Most couples wait too long to pay attention to their relationship. (Average is 6 years
– that’s too long)

Every relationship ends, it’s up to us to renew it again and again. Love can be taken for granted. We need to recognize our drifts and maybe even the ends of our relationships and where there are new beginnings, most often with the same person.

Karla and Richard share their timeline and phases. They said yes to each other through the difficulties and discovered their new Wow in their new VOW. The Obies are hosting a 5 day 4 night retreat called the Relationship Reboot on the Isalns of Kauai! See link for details.

Retreat in Hawaii (Kauai) with the Obies

Karla and Richard share their go-to ways to access their personal peace in today's world. It begins with us and it becomes what we are in the world.

The Obies mentioned Karla's meditation app work. She is a Teacher on the world's best free meditation platform. Please click to download and follow Karla on the app Insight Timer.

Happy Mother's Day! Karla and Richard share some thoughts and memories that might land in a way that brings peace and connection in your significant relationship..

Finding new ways to pray always lights up my soul. It’s fun to try new ways of connecting to the Divine. Growing up in my Catholic faith, I was guided to consider “spiritual bouquets” as a gift to God and others. Spiritual bouquets are offered to express love, support and appreciation. I have come to learn other spiritual practices and use them in my spiritual bouquets.

The Lakota Prayer to the Four Directions is one such practice. In many native cultures across the North American continent, there is a unifying spiritual element that has been used for many years to bring wisdom and healing to the people, it is called the medicine wheel.

Nick Polizzi describes the medicine wheel is composed of four quadrants. Each direction North, East, South and West carries deep meaning. Each quadrant has its own color and spirit keeper. Envisioning both is part of the meditation. This healing prayer can be used for yourself or a loved one. As you imagine this person laying down, you can consider the four directions as a guide to the focus of your meditation. Their head is the north, East the left side, South their feet and West the right side.

Vera Dery has written a beautiful prayer to go with this meditation.

Karla and Richard share some encouragement and examples of connection on Valentine's day. Sometimes we fumble the effort of taking care of each other on special occasions, however we can keep on trying and be ready to start a new pattern of simply... Loving Each Other. A new play on the word LOVE will help us remember how to be better lovers!

Have you ever felt like your life is a little bit or a lot out of alignment? Do you wonder when there’s going to be some peace or a feeling of stability in your life? You just want things to calm down and be able to go to bed with less worry and sleep through the night? I think John McClane in the movie Die Hard summed it up quite well… Welcome to the party, Pal!

These off kilter times are a party we didn’t want to go to, yet we begrudgingly attend. We want to lose the invitation or say, “we have a conflict”, or “we have other plans”. No such luck... being uncomfortable and feeling like the world is plotting against is a short-term feeling for some and a long-term affliction for others. Most of us kind of settle in between these two polar extremes. When you are off axis, it is time to access the present moment. Karla and Richard share some thoughts on trusting the tilt, while managing what we can control in our lives.

A special thank you to the brave souls that reach out for help. We honor you! Thank you to those that we reach out to for help. We can't do this alone.

Even the smallest fish in the ocean takes water into its gill and changes this water into air for it to live. While there is some science as to how this actually works, the transformation of the water into air remains a mystery. We are invited to learn the secret of the gill, the secret of transforming what we go through into air. Karla and Richard share thoughts and stories of how music and connection through their lives has infused air into the most dire of situations and the most precious times in their lives. What will you discover about your gill?

A special shout out to Mark Nepo and his magical book: The Book of Awakening

How do you connect with each others spirit/essence/being? Karla and Richard explore ways of connection. We can connect in life-giving ways during the best and the most challenging of times. We can notice the energy and embrace it. The Obies struggle like everyone else. We lean into the energy and bring it into the light. What grows in the dark can not survive in the light.