I’m fine.”

It’s a phrase so many of us say without even thinking—but how often do we say it without really meaning it?

In this episode of the Twins Mummy NI Podcast, we explore the emotional reality of maternal mental health in motherhood with multiples, and the quiet struggles that often sit beneath the surface of those two words "I'm fine."

From overwhelm and isolation to intrusive thoughts, exhaustion, and survival mode, this episode gently opens up the realities so many mums are quietly carrying behind the scenes.

We’re joined by Consultant Perinatal Psychiatrist Dr Rebecca Moore and co-founder of Make Birth Better, to explore this important conversation in depth.

We discuss:

• Why so many mums say “I’m fine” when they’re not • The hidden loneliness of raising multiples • Survival mode, exhaustion, and emotional overload • Intrusive thoughts and anxiety in early motherhood • The impact of comparison, guilt, and isolation • How to recognise when you might need support—and how to access it

This episode gently challenges the idea that coping means you’re okay. From the outside, everything can look managed—but internally, many mums are carrying far more than anyone can see.

Most importantly, this conversation is a reminder that you are not alone, your experience is valid, and support is available.

If this episode resonates with you, please consider speaking to your GP, health visitor, or reaching out to organisations such as PANDAS, Bliss, or Tommy’s for support.

Disclaimer: Please note: listener discretion is advised, as this discussion includes sensitive topics relating to maternal mental health.

Support Services (UK):

• PANDAS Foundation (perinatal/postnatal mental health support): 0808 1961 777
• Make Birth Better (support for birth trauma): hello@makebirthbetter.org
• Tommy’s Midwife Helpline (pregnancy and postnatal mental health): 0800 0147 800
• Samaritans (24/7 emotional support): 116 123
• BLISS UK Helpline (support for premature and sick babies): 0207 378 1122

For a long time, I quietly believed I was getting motherhood wrong.

Raising my twins never looked the way I thought it would. It felt more structured… more intense… more about managing than simply being present.

And with that came guilt.

Guilt about not giving enough one-on-one time. Guilt about the systems I had to put in place. Guilt about whether my children were missing out.

But over time, something shifted.

I began to understand that I wasn’t parenting one child — I was raising more than one little person at the exact same time.

And that changes everything.

In this episode, I discuss:

• The internal guilt many mums of multiples experience
• The comparison between singleton and multiples motherhood
• The “systems” we build to keep our children safe and cared for
• The emotional weight of being needed in two places at once

This is a gentle, honest conversation for any mum who has ever felt like it looks different for her.

Because it does.

And that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.

It means you’re doing something that requires more.

Welcome to the second episode of Multiples Mums Group Chat!

In this episode, we’re focusing on all things sleep. When you’re parenting multiples, this topic can feel challenging, so we brought in expert help.

We’re joined by sleep consultant Rosy Whitwell, who answers your questions and shares practical advice and reassuring guidance to help make sleep feel more manageable for you and your little ones.

Whether you’re navigating sleepless nights, or trying to establish routines, this episode is packed with helpful insights and realistic tips to support your family’s sleep journey.

Welcome to the very first episode of Multiples Mums Group Chat!

In our debut episode, we’re discussing all things potty training. When you’re parenting multiples, this stage can feel challenging, so we brought in expert help.

We’re joined by Louenna Hood, a renowned nanny and parenting expert, who answers the questions you sent in and shares practical advice, tips, and reassurance to help make potty training a little more manageable!

Whether you're just starting to think about potty training, currently in the thick of it, or planning ahead for your multiples, this episode is full of helpful insights and practical tips.

What does it really feel like to become a mum of multiples? In this heartfelt episode, Ellen and I reflect on our journeys of multiples motherhood. As two mums raising eight children between us, we share an honest and gentle conversation about: • The unexpected strength we discovered • The emotional weight of pregnancy and birth • NICU experiences • The beauty and complexity of raising multiples It’s an intimate glimpse into a life rarely seen, a conversation told with honesty and heart as we raise our multiples families right here in Northern Ireland. Whether you’re in the newborn haze, navigating toddlers, or simply reflecting on your own motherhood — we hope this conversation brings comfort and solidarity. Please note: This episode contains discussion of pregnancy, birth and NICU experiences which may be sensitive for some listeners

In this episode, Carla reflects on her experience of twin and singleton pregnancies. It’s an honest, emotional conversation about the journey to motherhood and learning that asking for help is a strength, not a failure.

Whether you’re navigating pregnancy, parenting, or simply finding your voice, this episode is for you.

This week, I’m talking about what it’s really like having a baby after having twins — the surprises, the challenges, the sweet moments I finally get to slow down for, and how the twins are handling their new “big sibling” era.

If you’ve been through it, are thinking about it, or just love a good parenting story, this one’s for you.

The magic, the mess, the memories — all wrapped up together and placed under the Christmas tree.

Christmas isn’t calm in our house—there are nappies under the tree and twins testing ornaments for durability. But between the chaos, there’s laughter and joy. Join us as mums of multiples from around the world as we share tips, laughter and funny stories from the frontlines of festive family life.

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