will probably read every single one.

ok love you bye,

Sloan & Lex

** We support and encourage therapy. If you are looking for a licensed therapist visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

We are not here to heal you, just to keep you company between sessions.