In this episode, Rachel engages in a heartfelt conversation with therapist and coach Blair Pfeiffer, who shares her deeply personal journey of navigating childhood differences, a violent relationship, and the complexities of unexpected motherhood through open adoption. Blair reflects on her late diagnosis of ADHD in her late 30s, coinciding with the onset of perimenopause, which brought clarity to her past struggles and experiences. KEY TAKEAWAYS Validation Through Diagnosis: Receiving a late diagnosis of ADHD in her late 30s provided a sense of validation and clarity, helping to explain lifelong struggles and experiences that had previously felt isolating and confusing. Importance of Supportive Relationships: Building strong friendships and support systems was crucial during challenging times, such as navigating a violent relationship and an unexpected pregnancy. Therapeutic Fit Matters: Finding the right therapist is essential for effective therapy. It's important to keep searching until a good match is found, as the therapeutic relationship can significantly impact healing and personal development. Empowerment Through Vulnerability: Sharing personal experiences in therapy can foster deeper connections and understanding between the therapist and client, allowing for more effective communication and healing. Navigating Life Changes: Major life events, such as pregnancy and the transition into perimenopause, can be overwhelming but also provide opportunities for growth and self-discovery, especially when supported by understanding and compassionate individuals. BEST MOMENTS "I was a shell of myself. I really wasn't fully who I was... I was severely depressed and I had PTSD." "I always knew I had ADHD... but never got treated for it, never got medicated for it." "I didn't want her to have to struggle because I was struggling. I wanted her to have a fulfilling life." "If at any point this isn't a good fit, you let me know." "I was like, I could help people. I'm going to go back to school. I'm going to become a therapist." TO CONNECT WITH BLAIR https://www.instagram.com/blairpfeiffercoaching/ To connect with your host, follow Me HERE: Insta: https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em Email: rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech To Buy Rachel a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/ HOST BIO Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.
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