The last thing a man needs is more emotional control. At some point, we have to unlearn the managing skills and learn how to regulate through our experiences.

This is not another thing to “fix”. Emotional regulation a natural flow of being that we get disconnected from during childhood, then spend a lifetime trying to manage, suppress or numb from.

For many, the idea of being "emotionally regulated" is a complete mystery in practice. In this episode we attempt to simplify your understanding through the lens of nervous system physiology in the most practical way possible.

Listen to PART 2 afterwards for guided somatic experiences to help enhance your understanding of how to regulate through emotional arousal in your nervous system.

In This Episode You'll learn:

- A simple guided practice for nervous system regulation

- Why certain emotions are off-limits for men

- How to find and stop your energy leaks

- The ways you perpetuate your dysregulated nervous system

- The difference between "regulation" and "control"

- Where your dysregulation started in the first place

- Whether repair is possible (or if it's too late)

- The simplest way to find regulation, no matter where you are

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MECHANISMS OF MASCULINITY: 6-WEEK LIVE PROGRAM (OCTOBER 2026) https://momence.com/l/8MhqyPKV

FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence

SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-integration-therapy-calgary

RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session

Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute

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https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/

For upcoming men's groups: guideonalog@gmail.com

In order to define what society labels as "toxic masculinity," we must explore what it means for to show up as a healthy and integrated man.

This short conversation is ultimately an invitation to get curious about how masculinity, or the absence of it, was modelled for you.

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FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence

SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-integration-therapy-calgary

RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session

Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute

Connect with Kirill:

https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/

For upcoming men's groups: guideonalog@gmail.com

If you learned this one specific skill, about 80% of your miscommunications, ruptures and misattunements would just smooth out. Talking would feel safer, your relationships would be more harmonious, and you’d actually enjoy being with your partner more. No joke.

In this episode, we talk through a powerful shift. It's simple, but not necessarily easy. It doesn't come naturally for most men, and we'll talk about why.

Listen to the episode, then try it with your partner tonight. It’s weirdly hard at first, but totally doable with practice. If you want your partner to feel safe, important, and actually heard, this is a good place to start.

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Find a Spring https://findaspring.org/

FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence

RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session

SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-integration-therapy-calgary

Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute

Connect with Kirill:

https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/

If you’ve ever felt like you had to tough it out alone, this episode is for you. Two Guys Having a Conversation dives into why so many men suffer in silence: the cultural messages we absorb, the ways trauma gets trapped in the body, and how that all shows up as anxiety, isolation, or shame.

Aaron and Kirill talk real, practical stuff: how our modern, individualistic world pulls us away from the tribe we’re wired for, why control is often an illusion, and what true presence and grounding actually feel like.

They walk through how simple daily practices can begin to restore calm to a dysregulated nervous system.

There’s a gentle reminder here that healing isn’t about doing it alone: co-regulation, community, and asking for help (yes, really) are essential muscles to build. If you need a way back into connection, with yourself or other people, this episode gives compassionate, accessible steps and a short guided exercise to try right now.

It’s honest, warm, and practical, like a conversation you’d have with a trusted friend who gets it.

Give it a listen, try the somatic exercise at the end, and maybe reach out to someone. You might be surprised how many men are looking for the same thing.

MENTIONED IN THE SHOW

FREE RESET TOOL https://theauminstitute.com/reset-a-somatic-tool-for-effortless-presence

RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT SESSION https://www.theauminstitute.com/relationship-insight-session

SOMATIC INTEGRATION THERAPY https://www.theauminstitute.com/somatic-integration-therapy-calgary

Connect with Aaron: www.theauminstitute.com www.facebook.com/aaronpatrickrosso www.instagram.com/theauminstitute

Connect with Kirill:

https://www.instagram.com/guideonalog/