Divorce is one of those decisions people expect you to explain carefully — preferably once you’ve already figured everything out and no one feels uncomfortable.

In this episode, Lisa Happ and Jolee Vacchi, hosts of the Divorce Detox podcast, talk about what actually keeps people stuck — especially in relationships that are unhealthy, controlling, or quietly exhausting — and why waiting for permission often just means staying longer than you planned.

They get into the parts of divorce that rarely make it into polite conversation: the emotional fog, the financial fear, the repeated attempts to “make it work,” and the slow realization that your partner is unlikely to change this time either.

This conversation isn’t about telling anyone what to do. It’s about naming why the decision itself feels so loaded — and why starting with one small step is often more realistic than waiting for certainty.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Why people feel like they need permission to get divorced
• The difference between trying again and staying stuck
• Narcissistic and coercive dynamics — and why “working on it” often doesn’t work
• The emotional and financial fear that keeps decisions on hold
• Why divorce parties are a thing — and what they’re actually celebrating
• How Lisa and Jolee work with clients one step at a time

Listener Takeaways

• Divorce doesn’t require consensus
• Staying is still a decision — even when it’s framed as patience
• Wanting out doesn’t mean you did something wrong
• You don’t have to know every step to take the first one

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BONUS: Lisa, Jolee, and I created a Divorce Detox Anthem playlist on Spotify for your divorce party or morning pick me up!

What if the reason you’re moving in silence isn’t strategy — but fear?

Before she was a software engineer with a large following on TikTok, Jovonne Cameron (@jovitalkstech) was quietly living a double life.

She told her friends and community she was going back to school for an advanced degree in English.

In reality, she was enrolled in a coding bootcamp — financing a major career pivot in silence.

This episode is about imposter syndrome, money, cultural conditioning, and the fear that if you say something too soon, someone will tell you it’s unrealistic. The conversation moves beyond career transition into the emotional and financial realities of becoming someone new before you feel ready to defend it.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Why imposter syndrome convinces us to keep our plans private
• The cultural lesson of “fail in private” — and its unintended consequences
• Financing a career pivot: bootcamps, scholarships, and calculated risk
• When success changes the dynamics of friendships
• The difference between being good at something and being fulfilled by it

Listener Takeaways

• Moving in silence can protect focus — but it can also limit support
• Investing in yourself often feels scary and strategic at the same time
• You don’t need certainty to start — you need enough conviction to continue
• Outgrowing people doesn’t mean you betrayed them

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What happens when the family you want doesn’t come with society’s approval?

At 41, Connie Rutherford made a decision that came with strong opinions: becoming a single mother by choice through a sperm donor.

What followed wasn’t just a fertility journey — it was a collision of family expectations, cultural beliefs, medical decisions, and the quieter question many people carry longer than they admit: Can I do this without a partner — and still be okay?

In this episode of Unpopular Decisions, Connie reflects on moving forward before she had proof it would all work out. She shares what it meant to navigate IVF, family resistance, and why her only regret is not doing it sooner.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Being told she was “robbing her children of a father” — and what reconciliation actually looked like
• IVF, embryo decisions, and trusting instinct when the data isn’t definitive
• The financial and emotional cost of choosing motherhood on your own terms
• Why doing something “alone” still requires a village
• The moment she realized waiting wasn’t making the decision easier — just louder

Listener Takeaways

• Approval often shows up after the decision, not before
• Medical expertise matters — but so does self-trust
• Waiting for certainty can be its own kind of risk
• Asking for help is not weakness — it’s wisdom
• There’s no universal timeline for motherhood, healing, or partnership

✨ Read more about Connie's journey in her memoir, Searching for Tadpoles: The Journey to Motherhood of a Single Mother by Choice

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Most people don’t avoid hard decisions because they’re irresponsible.

They avoid them because they don’t want to be wrong out loud.

In this solo episode, Jameelah shares the decision that sparked Unpopular Decisions: leaving a job that looked fine on the outside — without another one lined up — after a line from Abbott Elementary reframed how she thought about fear.

“For me, regrets have always been harder to live with than consequences.”

That sentence changed the question from, "What if this doesn’t work?" to "What can’t I live with?"

This episode isn’t about bravery or career advice. It’s about the part of decision-making most people hide — the uncertainty, the second-guessing, and the pressure to wait until you have a clean story before saying anything at all.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Why high achievers often fear judgment more than regret
• Leaving a job that looks “responsible” but feels unsustainable
• The pressure to present a clear path before you’ve lived it
• How hiding the messy middle leads to disconnection
• Why Unpopular Decisions focuses on the moment before the outcome

Listener Takeaways

• Regret and consequences aren’t the same — we’re often taught to fear the wrong one
• Waiting for certainty doesn’t make decisions easier, just quieter
• You don’t need a perfect plan to make an honest choice
• The messy middle isn’t a failure — it’s the point

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The hardest decisions in life aren’t made in boardrooms.

They’re made in kitchens. In doctors’ offices. At 2 a.m.

Unpopular Decisions is a podcast about those moments — the ones that don’t come with instructions, only opinions.

Hosted by Jameelah Calhoun, the show features candid conversations with leaders, creators, and everyday people who chose differently — and lived with what came next.

This isn’t a success podcast.

It’s a human one.

From walking away from lives that look “successful” on paper, to redefining family, career, identity, and belonging, Unpopular Decisions sits with the tension that shows up before things make sense — when courage collides with conformity and everyone suddenly has advice.

If you’re carrying a decision that isn’t obvious, isn’t popular, or doesn’t come with a neat explanation — pull up a chair.

Real people. Bold choices. Big transformation.

What You’ll Hear On Unpopular Decisions

• Real stories about choosing authenticity over approval
• The moment before the outcome is clear
• The emotional, cultural, and relational fallout of choosing differently
• What courage looks like when confidence hasn’t caught up yet

Why This Exists

• We live in a performance-obsessed culture that rewards certainty, polish, and clean narratives.
• This show is for people who didn’t get that memo — or ignored it anyway.
• Because courage doesn’t usually look impressive in real time.
• And because choosing yourself often costs approval first.

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