Arriving at post often comes with a rush of adjustment, learning, and emotional overload. Just as things begin to feel familiar, the posting shifts again and new challenges emerge. By the time the end approaches, uncertainty can return in a different form, bringing reflection, restlessness, and anticipation of what comes next.

In this episode, we complete our conversation on uncertainty and focus on how it shows up at every stage of a diplomatic posting from arrival, through the middle years, and toward departure.

In this episode, we explore:

- What uncertainty looks like when you first arrive at post and how to ground yourself during the initial adjustment phase

- How control and stability can feel different in the middle of a posting and the challenges that often arise once the novelty wears off

- Why the end of a posting can bring unexpected emotions including disconnection, pressure, and anticipatory grief

- Tools to support your wellbeing when circumstances shift and plans feel out of your hands

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One of the most challenging parts of diplomatic life is being asked to make life-shaping decisions long before you have the full picture. From bidding on posts to preparing for arrival, you’re often required to commit while so much still feels uncertain.

In this episode, we continue our conversation on uncertainty and focus on decision-making within the diplomatic posting cycle- even when information is incomplete.

In this episode, we explore:

• How to approach bidding on posts without overthinking every possible outcome
• Why getting clear on your needs, desires, and non-negotiables is more important than trying to predict the future
• What to consider when thinking about your day-to-day life, not just the headline of a posting
• What shifts once you’ve been offered a post and how to move into deeper research with clarity and curiosity
• Why you are always allowed to change your mind and how reclaiming that choice can help you feel empowered and in control

This episode is about making grounded, values-led decisions throughout the posting process, trusting yourself through uncertainty, and remembering that agency and flexibility can coexist in diplomatic life.

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Uncertainty is one of the hardest, and most invisible, parts of this lifestyle. Not knowing if a move will happen, when it will happen, or having plans change at the last minute can leave you feeling stuck in limbo, unable to fully move forward or settle where you are.

In this episode, we talk honestly about what it means to live in the “waiting room” of diplomatic life. That in-between space where decisions aren’t yours to make, timelines keep shifting, and your nervous system is constantly on alert.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why uncertainty feels so destabilising and emotionally draining
• What happens when plans change at the last minute and how to emotionally recover
• Practical tools to help you cope with uncertainty, ground yourself in the present, and reclaim a sense of agency, even when nothing feels certain

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As the year closes, it’s tempting to jump straight into what’s next. But before we move forward, there’s so much value in pausing to honour the growth, challenges, and the victories that shaped your year.

In this episode, we reflect on three powerful questions:

✨ What are you proud of this year?

✨ What are you grateful for this year?

✨ What did this year teach you?

We share our own reflections, honestly, unplanned and straight from the heart.

We would love for you to complete your own end-of-year check-in. This is your moment to acknowledge how far you’ve come and to step into a new year with a big smile!

We’d love to hear your reflections. Truly—we’re your biggest cheerleaders. Share them with us using the contact information below.

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Some people seem to glow in this lifestyle, no matter the posting, the upheaval, or the uncertainty. Giulia is one of those people. With multiple relocations, drawdowns, representational roles, motherhood across continents, and an evolving career, she has not only navigated diplomatic life… she has thrived in it.

In this episode, we explore the “magic formula” behind how she does it:

- How Giulia maintained her sense of identity while supporting a partner’s career

- How she navigates raising children across borders.

- The boundaries and daily practices, rituals, and choices that keep her grounded, confident, and connected

-AND most importantly what her one magic ingredient is to thrive in this lifestyle

This episode is a warm, honest look into what it really takes to flourish as a diplomatic spouse.

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Moving to a new country can make you feel like you’ve been dropped into someone else’s life overnight. In those early months, everything is unfamiliar and yet, one of the biggest determinants of your wellbeing is also the hardest to prioritise: friendship.

As adults, making friends isn’t effortless anymore. It takes energy, vulnerability and timing. And when you’re settling into a new posting, it can feel both essential and overwhelming.

In this episode, we explore:

-Why adult friendships feel harder to build — especially when your identity is in transition

-The role of community in grounding you emotionally during those first few months abroad

-Why finding “your people” matters for your sense of belonging, confidence, and stability

-What stops us from prioritising friendships even when we’re craving connection

-How to build friendships that feel genuine, supportive, and long-lasting.

This episode is an honest look at the emotional reality of starting over and a guide to finding the people who make your new country feel like a life, not just a location.

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One of the hardest parts of diplomatic life is the distance it creates - not just from places, but from people. As you move from posting to posting, the friendships and family ties that once felt effortless suddenly require intention, creativity, and emotional resilience.

In this episode, we explore:

- Why communication patterns shift when you move abroad and how to adapt with compassion

- How to nurture the friendships that mean the most—without pressure or guilt

- What to do when you can’t make every wedding, birthday, or family event

This is all about giving yourself grace and compassion and just knowing that you're doing the best you possibly can.

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In diplomatic life, there’s often a third presence in every relationship - the job. It doesn’t clock out at 5 p.m., it joins you at dinner, shapes your weekends, and sometimes even decides your plans for you. From last-minute crises to work dinners and representational housing, the boundaries between personal and professional life can blur until they almost disappear.

In this episode, we explore:

• How to navigate the constant presence of your partner’s work in your relationship
• What to do when official duties clash with personal plans
• How to manage feelings of frustration, disappointment, or invisibility
• Practical ways to set boundaries, communicate needs, and reconnect as a couple outside of the job
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This is about learning to live with it in a way that honours both partners, keeps connection alive, and protects your relationship from becoming a posting casualty.

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